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  • Hey everyone!

  • Welcome back to Lavendaire.

  • It's Aileen.

  • So good to see you again.

  • Today I want to share five habits that have changed my life.

  • I first saw MuchelleB and Erin May Henry do this, and I'll link their videos below.

  • But it inspired me to want to create a version myself.

  • So the first habit that changed my life is actually a mindset shift

  • that I learned from Marie Forleo, one of the women that I look up to.

  • So instead of having the mindset of "I already know this,"

  • switch that mindset to "What can I learn from this?"

  • So this applied to when I was taking Marie Forleo's course, B-School,

  • because when you're taking something like an online course

  • or you're in class or just anywhere in life,

  • sometimes we can have a mindset of,

  • "Oh, I don't need to learn this. I already know this.

  • I already know this. I've heard this before."

  • Once you have that mindset, then you kind of brush things off,

  • and you know, there might be some lesson in front of you,

  • whether it's in a course or in life that you don't know

  • and yet you're just brushing over it as if you already know everything.

  • I think you have to go through life acting as if you don't know everything

  • because then you have an open mind to learn.

  • So it's really an approach to being more curious, open-minded, and humble in life,

  • because instead of thinking you've already been there, done that, you already know everything,

  • consider: "What can I learn from this?"

  • So yes, maybe you've seen these lessons before,

  • but I'm sure there's something new that there is to be learned.

  • There's always something else that can be learned,

  • so instead of approaching school or life through the lens of "I already know this,"

  • approach it through the lens of "What can I learn from this?"

  • The second habit that changed my life is really obvious if you follow my channel.

  • It's journaling, specifically journaling to help me organize my thoughts

  • and to help me dig deep to discover what my true emotions, feelings, and thoughts are.

  • I'm one of those people that I don't really know what I'm thinking or feeling

  • until I take the time to sit down and write it all out.

  • I literally have to ask myself: What am I feeling?

  • What do I really want?

  • And then write it out, and then by the end of a long journal entry,

  • I'm like, "Oh, that's what's going on."

  • It's not really surface-level for me.

  • I really have to take the time to journal it out,

  • and journaling helps me break down things, organize my thoughts, analyze my thoughts.

  • And it's just something that is my own form of therapy.

  • And I think, because I tend to be more of an introvert,

  • that's my way to communicate with myself.

  • I like to work through my issues on my own,

  • just kind of hitting my emotions and situations

  • from all different angles and try to solve it myself.

  • On the other hand, people who are more extroverted probably like to talk things out with others

  • and that's how they discover more about their situation

  • or about themselves or work through their problems.

  • They need someone else to talk to.

  • For me, it's just me and my journal.

  • Everything happens within, and I don't really like to share problems

  • and talk it out with anyone else so much.

  • I like to be my own best friend.

  • And journaling has saved my life so many times.

  • The third habit that changed my life is adopting the KonMari minimalist mindset.

  • So if you've followed my channel for a while, you should know what it is.

  • KonMari means Marie Kondo's way of thinking.

  • Marie Kondo is the author of The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up.

  • She has this life philosophy to only bring in physical things

  • and only keep the physical things that spark joy within you.

  • And it's just the mindset of a minimalist.

  • Every single thing that you own, everything that's in your space should be there intentionally.

  • It should be there because you love it, you want it there, and it makes you happy.

  • And this can be applied to all areas of life, not just your physical things,

  • so it really helped me kind of filter out the clutter in my life, mentally, with the people.

  • Every aspect of your life, you could learn to intentionally hand pick and design,

  • you know, "This person makes me happy so I want to keep in touch with this person.

  • This person does not necessarily give me good vibes,

  • so I'm willing to distance myself from that person."

  • This was really helpful in terms of productivity too,

  • because it helps you prioritize what projects or pursuits are most important to you,

  • what will really matter in the end, which ones bring you the most joy.

  • And so you learn to not focus your time and waste your time on things that are not as important,

  • which brings me to my next habit that changed my life:

  • Learning to do the most important things first.

  • I learned this concept from the book, Getting Things Done by David Allen,

  • which is a great productivity book.

  • It will help you revamp your whole system of how you get things done, basically.

  • And it also relates to the KonMari minimalist mindset in really focusing down on what's important.

  • Doing those most important tasks first, you're getting the most value for your time spent,

  • because you're working on the biggest most important thing that you could be working on.

  • So people like to think I'm a productive person.

  • I'm actually not very productive most of the time.

  • Yes I have my good days where I'm like boom-boom-boom, knocking things out.

  • But most days, I'm really not doing much during my day.

  • I wake up pretty late.

  • I wake up like 10:00, 11:00, 12:00 PM.

  • Then I really just prioritize doing the most one or two important things in my day,

  • and then once I'm done with that I feel good about my day.

  • So you have to ask yourself:

  • "If I were to only complete one or two things today, what things will those be?"

  • And then prioritize those.

  • Do those first.

  • It will change your life.

  • It will just make you more productive and effective.

  • You might not get as much done as before,

  • because those important things are hard and they take more time than others.

  • But they're the most important.

  • It's just been a great strategy for me so far.

  • The fifth habit that immensely changed my life is

  • learning to cultivate gratitude as a daily, consistent practice.

  • It really is shifting your mindset from focusing on what you don't have,

  • focusing on what's going wrong, to focusing on what you do have,

  • focusing on what's going right, and being thankful for everything that you do have in your life.

  • I know it's said over and over again, how important gratitude is,

  • but I can't emphasize it enough.

  • The way that you see the world heavily impacts how you feel

  • and it heavily shapes your reality as well.

  • So if you see the world through the lens ofyou're cynical, there's so much chaos in the world,

  • nothing's going right, everything's going wrong, people are horrible

  • Then that's what you're going to see in your world.

  • But if you shift that lens into being grateful for everything that you do have like,

  • "Oh my gosh, I get to live in the first world.

  • I have food, I have water, I have technology,"

  • there's just so much that we have, so much to be grateful for.

  • Just learning to see the joy and the beauty in all the little moments, it will change your life so much.

  • It just changes how you see things, and when you change how you see things,

  • you really change how you feel and you change the reality of your life.

  • The way that this has manifested in my life is:

  • I'm just more joyful and light-hearted about the tiny, simple things.

  • There's so much delightful little moments I have in every day,

  • or just seeing my plant grow a new leaf makes me so happy.

  • Or seeing a really neat fridge makes me really happy as well.

  • Or laughing at my own silly jokes or silly puns that I think of in my head.

  • There's so much fun that you could have in this world.

  • There's so much beauty everywhere, that even when you're having a bad day,

  • you can still find something to be grateful for.

  • You can still find something that is beautiful, something that is a miracle in the world.

  • And when you see the world through that lens,

  • that positive lens of love and beauty and joy, it really changes everything.

  • It's really just the major shift.

  • You can live in the same world as another human being

  • and yet see two completely different things because the power is in your mindset.

  • The power is in the lens that you see the world through.

  • Just learning how to shift that lens.

  • In the beginning you have to do it intentionally,

  • make it a practice to do some gratitude journaling every day,

  • listing things you're grateful for, and then just practicing finding things to smile at.

  • And over time it just becomes a part of your mindset and your personality.

  • It becomes ingrained in who you are.

  • It just becomes more natural.

  • And so now I generally feel like I'm more of a light-hearted person.

  • Even when things go wrong, I could just breathe and relax,

  • still be grateful for some things and practically deal with the problem that's in front of me.

  • But it's just not as emotional of a roller coaster as it used to be.

  • Alright, those are the five habits that have changed my life.

  • Let me know if you have a favorite.

  • Let me know if you learned anything or was everything pretty obvious

  • after you've watched my videos and gotten to know me.

  • I hope you have a beautiful day.

  • Love you all so much, and look out for the next video that's coming out.

  • I'm gonna share six books that have changed my life.

  • Bye!

Hey everyone!

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5 Habits That Changed My Life

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    木透 posted on 2019/01/23
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