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Hi, I'm Anne Marie with Speak Confident English and welcome to your Confident
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English Wednesday lesson. To get us started this week, I want to ask you a
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question: when you meet someone new in English - when you meet a new business
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client, a new partner, someone who just moved to where you live - how do you start
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a conversation with them in English? What questions do you use to start that
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conversation, to make small talk? If you often feel nervous about asking
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questions in English, starting conversations... if you're not sure about
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what questions are polite to ask, then today's lesson is perfect for you.
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Today I'm going to share my favorite questions for starting conversations in
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English. These are questions I use when I meet someone new or if I haven't seen
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someone in a long time. We'll also talk about why they are great questions, what
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I love about them, and how you can use them. What situations are perfect for
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these questions. So the next time that you're getting to know a new client or
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partner at work; the next time that you're at an international conference
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talking to people in your profession, getting to know them, building your
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network; or the next time you have some new neighbors to meet or people at a
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birthday party, you can start that conversation and you've got questions
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that are perfect for that situation. Now let's pause just for a moment because in
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this video we're going to talk about questions to start a conversation with
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anyone in English but you might be thinking, "HOW do I start a conversation
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in English? I always feel nervous, I feel stressed, I
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forget the words that I want to use. I have questions that I want to ask but I
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don't know how." If that sounds like you, I actually have a much more in-depth
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training video just for you. You can download it for free in the online
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lesson. And in that video I go much more in-depth and we get some strategies for
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how to be confident, how to be prepared, and ready to start a conversation. So
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when you have the right questions you can go to that international conference,
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you can go meet your neighbors, go to the dinner party and not feel nervous, not
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feel afraid to start that conversation in English. So again if you want that
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training just go to the online lesson and click download to get that
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advanced training. Okay so let's get started with my favorite questions. In
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this video I'm going to highlight four questions that I almost always ask and
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then in today's lesson I have a list of 10 questions. So whatever your situation
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is, wherever you are going, whoever you are talking, to I have a question that
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you can use, to ask them, to start that conversation, keep the conversation going
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and enjoy your discussion in English. My first question for today and honestly
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it's my most favorite - I ask my friends this question, I ask people I've met
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for the first time, I ask people I haven't seen for a long time, I even
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ask my husband this question sometimes - is what's the most interesting thing
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you've done lately? Or what's the most interesting thing you've read lately?
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What's the most interesting thing you've heard lately? I love this question
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because you can use it everywhere. If you're at a business meeting and you're
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just chatting with people before the business meeting starts, ask someone what
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the most interesting thing they've done lately is. Or if you just met someone at
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a party and you want to keep the conversation going, this is a super
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simple question to ask. It always starts a conversation and most people are
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really happy to talk about something interesting that they've done. They like
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talking about things that are enjoyable. I also like it because I always learn
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something new and if I'm talking about something that you've read or you've
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heard, I learn a new fact or I learn about a new book, a new film that I
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should watch. So if you're searching for a polite, easy, conversational question in
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English, for making small talk, getting to know someone,
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I highly recommend this question. My second favorite question is perfect
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for a situation when you're meeting someone for the very first time. I love
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to ask where are you from originally and I ask this to both native and non-native
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speakers because honestly even if you come from the same city as I do or you
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come from the same area, your experience in life growing up, being a child, going
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to school, studying, is different from mine. So even if we come from the same place, I
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will learn something new. But of course if you come from somewhere completely
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different - another part of the country, another region, or a different country
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- then I'll definitely learn something new. I might learn about a new culture, a new
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cuisine and all of that information is very easy for follow-up questions. So
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when you want to continue the conversation, if you find out that
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someone is from another country then you could definitely ask about their culture,
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their cuisine, what is something unique about where they're from, what do they
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recommend if you visit that place. As I mentioned, this is great anytime you meet
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someone new. So again, if you're traveling for work or you're at a business meeting
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and you're just getting to know some people before or after the meeting, this
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is a great, simple conversation question. If you've just moved to a new city, an
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English-speaking country, and you're starting to get to know your neighbors,
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maybe you're getting to know the other parents at your kids school, this is a
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great question to start those first conversations. Now this third question is
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perfect for professional situations. Maybe you're chatting with some
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colleagues, maybe it's a colleague that you
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haven't seen in a long time or maybe you're getting to know a new business
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partner, a potential client. It's very similar to my favorite question, the
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first question, but it's changed just a little bit to really focus on work. So a
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question I often ask is, "have you been working on any interesting projects
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lately?" Or have you been working on anything interesting lately? Again most
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people really like answering questions or talking about things that they enjoy,
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things they find interesting, so this is a really easy question to get a
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conversation going, get someone talking a little bit, get to
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know them. And as you learn about a project that they're working on or
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something they've been doing that's interesting,
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again you'll learn a lot and you can ask follow-up questions to keep that
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conversation going. And the final question for today's video is on the
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topic of travel. I love talking about travel. I love hearing about other
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people's experiences, their recommendations, what their favorite
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thing was on vacation. I love it. So one of my most common questions if
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I'm meeting someone new, if I haven't seen a colleague or a friend for a long
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time, I might ask, "Where's the coolest place you've ever been?" This is a great
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question for telling stories and sharing memories, even getting recommendations
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for a great place to visit, something to do, or a place to eat. So there are my
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four favorite questions for starting a conversation in English. Again these are
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questions that I use, other native speakers use, all the time and they're
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perfectly polite for various business situations and daily life in English.
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You can visit today's online lesson to get my full list of
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ten questions to start a conversation with anyone. Review the questions and
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then share with me in the comments. I want to hear from you and help you get
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some practice using English, give you some feedback. So review the list of
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questions and then tell me your favorite question. What do you think is the best
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question on the list? And then share your answer to that question. I look forward
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to hearing from you in the comments and I'll see you next week for your
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Confident English Wednesday lesson.