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We can't all be sluts.
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We can't all be asking for it.
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I am here to give you permission to be angry.
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This reality might not have to be our reality anymore.
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I felt this crushing sense of powerlessness.
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This is the time to take my power back.
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Here is my story.
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I felt that it was my duty for the women who are silent to be brave.
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It's ok to stand up for yourself.
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People forget a lot that there is a human behind this, someone who was very hurt and wronged.
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I always thought maybe things could change from my daughter.
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I never thought things could change from me.
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Honestly, I was furious.
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I had had a man grope me in front of multiple colleagues,
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and I was tired of wondering if it was something I wore,
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I was tired of wondering if it was a vibe I was giving off.
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And when I talked to other women, they were furious too.
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I felt that if I can speak out, maybe if I just stand up,
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then someone else will stand up with me.
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There wasn't a place for us to report these experiences,
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but I sure did talk about it a lot over the years.
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The least I could do was actually tell my own story and validate theirs for them in a way,
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just as I was hoping someone much bigger than me will help validate my story.
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And I knew that other women would continue to apply for jobs there,
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and that made me feel really uncomfortable.
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I was afraid of the retaliation.
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I know the power of patriarchy.
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I know what men can do when they are angry.
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They did everything that they could to prevent me from raising my concerns further.
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They ask me if there were other girls,
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maybe that he has done this, too and can I go get them?
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I had to show them that I wasn't lying.
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It's like they took me for a joke.
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And if they couldn't stop us from talking,
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well they were gonna stop everybody from listening to us.
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People digging into my Instagram,
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and you know pulling up sexy photos as if that kind of discredited me.
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Well, I have seen you in committee, you're really tough.
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Why didn't you just hit him?
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Why did you let it go on for so long?
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I was a smart young woman that gone to college that knew how to fight
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and I still was manipulated and conned.
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I felt ashamed that I hadn't spoken out sooner.
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Not having the strength earlier on to make it stop.
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That feeling of being humiliated as a woman
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and there's a point you think is it my fault?
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For so long, I went around harboring this ridiculous belief
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that because I was a non-white woman in my 20s
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that somehow it was expected that I would have to be treated this way.
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We don't have to just live like this.
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I always thought maybe things could change from my daughter.
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I never thought things could change from me.
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I am here to give you permission to be angry.
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People are afraid, especially women were conditioned since birth to be polite.
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To be nice.
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To be kind.
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To be liked.
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To not make waves.
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Bullshit!
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We can't all be crazy, we can't all be sluts, we can't all be asking for it.
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And I am telling you that all the people who stand up, all the people who speak out,
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you are teaching people how to treat you
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and you should not be shamed for that.
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The shame is not ours to hold.
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The shame is on the perpetrator.
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Me too can be a conversation starter or it can be the whole conversation.
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It took away the power from the predator and placed the power on the victim.
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And maybe, just maybe we will be able to get a glimpse at the magnitude of this problem.
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The amount of people sharing the stories with me is so intense.
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People that were complete strangers reached out to tell very personal stories.
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It's what they did with this hashtag and they did a lot
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and not only in France, in Hong Kong, in Japan.
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It's an international movement.
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I feel like the day that I spoke up and I said you are a sexual harasser, I changed.
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[Spanish] And to know that I was courageous in speaking
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[Spanish] and saying what was happening,
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[Spanish] in spite of all the dread and fear that I had.
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It's an honor to be the person who can say that "Hey! I spoke up about this. I took on the risk."
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And I was very humble and I was very proud.
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I am very glad now that the story has been heard.
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It's a direct response to that arrogance and that show of power and that bullying,
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that says we won't be silenced.