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  • - Hi, I'm Ashley Weston.

  • I'm a celebrity menswear stylist.

  • So today I am joined by my fiance, Dorian.

  • - Hello, hello.

  • - So the last video we did together,

  • we talked about seven great conversation starters

  • and we got pretty much an overwhelming response

  • from you guys out there to do a video

  • about how to get out of a conversation.

  • It's so hard.

  • - You struggle with this.

  • - There is an art to ending a conversation

  • because the goal is to end it gracefully

  • and you don't want to leave them

  • with a kind of a bothered feeling.

  • - I believe it's called a bad taste in your mouth.

  • - Yes, number one on the list.

  • So, this is actually, I don't know why

  • I can never think to do this,

  • but it actually really works.

  • It's so great and then it is when

  • you're having a conversation with that person

  • and then you're like, hey, it was really great meeting you.

  • Or it was really great chatting with you.

  • Done, instant conversation ender

  • and it's on a pleasant note.

  • Right?

  • - Yeah, it definitely, like if you

  • can feel a lull in the conversation

  • and you get into like the,

  • so, and you can see the person kinda looking around,

  • it's like, okay, time to get out.

  • As they say with a good joke too,

  • go out on a high note.

  • So, you just say, hey, so it was really nice to meet you.

  • Hopefully, we'll run into each other again

  • or if you need to connect after that.

  • But I also use this one as the nuclear option

  • when someone is just talking to you

  • and is just like, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah

  • and you literally can't get a word in edgewise,

  • then I literally just like,

  • hey, so it was really nice to meet you.

  • Have a great rest of your day.

  • And then I just bail, 'cause at that point

  • it's just, it's not gonna go well

  • and then you're just gonna keep getting

  • stuck in that conversation

  • so I'll definitely thrust that one out there, too

  • and there is no, I've never had a talker

  • continue on after that point

  • 'cause it's just like boom.

  • Like, I'm done.

  • - So this is gonna work in every situation

  • and will gracefully get you out of that conversation.

  • You're done.

  • - Or its a blunt instrument.

  • - Yeah.

  • This next point kinda just builds off

  • of the first conversation ender we talked about.

  • So, it's when you just say, you know what?

  • I'm gonna go say hi to the host.

  • It was really great to meet you.

  • Or it was really great catching up.

  • - Yeah, I think the number one point

  • can always be added to the end

  • of all the other points after this

  • because it's just a nice way to end a conversation,

  • but you gotta find that point to be like, hey,

  • there's my exit point.

  • Hey, so I'm gonna go say hello to the host.

  • I just saw them walk in

  • or I just saw them.

  • I haven't seen them this whole party or whatever.

  • So it was great to meet you.

  • Take care and then done, you're out.

  • So it's an excuse to get out of the conversation

  • as opposed to just like, hey,

  • it was super nice to meet you

  • where it's like an indicator like this is clearly over

  • regardless of what you're going to say next.

  • So it's a good one.

  • - The next conversation ender

  • is I think it can be a little tough to do,

  • for myself anyway, but it's when you say

  • oh, so have you met so and so

  • and you grab a person, like grab a friend.

  • - So, if I'm trying to mess with someone a little bit,

  • not the person I'm having a conversation with,

  • like maybe I just want to get out of that conversation

  • and I see a buddy of mine walking by

  • and I know they can handle themselves

  • in a conversation, I'll be like,

  • oh my gosh, have you met so and so?

  • And I'll literally grab my buddy

  • and just drag him in and he's like

  • and then I'll introduce them

  • and I'll be like, so, I'm gonna go grab a drink

  • or hit the bathroom and then I just leave my buddy

  • to kinda flounder and then I get a kick

  • out of literally just standing around

  • and like watching them like trying

  • to figure each other out, like why they're introduced.

  • - That's so weird.

  • - Bit of a dick move.

  • - Well, not, I mean to you--

  • - It can be.

  • - To your friend, but not necessarily

  • to the person you're talking with.

  • - If you see someone who's relevant to the conversation

  • or something like that or someone you can tell

  • is just kinda wandering around and they're looking

  • for a place, it's always a very nice thing

  • so it can be a nice thing, too,

  • to grab someone and introduce them to the conversation

  • and the person you're talking to.

  • And then it gives you an opportunity

  • to kinda bow out as well.

  • - Yeah, no, I totally agree with that

  • because I know a lot of times

  • I'll be in a conversation with someone

  • and then they'll be like, okay,

  • well, I'm gonna go.

  • It was great talking with you

  • and then I'm there by myself and I'm like,

  • shit, I don't have anyone else to talk to.

  • So it's nice actually when that person

  • that you're talking to introduces you

  • to another person to kinda continue

  • the flow and all of that good stuff.

  • So the firth.

  • (laughing)

  • So the fourth way of ending a conversation

  • is by saying, hey, I'm gonna go grab a drink

  • or I'm gonna go grab some food,

  • but it was really great chatting with you.

  • - Yeah, so I like that one a lot.

  • It's a very easy exit.

  • You can also throw in, excuse me,

  • I've gotta use the restroom

  • and then anytime I've ever done that

  • or anyone else has ever done that,

  • you basically won't circle back with that person.

  • You'll be like, okay, I'm done.

  • So anyway.

  • Unless you're super excited to get chatting

  • with them again.

  • But yeah, it's a great like, not offensive way

  • to exit a conversation and it works.

  • - Before we get into the last

  • and final conversation ender,

  • I actually have a question for you.

  • So, I've definitely been in a situation

  • where it's a seated dinner

  • and maybe I don't know everyone around me

  • and there's the person next to me

  • that is just chatting my ear off,

  • but I also want to be able to talk

  • to the other people around me,

  • how do you get out of that kind of conversation

  • because they're literally right there

  • and just talking to you.

  • So, I always, like I was just two weeks ago

  • at a dinner party and this happened to me

  • and I was trying to think

  • of ways to get out of it

  • 'cause I'm like, dude, I wanna meet other people, too.

  • - It's a tough one.

  • When you're in like, when you have like a captive

  • audience where you literally can't move,

  • there's two ways to go about that one.

  • You can use kind of the earlier point

  • which is, excuse me for a second,

  • and when you're at a table,

  • you don't need to say I need to use the restroom.

  • You just say excuse me for a second,

  • then you go and it's kind of implied

  • you're going to use the restroom.

  • And at least it gives you a reprieve

  • and then they can kind of reset

  • and then they'll probably look

  • for other people around them to talk to.

  • So you literally pull yourself

  • out of the conversation and then

  • you walk back in and then

  • I would start talking to the other people around me.

  • Or, if that's not possible, for whatever reason,

  • then you say, hey, in the conversation

  • you're kinda stuck in with this person,

  • you're like, hey, have you talked to so and so

  • across the table?

  • They're like, no I haven't.

  • Well, let's see what,

  • it sounds like they're saying something interesting.

  • Let's hear what, let's get in this one.

  • And then they'll usually come along with you.

  • So those are the two ways

  • that I use when I'm at a dinner party

  • and I'm kind of, you're literally like

  • stuck next to that person.

  • - So, let's get into the last and final point.

  • You gotta be careful about when you use this,

  • but it's, you know, you're talking to the person

  • and then a phantom vibration of the phone happens

  • and you're like, oh, you know, I gotta get this.

  • It was really great chatting with you.

  • And then you excuse yourself and leave.

  • I've never done that.

  • - It might be harder for women

  • because you have a purse.

  • - Yeah.

  • - But if you have your phone in your hand

  • or something like that.

  • I always have my phone on vibrate

  • so no one's gonna hear the buzzing anyways.

  • So I've definitely done it before.

  • It's a bit of a risky one,

  • but, you know, I've definitely been like,

  • oh, I'll do the motion

  • and I'll pull out my phone and look at it

  • and be like, I'm really sorry.

  • I have to take care of something real quick,

  • but it was nice meeting you.

  • See how you can always combo it at the end

  • and it's not like a bad thing,

  • but I've definitely done that one.

  • Normally I'll just go with the nuclear option

  • which is, very nice meeting you.

  • But if I really am feeling bad about it or something

  • then I'll take my phone out and feign

  • that something important has come up.

  • It works, I'll be honest with you.

  • - These are five conversation enders

  • that actually do work.

  • To see how to get into conversations,

  • I'll link that video in the description below.

  • Dorian, thank you so much for being on today's show.

  • - Glad to help.

  • - If you like this video, give it a thumbs up.

  • Subscribe to my channel for videos like this

  • and if there is a conversation ender

  • that you use that you think works amazing,

  • leave it in the comment section below.

  • I always like to get new ideas

  • 'cause I definitely have,

  • I have some difficulty getting out of conversations.

  • Alright, anyways, have a great day, bye.

- Hi, I'm Ashley Weston.

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