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I have what some consider to be one of the toughest jobs on the planet.
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I am a mom.
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(Cheers) (Applause)
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Yes! Yes!
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I am a parent to three very busy little boys
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who magically think I'm a doctor,
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a baker, a coach, a chef, a therapist
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and have the patience of a saint 24/7.
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I truly do my best
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and some days are definitely better than others,
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especially the part about having the patience of a saint.
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I want what most parents want for my kids.
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I want them to have a happy childhood.
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I want them to be free to play, build friendships,
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grow to be kind, compassionate, happy adults.
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But there seems to be one small challenge.
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The World Happiness Report states
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at any one time
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over 220 million children
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and 1 billion adults
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suffer from anxiety, depression, and conduct disorders.
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Not exactly a pretty picture of happy people on a happy planet.
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Unfortunately, as adults, whether you're a parent or not,
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this is what our children are learning from us.
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You see how busy we are every day.
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They feel our stress,
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and they watch us struggle to find our own happiness.
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How do we go from anxiety and depression to happy?
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Some good news.
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The World Happiness Report also states
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the best predictor of whether a child becomes a satisfied adult
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is through their emotional health in childhood.
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So if I have this right, it should be easy.
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Happy children, happy adults, happy planet; yes.
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(Laughter)
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This is the exact lesson I learned from my dad.
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When I was a little girl,
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growing up in the big city of London, Ontario,
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every Christmas morning
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my dad would take my three sisters and I to his office.
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You see my dad was a doctor and his office, a hospital.
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It was our job to stand around the beds of his patients
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and sing Christmas carols.
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We started with the same song every time,
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and my dad, he'd lead the singing.
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Now, this is probably a TEDx first, so join me if you know it.
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(Singing) We wish you a Merry Christmas; we wish you a Merry Christmas,
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we wish you a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.
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(Stops singing)
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(Cheers) (Applause)
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You guys are amazing,
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I am signing you all up for this year.
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(Laughter)
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And look at your smiles.
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We did this every Christmas morning for years.
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Those patients, they sing along with us,
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just like you did.
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And their smiles, their smiles would light up their hospital rooms.
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This is what I learned from our singing.
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Giving back to those patients,
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it made them happy, and it made me happy.
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And we've all heard
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that giving makes you happy and it's better to give than receive.
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But have you actually thought of why?
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Well, researchers from all over the world
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have been studying the science and psychology of giving.
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They've discovered
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that our brains and our bodies are actually hardwired for giving.
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When we give, our endorphins kick in,
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giving us this natural high feeling.
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They've actually called it the "helper's high."
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Our oxygen levels rise, this would be our love hormone.
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And for those of you
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that have been looking for the Fountain of Youth,
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it's our body's natural anti-aging remedy.
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And that feeling I got when I volunteer with my dad,
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that's serotonin, our body's happy transmitter.
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But here's the icing on the cake.
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Our cortisol levels drop.
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This is our stress hormone.
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Giving reduces anxiety and stress and it makes us happy.
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Now what if I told you,
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you could be happy every day, and it's simple.
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In fact, it's so simple a three-year-old can do it.
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Well, on my first son Nick's third birthday,
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I decided I was going to teach him how he could be happy every day.
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I was going to teach Nick to give.
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I introduced the idea over a birthday cake and ice cream:
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"Nick, we are going to start this super-fun family project together.
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We are going to give back to the world every day for one year."
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Now I waited to see the excitement on his face -
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that excitement that I was feeling -
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and instead, he says, "Mommy, how many days are in a year?"
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(Laughter)
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Oh yeah, not exactly the response I was looking for,
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but Nick was just three.
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I had to approach this daily giving idea a little differently.
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Still, I got out some craft paper and a big box of crayons,
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and I started again:
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"Nick, we're going to do one thing to be kind, helpful, giving
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to a person, an animal, or the planet
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every day for 365 days."
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Now, when I shared this idea with friends and the family,
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they thought I was being, shall we say, a little ambitious.
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I was going to give back to the world every day for 365 days
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with a three-year-old.
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I agreed, it seemed like a lot,
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but not when you start small, just one give, one day at a time.
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Nick and I started a list, just to get us going,
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had to be easy and close to home.
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Donate towels and blankets for a local animal shelter,
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pick up garbage, recycle,
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give clothes to a favorite charity; and our list went on.
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Well, Nick quickly caught on,
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and now he was excited.
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He was actually so excited
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he wanted to start that day, on his birthday.
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So, first stop,
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down at the local animal shelter to donate towels and blankets.
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When we walked into that shelter
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you instantly got hit
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by this smell of somewhere between wet dog and disinfectant.
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We could hear dogs barking.
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I knew they were locked in cages; they were behind a closed door.
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Nick handed our towels and blankets over to the nice lady behind the desk.
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She gave us a big smile and she thanked us for our donation.
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Well, as we turned to leave,
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Nick noticed two big glass doors that led into a room filled with cats.
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He went up to that glass and he peered in,
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and then he turned to me and said,
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"Mommy, can you see those cats sleeping on that red blanket back there.
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Will our blankets be for those cats?"
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He turned to the nice lady behind the desk and she said, "You bet."
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You'd just see Nick's little brain going.
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He was making the connection
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that his daily give was going to help those cats.
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Nick learned that very first day,
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as he turned to me and he smiled and he said,
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"Awesome, Mom,"
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that giving made him happy.
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Day two, down at the beach for a little fun in the sun and a game:
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how much garbage could we pick up in three minutes or less
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because that was the attention span of my three-year-old.
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(Laughter)
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Day three, we took that garbage and we sorted it.
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At the ripe old age of three, Nick learned to recycle.
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Well, daily giving quickly became a routine for Nick,
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just like kind of brushing his teeth.
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Well, actually come to think of it,
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it would be easier to teach a three-year-old to give every day
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than it is to brush their teeth every day, for sure.
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Nick asked if we could share our daily giving adventures
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with our friends and family,
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so they could follow along.
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So that very first day
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I started a blog and I called it 365give.
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Now, just so you know,
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I am not a writer or some social media guru,
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so you can imagine how surprised I was
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when people started reading the blog other than my friends and family.
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They started reading and engaging from all over the world.
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They send me emails and leave comments with their daily giving stories
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because they were inspired by Nick.
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Actually, I was so excited I'm going to share just a few with you today.
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So, Henry from London, England, wrote:
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"I walk past the same homeless man every day on my way to work.
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Today I brought him breakfast,
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he was so grateful I stopped,
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it's going to be my daily give every day from now on."
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Arwoney from Lira, Uganda:
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"I took four children that live on a street near my home to lunch today.
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The children were so happy to have a meal,
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and for the first time in a long time they felt like somebody cared."
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Amy from Australia:
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"I'm a grade four teacher,
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and I started 365give, a daily giving practice, in my classroom."
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Well, this one - this one took me by surprise.
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Could you really teach 365give in a classroom?
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I didn't know, I was just a mom.
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But as fate has it,
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I get a call from my good friend Sarah.
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She's a local elementary school teacher
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and she says, "Jacqueline,
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I want to take the 365give concept into my classroom.
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Actually, my entire school."
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Well, we were both so excited, we went to work.
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We created an educational program,
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a tool for teachers that integrates a simple daily giving practice
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with their curriculum,
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we called it the 365give challenge.
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It's unique
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because it's powered by the kids.
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They choose how they're going to give,
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support causes and impact the world in ways that they choose.
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We started in Sarah's school,
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and I actually couldn't wait to hear how the kids were going to give.
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A few weeks into the challenge,
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I went down
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and I met with a grade two class, seven-year-old kids.
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When I walked into that classroom,
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I'm not sure who was more excited,
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me or the kids.
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First up was Arman,
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he waved his hand frantically,
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he just couldn't wait to tell me
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all about the fresh-baked cookies they had made
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and delivered to their local firehouse.
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They want to thank the firefighters for all they did in their community.
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Arman was just beaming with pride.
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Next up was Mia.
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Well, Mia's little cousin had suffered from cancer that year,
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and the kids, the entire class,
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they decided they were going to do a popcorn sale, right at school.
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They raised 252 dollars, over recess,
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and they donated it to a charity that supports kids with cancer.
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But this is the part that just about had me in tears
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because I could never have dreamed
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that my super fun family project with my son
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could cause a ripple to so many.
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And it's what their teacher, Mrs., said to me,
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"Jacqueline, my kids
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are understanding how their actions can make a better world.
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It's connected them to each other and their community,
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and most importantly, it's making my classroom happy."
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The 365give challenge has now touched over 5,000 children in 25 schools,
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and we have only just begun.
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(Cheers) (Applause)
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Thank you.
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(Cheers) (Applause)
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The kids are sharing their daily giving stories with other kids,
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and it's creating a ripple
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into their families, their communities, and around the world.
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The challenge was created for kids, but it's actually for all of us,
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doesn't matter where you live, what you do or how old you are.
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Just imagine if we all did it.
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It started with just one child giving every day,
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that's 365 daily gives.
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We shared, and it's rippled to right here,
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with all of you.
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Now, let's take everybody in this room,
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over 2,000 people, times 365 daily gives,
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that is over 700,000 daily gives.
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It's no longer just one child giving every day,
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but each and every one of us
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creating a better world, a happier world,
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and it's so simple a three-year-old can do it.
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It's a daily habit, just like brushing your teeth.
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Start your list today,
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take a look at your life, your world, your family, your day,
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do what works for you.