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  • Cora: Hi I'm Cora

  • Cal: Hello I'm Calum

  • Cora: And today we're talking about porn

  • Porn is all over the internet these days, and even though you're supposed to be 18 to

  • watch it, most people have seen it even if it's not on purpose. You stumble across it.

  • So what is porn?

  • Cal: So porn is basically any kind of content whether that's photographs or video that features

  • sexually explicit content. And it's used for sexual pleasure. And it's 100% normal and

  • 100% fine to look at porn and be intrigued by it or to be excited by it but it is also

  • important to remember that it's kind of an exaggerated version of real life, so if you

  • are looking at porn that's not necessarily the kind of sexual experience you might experience

  • in real life.

  • Cora: SO is it legal to look at porn?

  • Cal: It is it's absolutely legal to look at porn, but porn is intended for adults so a

  • lot of websites and things out there will ask you to verify your age and ask you if

  • you are over 18

  • Cora: Do you think young people are watching porn because sex education isn't teaching

  • them enough?

  • Cal: Yeah, I think sex education is being taught more and more in schools, which is

  • great but it often kind of focuses more on the biological side of things : this is a

  • penis, this is a vagina, you put them together you make a baby but sex is a lot more complicated

  • than that, sex is you know, very much routed in emotions and two people connecting and

  • I think it can be very difficult to teach that in sex education. I think it's often

  • overlooked as well. So I think young people are turning to porn to actually okI understand

  • this in theory, but now I want to see it. And I want to you know, I wanna understand

  • by watching two people having sex

  • Cora: SO there are lots of myths surrounding porn, so let's think about some like myths

  • of fantasy vs reality

  • What's the reality of that?

  • Cal: I think the reality of that is, I mean in porn you, it's all sexually charged and

  • you have the most kind of mundane situations and suddenly they become all excited and everything

  • turns to sex. But obviously, thats not true to life and there are many many couples out

  • there who don't choose to have sex all the time, it completely depends on you and and

  • what your partner wants.

  • Cal: Yeah that's absolutely not true, I think porn is often an exaggerated version of sex

  • in every single way. And one of the ways they like to exaggerate things is they cast models

  • who have particularly big penises, particularly large breasts, but it's not true to life,

  • so if you ever were watching porn and you were thinking why don'tI measure up, perhaps?

  • That's the reason why - it's not accurate at all.

  • Cora: Definitely. And it doesn't even mean that everybody thinks that that is the most

  • attractive way to look.

  • Cal: No, no absolutely not. You know there are plenty of people out there who aren't

  • attracted to ridiculously big penises and breasts, and yeah, it's important to remember

  • that bodies come in all kinds of different shapes and sizes and often the people in porn

  • are even being surgically enhanced. So what you see on screen isn't necessarily true to

  • life.

  • Cora: Definitely more fantasy than reality

  • Cal: Definitely more fantasy than reality.

  • Yeah again that is absolutely not true there are plenty of people out there who have protected

  • sex. I'd say the majority of people are using protection. It's really important to do that

  • to prevent unwanted childbirth and also to protect yourself against STIs and things like

  • that. And often things are staged to make it look like they're not using protection

  • in porn but they ectually are

  • Cora: especially in the UK, it's actually illegal for porn stars not to use protection

  • so...

  • Cal: Really? DIdn't know that. Learning something new every day!

  • Cora:Yeah so probably if it's made in the UK, they are you just cant tell

  • Cal: Again I feel like it's uh... Porn is an exaggerated heightened version id everything

  • so yu can often see things like that happening in porn, but that doesn't mean that everybody

  • likes that and I would say that probably the majority of people don't like that. It is

  • ok to kind of do role play and things like that but it is very very important that both

  • partners are consenting and both partners have made it very clear that they want to

  • partake in this activity before doing so

  • Cora: Yeah definitey that is the key thing

  • Cal: Yeah consent is so so important and if you're not sure if someone is 100% consenting

  • you should probably stop what you're doing and find out and make sure that they're happy

  • to continue.

  • Cora: Yeah there's nothing wrong with just asking.

  • Cal: No ask away

  • It's that, yesh, it again is absolutely not true. Sex is complicated and sex is about

  • two people coming together and it's not always that easy.Sex can be awkward sometimes. Especially

  • if you're new to sex, it can sometimes be painful. So it;s not always the best and not

  • everybody always orgasms every time.

  • Cora: Yeah, and like anything in life, nobody's perfect at anything, there's always gonna

  • be times when you're like, oh that wasn't as great as it could've been and,

  • Cal: Yeah. And even you could be having great sex with somebody one day and then the next

  • day it's not right. It can shift and that's absolutely fine. I think sex is all about,

  • it's an experience you share with another person. And Ithink sometimes the best way

  • to do that is kind of learn about what the other person likes, and they learn about what

  • you like, and it's definitely kind of a learning process that you go on together

  • Cal: Un yeah it seems to be really common in porn that both men and women don't really

  • tend to have public hair. And I don't think that even is necessarily what the majority

  • of people like even, I think that's just kind of the way it seems to be in porn. But again

  • it's not true to life, you have people with all kinds of different degrees of pubic hair.You

  • have some people without any, some people with tons, some people with it trimmed and

  • tidied, and yeah.

  • Cora: It's just all up to you and what makes you feel good and confident.

  • Cal: exactly yeah, each individual person, it's up to them how they want to present themselves

  • and present their body

  • Cora:;Yep definitely, and your partner should be happy with that because it's your body

  • and your choice.

  • cal:Exactly yeah

  • It depends on the person. Somebody can last for a minute or some people can last for hours,

  • it absolutely depends on the person.I think in Porn a lot of the time it can be edited

  • together and it's all staged so it can seem like people are having sex for hours and hours

  • on end, but that doesn't necessarily mean that they really are

  • Cora: SO it's not really very realistic representation

  • Cal: It's not a realistic representation, at all, I don't think many people out there

  • go for hours.

  • cora: Thank you so much for coming!

  • Cal: thank you

  • Cora: and we'll see you next time! Bye!

  • Some porn might be violent or illegal, or you might just be upset about something that

  • you've seen. But if you want to talk you can contact Childline any time online or on the

  • phone.

Cora: Hi I'm Cora

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