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  • Breakups are hard.

  • Whether you're the dumper or the dumpee, it's a very difficult thing to deal with.

  • It might feel like you'll never make it out of the heart-shattering sadness.

  • But you will.

  • Here are 5 things you can do to help put yourself back together after a breakup.

  • Number one: experience it.

  • The only way to really get over a breakup is to deal with it.

  • Don't distract yourself.

  • Let yourself feel the emotions, one at a time.

  • There will be good times, and there will be bad, but the most important thing is to give yourself time.

  • If you feel like crying, cry.

  • Crying has a bad reputation but it's extremely therapeutic.

  • Crying isn't losing control, it's gaining it back through owning your emotions.

  • Number two: focus on yourself.

  • After being the second half of a couple for a while, we tend to forget what it feels like to be on our own again.

  • Be your own person.

  • Do whatever you feel like doing.

  • Try thinking about you and only you for a little bit to regain that awesome sense of independence that you lost while being someone's significant other.

  • This can be done in a number of ways.

  • Treat yourself to something nice, like a delicious dinner or a day out and about.

  • Maybe take the time to reevaluate your health goals, or even set personal goals for yourself.

  • Indulge a little.

  • Buy yourself a nice outfit or something you've had your eye on.

  • Get your favorite food or a bottle of wine and enjoy it with, or without friends.

  • Take time to remind yourself of who you are.

  • Number three: try new things.

  • Have you always wanted to take guitar lessons?

  • Take a yoga class?

  • Finally read that book you bought three years ago.

  • Well, now you have the time.

  • Find a new hobby or take a class you've been wanting to take.

  • You'll get out more, meet new people and, most importantly, get that pesky ex off your mind.

  • Number four: reach out to family and friends.

  • Friends and family are around for a reason.

  • You know all those times you've had to console your loved ones when they've been in a rough place?

  • Now it's time for payback.

  • True friends are people who love and support you, no matter what.

  • You deserve their time and attention and shouldn't be afraid to reach out and ask for it.

  • Spend weekends reconnecting with your parents, grandparents, and siblings.

  • Too often, we take family for granted, so this a great chance to sneak in some home cooked meals and show your family that you care.

  • Not only that, consider volunteering to help others.

  • This also lets you go out and meet new people.

  • You'll make new friends, and, possibly, a new love interest.

  • Number five: move on.

  • It's not uncommon for two people to break up and want to remain friends, but the most important thing you can do is distance yourself from that person.

  • If that means taking a month-long vacation to New Mexico, so be it.

  • Don't text, call, or email them.

  • What you both need at this point is space.

  • Breakups create emotional wounds, and if you are in constant contact with your ex, you will never give yourself the time you need to heal.

  • After the healing process, go out and meet new people.

  • There's some truth to the old adage: the best way to get over someone is to get under someone.

  • Join Tinder, or some other dating and go out.

  • You're sure to meet someone new, someone you can connect to on a deeper level.

  • Breakups are difficult, but they aren't the end of the world.

  • In fact, they're the start of something new and better.

  • What do you think of these tips?

  • Share your thoughts and any tips you have on dealing with breakups below.

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  • Thanks for watching.

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5 Ways to Deal With a Break Up

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    Rong Chiang posted on 2018/04/24
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