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Hello Everybody! Firstly I want to say
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how very sorry I am that I have not uploaded
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in two weeks.
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I think that's the longest I've gone on this channel
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for a really long time
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without uploading.
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I do have a good reason for it..
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I have been so busy.
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The reason I'm out of breath is I've just run to the top of the stairs..
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ow, I've got a blister..
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Always wear socks with trainers!
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And the reason I'm out of breath is because I've run up all the stairs
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and this room is like a sauna!
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So I'm a sweaty mess.
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I'm just gunna be a bit of a mess in this video I think.
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I've had the same make-up on all day..
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I'm just not really sure what this looks like.
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But we're here! We're making a video!
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And yeah, as I said, really sorry I have been so busy
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it's actually unreal, and I didn't feel very well last week
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so, here I am! Up in my attic!
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Uh! Listen to the seagulls!
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Aww it's like being back in my old flat on the sea front,
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who remembers that?
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I've got my legs open, this is not a good look, it's a good job you can't see!
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I know you guys really like my more kinda chilled,
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chatty videos or Q&As,
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whether that's just me or with a friend.. umh..
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and so I thought I would do one today! Do another little
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chatty Q&A. Have I got lipstick on my teeth?
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Nah. So the biggest portion of my viewership or
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audience on YouTube are people over the age of
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eighteen, but
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there are still a huge, huge amount of you
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who are under eighteen, and I always
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notice a lot of you have a lot of questions about
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what it was like for me being a teenager and how I
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dealt with certain situations growing up
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and I don't feel like I've ever done a video like this..
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umh.. so, I asked you
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all on Twitter if you had any.. oh and on Instagram actually!
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I said on Instagram story, if you've got any questions
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then, come Tweet me. I feel like the first thing
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I should point out though is how different
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it must be, being a teenager
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to when I was a teenager, because funnily enough,
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as much as I hate to admit it, that was actually quite a long
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time ago for me, so I was
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seventeen, ten years ago, so my early teens
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was a wee while, I'll let you do the maths
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and I get asked the same question quite a lot
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which is, if you were a teenager now
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how would you find it, and honestly
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I don't know, I think you all deserve a medal
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because things like social media
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and Instagram, and likes and like this whole kind of
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popularity thing
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wasn't around when I was in school, we had MSN
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messenger
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and there was like AOL chat-rooms, and we
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could text if we had credit, and
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there is a huge part of me that is so thankful
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that
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things like MySpace,
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Beebo, and Facebook, only really
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happened, towards
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the end of my teens. Which was the first one we had?
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We had.. I feel like I had MySpace first, and then
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Beebo, and I must have been fifteen, sixteen
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And I feel like, no one really knew how to use
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it, and it was all very new,
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and it wasn't the same. Although I would say for any of
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you nineties kids out there
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who may have also use Beebo and MySpace, the only thing we
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ever really had arguments about, was
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in what order your friends were
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In your top 8 friends. *laughs*
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I used to hate doing that!
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I think I used to shuffle mine, or put them on random, because it was like
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That was, the only thing that caused rows in our friendship group
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Or did it? I don't know; maybe I just secretly got really sad if i wasn't like at least someones top 5 *laughs*
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The most interactions I ever had with people would be on MSN messenger
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and in those days, you only had your friends - that was it.
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and the only thing you really had to think about was which song lyrics you were gonna put in your MSM messenger like tagline
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what was it called? bio? tagline? I can't remember
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but hey! if we didnt have twitter you wouldnt have been able to ask me these questions
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so...
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theres that i guess!
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Julia did actually ask "How do you think
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being a teenager in present day differs from when you were a teen?
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and I guess I sort of answered that. There's
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more pressure now outside of your friendship group, which
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I didn't have back then. The only
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interaction with people who we were really friends with was
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actual face to face conversation,
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and then by the time we were sort of friends, that's when you'd get
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their MSN and that's when you'd get their number, but
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there wasn't that same
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kinda of image to portrait on social media
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I guess. I don't know, I would love to chat to
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like a room of teenagers to find out how they really feel about it.
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That would just be so great. Please let me know in the comments!
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Let's have like a discussion about this. How do you feel
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being a teen with things like Twitter,
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Facebook.. things like Ask.fm. Honestly.. just sounds like a nightmare to me!
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When I was at school someone created the like "Rate my teacher"
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or something and that was about as like savage as it got.
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"How do you control your hormones as a teenager?" and that is
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by Shannon.
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You can't!
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Is the answer to that. You can't, really.
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And actually when I think back to when
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I was a teenager. Tean-ager? Teen-ager...
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my hormones were quite
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extreme, but it's only as I look
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back at some of my behaviour..
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I wasn't terrible, don't get me wrong, but my mood swings
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and I remember I used to have arguments
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with my mum and dad and I
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definitely
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struggled
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with the hormones.
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I wouldn't have ever admitted it at the time, but looking back I can
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see that I did. Being a teenager is such a..
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weird time, because
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you've gone up to secondary school, you're
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sort of trying to figure out who you are,
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who your friends are, you're getting put with people
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who
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you might not necessarily have a lot in common with
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but feel you need to be friends with and
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you see these people every day
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five days a week.. like for
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a massive portion of your life.
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No wonder you're gonna struggle with it
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sometimes. So it's only natural again
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when hormones are included within
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that
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that you are gonna struggle sometimes and also
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you start to feel all the feels. You start to feel
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sad, you start to feel jealous, you start to feel bitter,
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you start to feel angry, you start to feel over
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emotional, you start to feel overly
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excited, overly happy. It's like all the
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feels, all the emotions and all the feels
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and I definitely had that.
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Emh.. but
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it made some of the best moments
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and the best memories and some that I'd look
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back on and be like, "wow, I was a beatch!"
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to my parents and my brother probably. You need to remember
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everyone else around you is also experiencing
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that and it kinda varies
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person by person and you know..
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hormones affects people so differently,
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but essentially you're all on the same boat and it's happening to everyone,
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so don't feel weird or feel like
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you have to control them in any way. I think hormones are something that's
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very difficult to control but I do think
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trying to find a bit of kinda you-time
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and chill and have like a space that you like
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to be in and to be able to go
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and have a moment.. I think it's really important, so obviously
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like.. your bedroom, like maybe ligh a candle, put some fairylights
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on.. like it's about making yourself feel
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at ease if everything is getting a little too much.
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I feel like this video is gonna be really long cause I'm such a rambler.
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Faith Dorsen said "Pressured to smoke/vape?"
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I did not have a group of friends that ever
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pressured me into anything, actually.
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Umh.. but I have seen
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where other people have felt pressured to do it.
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And I guess I.. when I was a teen I did think..
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See the thing is I never felt pressured by anyone else
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and my parents weren't very like.. strict in that sense,
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like they would never lecture me about don't drink,
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don't smoke and..
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They sorta left me and my brother to make decisions
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ourselves, which I think was kind of clever,
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because neither of us are very wild.
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Uhm..
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And.. I think the only pressure
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I ever had was myself. Like I had friends
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who smoked, who drank, I had..
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I hung out with groups of people who were much, much
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older than me doing worst things at house parties.
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Some of those memories still haunt me to this day.
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Some of the things I saw in house parties just..
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I don't think you should see it as like a fifteen or sixteen years old to be quite honest, but
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I never felt like I needed to do that.
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I didn't feel like I needed to..
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smoke or drink or do drugs.
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I just.. I kind of..
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watched everyone else do it and I was like, "that doesn't really look fun,
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I think he just looks stupid"! Like I just used to look
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at people and just be like, "you just look stupid"! I don't know,
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like.. it..
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for me it was like.. it was actually quite like a.. turn off?
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I was just a bit like.. "ugh, no.. that's not for me!"
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Umh.. and the only sort of like pressure I had really
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was me at the back of my head thinking
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"but I am a teen, like.. should I be trying these things? Like..
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shoud I be.." It was almost like it was me
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pressurizing myself? It was weird! It was like.. well I guess
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everyone should try something once in their life!
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Turns out.. you don't really have to because
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I can see what everyone else is doing and I really don't feel like I was
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missing out and luckly I wasn't
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within a group of friends where I felt pressured.
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Umh.. but
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I know I would've stood
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my ground and just said "no, I'm okay, thanks" and I do think
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if you ever feel that pressured within a group of friends
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you have to put your foot down because you'll never look
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back on that memory of trying something for the first time
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and feel confortable about it because
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you'll never be too sure if you really wanted to or not
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and I'm just not sure that that's a nice
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way to ever do anything. I think everything
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you do and everything you experience should ultimately be down
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to you because it's your life. If anyone
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is making you feel pressured to have sex, to smoke,
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to drink, to do anything you are not hundred percent
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confortable with
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say no
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and if they are your friends they will understand that
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and if they don't understand that they are not your friends. "Did
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you ever question your body or feel insicure about your figure?
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How did you overcome it?"
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Yes! I feel like I've touched on this a little bit
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in my Question I've Never Answered.
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I went through a stage where
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I had grown in height and
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I was super skinny
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and all my friends were getting like hips and boobs
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and a bum and I was still a bit like.. ugh,
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when's mine coming?
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And then
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they happened and they happened very quickly
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so my boob.. it's like I almost woke up one day and my boobs were there and my bum was there.
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So now I've got like stretchmarks , umh..
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and
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for a while I didn't like it
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because it almost made me look skinnier?
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Because it was like.. ugh, these boobs don't like..
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go with my body and like.. I don't look