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  • (gentle mesmerising music)

  • - Hello everyone and welcome back to English With Lucy.

  • Today, I've got a slightly more personal video for you.

  • But as we always talk about self-improvement

  • and confidence and how to be a better student

  • and things like that, I thought I would share with you

  • some of my experiences that I believe made me

  • a better person and in some cases, a better student

  • and a better teacher.

  • Now, this video is fully subtitled and will be

  • an excellent listening practise, especially

  • if you want to practise with the British English accent.

  • Remember, these are my opinions and my experiences.

  • You may not agree with them and that is

  • absolutely fine.

  • I completely welcome constructive criticism

  • so, feel free.

  • And if you've got something else you'd like to share,

  • don't be afraid of your grammar.

  • Don't be afraid of your spelling.

  • Just go for it.

  • Let's make this a discussion.

  • The first thing that helped me become

  • a better person and also a better student and teacher,

  • especially in this one, and that is,

  • realising that everybody learns in different ways.

  • Completely different ways.

  • And this has helped me in my teaching career

  • because I've realised that I can't set

  • the same exercise for absolutely everyone

  • and expect the same results.

  • It's also helped me as a student

  • because I'm always learning things,

  • but especially when I was a University student.

  • I realised that I am terrible at exams.

  • Really, really, really bad.

  • I'm great at early morning cramming for an exam.

  • I've got great temporary retention,

  • but that's not really learning anything.

  • That's just retaining information

  • for a short period of time.

  • So I've had to work around that and I realised

  • I have to do things in a practical way.

  • Now, unfortunately, much of our lives

  • as students is completely dominated by exams.

  • So, we can't always find a way to avoid them.

  • The best way to deal with that is finding

  • the best possible way for you to get the best possible

  • result, which might sound obvious but looking

  • at that in a very specific way really, really

  • helped me.

  • For me, I found that talking about answers

  • and talking about ideas was way, way, way

  • more effective than just sitting and reading a page.

  • So my English With Lucy subscribers

  • who come here to learn English, you guys

  • have found out that you might prefer

  • having a teacher actually explain something to you

  • rather than reading grammar books,

  • which I think is fantastic.

  • So, well done.

  • Now, number two refers to relationships.

  • And not just romantic relationships,

  • but it does work with that.

  • But also friendships, professional relationships,

  • student-teacher relationships, and it is,

  • so, so important and it's helped me through

  • so much potential heartbreak and potential hurt.

  • And that is the realisation that it's not just about

  • finding the right person, it's also about

  • being the right person.

  • So take a look at yourself and ask yourself,

  • are you acting in the best possible way

  • that you could be acting?

  • Are you being the best possible partner

  • or friend or co-worker?

  • And if you're not, look at correcting that first,

  • before you go and criticise or start arguments.

  • Now, number three links to number two.

  • It's more directed towards women and if you haven't noticed,

  • I'm a woman and I suffer from really bad PMS.

  • So I get pretty down a certain point in my monthly cycle.

  • And I think part of my duty of being a really good

  • partner and a good friend and a good co-worker,

  • although I work alone, okay.

  • (laughs)

  • is understanding my own hormones and understanding

  • why I feel a certain way.

  • So, when I feel particularly bad,

  • I feel very, very short...

  • Not short-tempered, because I never raise my voice,

  • but I feel very easily annoyed.

  • If somebody's talking to me for too long,

  • I want to interrupt them and change the subject.

  • I'm not very sympathetic.

  • I'm more likely to say things that I might regret.

  • I really do think it's my duty to understand,

  • to predict when I'm going to feel that way

  • and also to work out why I'm feeling that way

  • in the moment, because in the moment,

  • when I feel angry, I never think, ah,

  • it must be my hormones.

  • I always think, ugh, I'm just having a really bad day.

  • So, I've found the perfect solution.

  • And it's actually an app and I contacted the app

  • myself to see if they'd want to sponsor the video

  • and they did which is so lovely of them.

  • And the app is called Clue and it's basically

  • a menstruation cycle tracker.

  • So every single day of your cycle, you put in

  • how you're feeling, what's going on down there,

  • and over time, you start to see patterns.

  • It's a gorgeous, simple app and I know

  • at a certain point in my cycle,

  • I am likely to feel frustrated or annoyed.

  • So before I send a angsty email or before I tell

  • my boyfriend that he's doing something wrong,

  • I like to just look at the app.

  • Is it my time of the month?

  • And if it is, it really takes a weight off my shoulder

  • and I can try extra, extra hard to beat those feelings

  • and to be a nice person that day.

  • Also another amazing new feature actually,

  • you can share your cycle with your friends, family,

  • and partner, so you don't even have to explain

  • yourself, they can just check and see how you're doing

  • and where you are in your cycle.

  • It can also send you reminders like take your pill

  • or your period might start.

  • So it's a really, really, really useful little

  • piece of software that I recommend absolutely

  • to everyone and I'm so touched that they wanted

  • to sponsor this video cause it's something that

  • I was already using and love it.

  • So thank you, Clue.

  • If you'd like to check it out, you can download it

  • for free, the link is in thee description box.

  • The next one, number four is learning to respect

  • and value every single culture and religion.

  • I'm going to be very, very honest now.

  • When I was younger, I wasn't a very respectful person.

  • When I was like 11 to 14, I was brought up

  • in an atheist family.

  • We didn't have religion in our family

  • and so I never really understood why people would

  • be religious and so I wasn't very respectful

  • of religions and I had never really seen

  • another culture so I wasn't very respectful

  • of that either.

  • And I realised growing older how important

  • it is to try and understand, to always respect,

  • and also just to learn more about it.

  • That you can lose anything from learning more

  • about someone else's culture.

  • Living in Spain taught me so much about amazing food,

  • amazing people, amazing language,

  • but it also taught me about their religion,

  • they're a predominantly Catholic country.

  • And I remember going with my ex-boyfriend

  • and seeing these Catholic processions

  • and at first I was a bit like, this is so boring,

  • but actually seeing the emotional connection

  • between the people and the processions,

  • really moved me.

  • That's why it always saddens me

  • when I get messages like,

  • how dare you drink alcohol or how dare you

  • not believe in God.

  • Respect me and my wishes and my beliefs

  • and my culture and I will always respect yours.

  • If somebody's doing something that you really can't

  • understand, try and learn more about it.

  • Try and see where they're coming from

  • and listen to their point-of-view.

  • Now number five is one that's going to get

  • a few of you gasping and this is getting up early.

  • Getting up early has made me a machine.

  • I am so productive when I get up early.

  • Hear me out because I know a lot of us

  • appreciate our sleep and on most days, I do.

  • When I have a lot of work to do,

  • which it goes in ebbs and flows.

  • Sometimes I will have two weeks

  • where I can get up at 7:30, 8:00,

  • go on a run and have a really chilled morning

  • for two weeks at at time.

  • But sometimes I have deadlines,

  • I have loads of work, I have to be in London

  • during the day so in the morning I have to get

  • everything else done.

  • It may look on the outside like I just put up

  • a couple of videos every now and again,

  • but I promise you it's a lot more than that.

  • I learned to get up really, really early.

  • Especially in the summer months.

  • The sun rises at 4:30 in the morning.

  • It's amazing.

  • So I can get up with the sun and have a really, really

  • long day.

  • I will get up anywhere between 4:30 and 7:30.

  • And if I get up at 4:30 in the morning and most people

  • start work at 8:30, I feel like I've won

  • four hours of productivity.

  • But, I don't carry on working until 6:00

  • in the evening.

  • I finish at 3:00 or I finish at 4:00

  • and then I can do loads of things with my afternoon.

  • And so shifting my body clock has been amazing

  • for my social life and for my work life as well.

  • One thing you do have to learn to do is

  • go to bed early and I know this isn't possible

  • for everyone, but I'm an absolute advocate

  • for the early bird lifestyle.

  • Night owls can do their thing, but for me,

  • there's nothing better than starting the day

  • as you mean to go on and then just chilling

  • quite early on in the afternoon.

  • And I absolutely love that.

  • Number six is quite a deep topic.

  • I'm not going to go too deep into it

  • because there are just some parts of my life

  • that I don't need to share on the internet,

  • but it is about moving away from toxic relationships

  • and people who do not treat you how you

  • deserve to be treated.

  • It's very easy to talk about this now

  • because I've stepped away from my negative

  • and horrible relationships.

  • But when I was in those relationships,

  • I was really, really caught up in them

  • and I wasn't listening to those around me.

  • You know, sometimes your own intuition isn't enough.

  • Sometimes you need to listen to those around you.

  • If you are in a relationship and your friends

  • don't like your partner, your work mates don't like

  • your partner, your parents don't like your partner.

  • It's only you and only you get to see the good side

  • of him, just take a moment to listen to them.

  • They can see things from a different perspective

  • and they might be seeing things that you can't see yourself.

  • A romantic relationship should add value

  • to your life, it should take nothing away from it.

  • It should not take away your freedom.

  • It should not take away your independence.

  • It should not take away your self-worth.

  • It should not take away your hopes and dreams either.

  • Right now, I am in a beautiful, happy relationship.

  • Every single day is fantastic and I cannot