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  • Hello Everybody! Firstly I want to say

  • how very sorry I am that I have not uploaded

  • in two weeks.

  • I think that's the longest I've gone on this channel

  • for a really long time

  • without uploading.

  • I do have a good reason for it..

  • I have been so busy.

  • The reason I'm out of breath is I've just run to the top of the stairs..

  • ow, I've got a blister..

  • Always wear socks with trainers!

  • And the reason I'm out of breath is because I've run up all the stairs

  • and this room is like a sauna!

  • So I'm a sweaty mess.

  • I'm just gunna be a bit of a mess in this video I think.

  • I've had the same make-up on all day..

  • I'm just not really sure what this looks like.

  • But we're here! We're making a video!

  • And yeah, as I said, really sorry I have been so busy

  • it's actually unreal, and I didn't feel very well last week

  • so, here I am! Up in my attic!

  • Uh! Listen to the seagulls!

  • Aww it's like being back in my old flat on the sea front,

  • who remembers that?

  • I've got my legs open, this is not a good look, it's a good job you can't see!

  • I know you guys really like my more kinda chilled,

  • chatty videos or Q&As,

  • whether that's just me or with a friend.. umh..

  • and so I thought I would do one today! Do another little

  • chatty Q&A. Have I got lipstick on my teeth?

  • Nah. So the biggest portion of my viewership or

  • audience on YouTube are people over the age of

  • eighteen, but

  • there are still a huge, huge amount of you

  • who are under eighteen, and I always

  • notice a lot of you have a lot of questions about

  • what it was like for me being a teenager and how I

  • dealt with certain situations growing up

  • and I don't feel like I've ever done a video like this..

  • umh.. so, I asked you

  • all on Twitter if you had any.. oh and on Instagram actually!

  • I said on Instagram story, if you've got any questions

  • then, come Tweet me. I feel like the first thing

  • I should point out though is how different

  • it must be, being a teenager

  • to when I was a teenager, because funnily enough,

  • as much as I hate to admit it, that was actually quite a long

  • time ago for me, so I was

  • seventeen, ten years ago, so my early teens

  • was a wee while, I'll let you do the maths

  • and I get asked the same question quite a lot

  • which is, if you were a teenager now

  • how would you find it, and honestly

  • I don't know, I think you all deserve a medal

  • because things like social media

  • and Instagram, and likes and like this whole kind of

  • popularity thing

  • wasn't around when I was in school, we had MSN

  • messenger

  • and there was like AOL chat-rooms, and we

  • could text if we had credit, and

  • there is a huge part of me that is so thankful

  • that

  • things like MySpace,

  • Beebo, and Facebook, only really

  • happened, towards

  • the end of my teens. Which was the first one we had?

  • We had.. I feel like I had MySpace first, and then

  • Beebo, and I must have been fifteen, sixteen

  • And I feel like, no one really knew how to use

  • it, and it was all very new,

  • and it wasn't the same. Although I would say for any of

  • you nineties kids out there

  • who may have also use Beebo and MySpace, the only thing we

  • ever really had arguments about, was

  • in what order your friends were

  • In your top 8 friends. *laughs*

  • I used to hate doing that!

  • I think I used to shuffle mine, or put them on random, because it was like

  • That was, the only thing that caused rows in our friendship group

  • Or did it? I don't know; maybe I just secretly got really sad if i wasn't like at least someones top 5 *laughs*

  • The most interactions I ever had with people would be on MSN messenger

  • and in those days, you only had your friends - that was it.

  • and the only thing you really had to think about was which song lyrics you were gonna put in your MSM messenger like tagline

  • what was it called? bio? tagline? I can't remember

  • but hey! if we didnt have twitter you wouldnt have been able to ask me these questions

  • so...

  • theres that i guess!

  • Julia did actually ask "How do you think

  • being a teenager in present day differs from when you were a teen?

  • and I guess I sort of answered that. There's

  • more pressure now outside of your friendship group, which

  • I didn't have back then. The only

  • interaction with people who we were really friends with was

  • actual face to face conversation,

  • and then by the time we were sort of friends, that's when you'd get

  • their MSN and that's when you'd get their number, but

  • there wasn't that same

  • kinda of image to portrait on social media

  • I guess. I don't know, I would love to chat to

  • like a room of teenagers to find out how they really feel about it.

  • That would just be so great. Please let me know in the comments!

  • Let's have like a discussion about this. How do you feel

  • being a teen with things like Twitter,

  • Facebook.. things like Ask.fm. Honestly.. just sounds like a nightmare to me!

  • When I was at school someone created the like "Rate my teacher"

  • or something and that was about as like savage as it got.

  • "How do you control your hormones as a teenager?" and that is

  • by Shannon.

  • You can't!

  • Is the answer to that. You can't, really.

  • And actually when I think back to when

  • I was a teenager. Tean-ager? Teen-ager...

  • my hormones were quite

  • extreme, but it's only as I look

  • back at some of my behaviour..

  • I wasn't terrible, don't get me wrong, but my mood swings

  • and I remember I used to have arguments

  • with my mum and dad and I

  • definitely

  • struggled

  • with the hormones.

  • I wouldn't have ever admitted it at the time, but looking back I can

  • see that I did. Being a teenager is such a..

  • weird time, because

  • you've gone up to secondary school, you're

  • sort of trying to figure out who you are,

  • who your friends are, you're getting put with people

  • who

  • you might not necessarily have a lot in common with

  • but feel you need to be friends with and

  • you see these people every day

  • five days a week.. like for

  • a massive portion of your life.

  • No wonder you're gonna struggle with it

  • sometimes. So it's only natural again

  • when hormones are included within

  • that

  • that you are gonna struggle sometimes and also

  • you start to feel all the feels. You start to feel

  • sad, you start to feel jealous, you start to feel bitter,

  • you start to feel angry, you start to feel over

  • emotional, you start to feel overly

  • excited, overly happy. It's like all the

  • feels, all the emotions and all the feels

  • and I definitely had that.

  • Emh.. but

  • it made some of the best moments

  • and the best memories and some that I'd look

  • back on and be like, "wow, I was a beatch!"

  • to my parents and my brother probably. You need to remember

  • everyone else around you is also experiencing

  • that and it kinda varies

  • person by person and you know..

  • hormones affects people so differently,

  • but essentially you're all on the same boat and it's happening to everyone,

  • so don't feel weird or feel like

  • you have to control them in any way. I think hormones are something that's

  • very difficult to control but I do think

  • trying to find a bit of kinda you-time

  • and chill and have like a space that you like

  • to be in and to be able to go

  • and have a moment.. I think it's really important, so obviously

  • like.. your bedroom, like maybe ligh a candle, put some fairylights

  • on.. like it's about making yourself feel

  • at ease if everything is getting a little too much.

  • I feel like this video is gonna be really long cause I'm such a rambler.

  • Faith Dorsen said "Pressured to smoke/vape?"

  • I did not have a group of friends that ever

  • pressured me into anything, actually.

  • Umh.. but I have seen

  • where other people have felt pressured to do it.

  • And I guess I.. when I was a teen I did think..

  • See the thing is I never felt pressured by anyone else

  • and my parents weren't very like.. strict in that sense,

  • like they would never lecture me about don't drink,

  • don't smoke and..

  • They sorta left me and my brother to make decisions

  • ourselves, which I think was kind of clever,

  • because neither of us are very wild.

  • Uhm..

  • And.. I think the only pressure

  • I ever had was myself. Like I had friends

  • who smoked, who drank, I had..

  • I hung out with groups of people who were much, much

  • older than me doing worst things at house parties.

  • Some of those memories still haunt me to this day.

  • Some of the things I saw in house parties just..

  • I don't think you should see it as like a fifteen or sixteen years old to be quite honest, but

  • I never felt like I needed to do that.

  • I didn't feel like I needed to..

  • smoke or drink or do drugs.

  • I just.. I kind of..

  • watched everyone else do it and I was like, "that doesn't really look fun,

  • I think he just looks stupid"! Like I just used to look

  • at people and just be like, "you just look stupid"! I don't know,

  • like.. it..

  • for me it was like.. it was actually quite like a.. turn off?

  • I was just a bit like.. "ugh, no.. that's not for me!"

  • Umh.. and the only sort of like pressure I had really

  • was me at the back of my head thinking

  • "but I am a teen, like.. should I be trying these things? Like..

  • shoud I be.." It was almost like it was me

  • pressurizing myself? It was weird! It was like.. well I guess

  • everyone should try something once in their life!

  • Turns out.. you don't really have to because

  • I can see what everyone else is doing and I really don't feel like I was

  • missing out and luckly I wasn't

  • within a group of friends where I felt pressured.

  • Umh.. but

  • I know I would've stood

  • my ground and just said "no, I'm okay, thanks" and I do think

  • if you ever feel that pressured within a group of friends

  • you have to put your foot down because you'll never look

  • back on that memory of trying something for the first time

  • and feel confortable about it because

  • you'll never be too sure if you really wanted to or not

  • and I'm just not sure that that's a nice

  • way to ever do anything. I think everything

  • you do and everything you experience should ultimately be down

  • to you because it's your life. If anyone

  • is making you feel pressured to have sex, to smoke,

  • to drink, to do anything you are not hundred percent

  • confortable with

  • say no

  • and if they are your friends they will understand that

  • and if they don't understand that they are not your friends. "Did

  • you ever question your body or feel insicure about your figure?

  • How did you overcome it?"

  • Yes! I feel like I've touched on this a little bit

  • in my Question I've Never Answered.

  • I went through a stage where

  • I had grown in height and

  • I was super skinny

  • and all my friends were getting like hips and boobs

  • and a bum and I was still a bit like.. ugh,

  • when's mine coming?

  • And then

  • they happened and they happened very quickly

  • so my boob.. it's like I almost woke up one day and my boobs were there and my bum was there.

  • So now I've got like stretchmarks , umh..

  • and

  • for a while I didn't like it

  • because it almost made me look skinnier?

  • Because it was like.. ugh, these boobs don't like..

  • go with my body and like.. I don't look