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Breakups are hard.
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Whether you're the dumper or the dumpee, it's a very difficult thing to deal with.
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It might feel like you'll never make it out of the heart-shattering sadness.
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But you will.
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Here are 5 things you can do to help put yourself back together after a breakup.
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Number one: experience it.
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The only way to really get over a breakup is to deal with it.
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Don't distract yourself.
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Let yourself feel the emotions, one at a time.
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There will be good times, and there will be bad, but the most important thing is to give yourself time.
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If you feel like crying, cry.
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Crying has a bad reputation but it's extremely therapeutic.
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Crying isn't losing control, it's gaining it back through owning your emotions.
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Number two: focus on yourself.
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After being the second half of a couple for a while, we tend to forget what it feels like to be on our own again.
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Be your own person.
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Do whatever you feel like doing.
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Try thinking about you and only you for a little bit to regain that awesome sense of independence that you lost while being someone's significant other.
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This can be done in a number of ways.
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Treat yourself to something nice, like a delicious dinner or a day out and about.
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Maybe take the time to reevaluate your health goals, or even set personal goals for yourself.
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Indulge a little.
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Buy yourself a nice outfit or something you've had your eye on.
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Get your favorite food or a bottle of wine and enjoy it with, or without friends.
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Take time to remind yourself of who you are.
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Number three: try new things.
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Have you always wanted to take guitar lessons?
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Take a yoga class?
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Finally read that book you bought three years ago.
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Well, now you have the time.
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Find a new hobby or take a class you've been wanting to take.
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You'll get out more, meet new people and, most importantly, get that pesky ex off your mind.
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Number four: reach out to family and friends.
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Friends and family are around for a reason.
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You know all those times you've had to console your loved ones when they've been in a rough place?
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Now it's time for payback.
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True friends are people who love and support you, no matter what.
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You deserve their time and attention and shouldn't be afraid to reach out and ask for it.
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Spend weekends reconnecting with your parents, grandparents, and siblings.
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Too often, we take family for granted, so this a great chance to sneak in some home cooked meals and show your family that you care.
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Not only that, consider volunteering to help others.
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This also lets you go out and meet new people.
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You'll make new friends, and, possibly, a new love interest.
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Number five: move on.
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It's not uncommon for two people to break up and want to remain friends, but the most important thing you can do is distance yourself from that person.
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If that means taking a month-long vacation to New Mexico, so be it.
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Don't text, call, or email them.
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What you both need at this point is space.
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Breakups create emotional wounds, and if you are in constant contact with your ex, you will never give yourself the time you need to heal.
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After the healing process, go out and meet new people.
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There's some truth to the old adage: the best way to get over someone is to get under someone.
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Join Tinder, or some other dating and go out.
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You're sure to meet someone new, someone you can connect to on a deeper level.
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Breakups are difficult, but they aren't the end of the world.
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In fact, they're the start of something new and better.
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What do you think of these tips?
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Share your thoughts and any tips you have on dealing with breakups below.
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