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  • How To Stop Being Shy And Quiet – 12 Tips To Overcome Shyness!

  • Do you have a hard time meeting new people?

  • Do you find yourself declining invitations?

  • You could very well be shy.

  • Shyness is when you spend too much time in your head, judging yourself, based on other

  • people's standards and opinions.

  • You are constantly trying to figure out how you should be acting and behaving in various

  • situations.

  • You can use the following strategies to learn how to overcome shyness and become more confident

  • in life.

  • Number 1 - Accept Yourself

  • If you are always trying to fit in, you are doing nothing more than wearing yourself out.

  • You need to understand that not everyone will like you, and this is ok.

  • It's normal.

  • Everyone experiences times of insecurity and self-consciousness.

  • It's not just you.

  • If you accept yourself and your qualities, things will be much easier for you.

  • Number 2 - Become Self-Aware

  • If you want to overcome shyness and social anxiety, you need to understand that people

  • are not looking at you.

  • Most of them are far too busy looking at themselves.

  • When you are around people, seek within yourself.

  • Observe your thoughts.

  • By simply admitting your shyness, you can reduce your anxiety, which in turn will help

  • you relax.

  • Once you become self-aware, you will be on your way to improvement.

  • Number 3 - Embrace Your Strengths

  • In order to gain confidence and self esteem, find something you enjoy and know you are

  • good at.

  • Focusing on doing this very thing, whatever it is, could help you overcome your shyness.

  • Think about how your unique strength gives you an advantage over other people.

  • Knowing that you possess some unique quality will boost your self-confidence.

  • It will help you accept yourself wholeheartedly.

  • Number 4 - Take Care of Yourself

  • Taking care of yourself can totally boost your confidence!

  • Even just small things, like: showering, flossing your teeth and keeping your nails trimmed

  • can make a big difference in how you feel about yourself.

  • When you add 'dressing well' in addition to good hygiene, you will be surprised by

  • how much better you feel about yourself!

  • With this increased confidence, you'll no longer fear meeting new people and striking

  • up conversations.

  • Number 5 - Practice Talking

  • This one is very important.

  • If you don't start talking to people, you'll never stop being shy and awkward!

  • Try to be a bit more talkative and practice talking more openly with friends, family and

  • even complete strangers.

  • Talk to people at bars, restaurants or wherever you are.

  • Approach others and strike up a conversation.

  • This will give you a chance to meet new people, and you'll be facing your fear of talking

  • to others.

  • Number 6 - Start Focusing On Others

  • Shy people often feel that they have to come up with amazing topics to talk about.

  • But this is not the case.

  • Try to focus more on others.

  • This will help take your mind away from your shyness.

  • People always like talking to others who seem interested in them, so ask a lot of questions

  • and be genuinely interested.

  • Before you know it, you'll be so deep in conversation that you'll completely forget

  • about your shyness.

  • Number 7 - Take a Deep Breath

  • When you're around new people, you feel the anxiety and it overwhelms you quickly.

  • Next time, just excuse yourself and head over to the restroom or a quiet corner and then

  • close your eyes and breathe.

  • Concentrate on your breathing, and breathe in and out, slowly.

  • Do this for a few minutes if possible.

  • This exercise will help you relax.

  • Number 8 - Relax Your Muscles When Anxious

  • Relaxing your muscles is another great way to deal with anxious situations.

  • You can do this by focusing on a specific part of your body.

  • Then tighten those muscles for a few minutes, releasing slowly.

  • Start from your toes and then move up gradually.

  • At the same time, you can also practice deep breathing.

  • Number 9 - Make Eye Contact As Much As Possible

  • Making eye contact is one of the best confidence building activities you can do!

  • Direct eye contact helps create a more emotional and meaningful connection.

  • Have you ever noticed that when you are with a group, the person who is looked at the least,

  • is the one who talks the least?

  • The more eye contact you make, the more interested you seem.

  • It lets the other person know that you're interested in the conversation.

  • This makes them feel more comfortable.

  • Number 10 - Focus on the Moment

  • When you focus on the present moment, you take your attention away from your self-consciousness.

  • The next time you are having a conversation with someone, focus on the words they are

  • saying.

  • Focus closely on what they're talking about.

  • Focus on their tone and expressions.

  • If you completely become absorbed by what the other person is talking about, you automatically

  • shift your focus away from your shyness.

  • Number 11 - Mimic Others Interactions

  • If you have a hard time interacting with someone and you feel yourself getting all tense, try

  • to mimic them.

  • I don't mean full out mimic every single thing they are doing, but you can mimic their

  • posture and tone.

  • This tends to naturally give off the vibe that you understand what they're saying and

  • enjoying the conversation.

  • Number 12 - Start Saying Yes Instead of No

  • Whenever you say no, you create a barrier.

  • You're closing all the doors.

  • When you say no, you're missing out on a chance to meet new people and explore new

  • situations.

  • Instead of always saying no to everything, give yourself a chance and start saying yes!

  • This will allow you to be around people and socialize with others who share your interests.

  • If you constantly put yourself around people, you will get used to it.

  • And this will definitely help you stop being shy and quiet!

  • By doing these self confidence tips every day, you can slowly overcome shyness and become

  • more confident, until you can publicly display who you are - without fear of being judged.

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