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  • It is a quirk of our minds that not every emotion we carry is fully acknowledged, understood

  • or even truly felt. There are feelings that exist in anunprocessedform within

  • us. A great many worries may, for example, remain disavowed and uninterpreted and manifest

  • themselves as powerful directionless anxiety. Under their sway, we may feel a compulsive

  • need to remain busy, fear spending any time on our own or cling to activities that ensure

  • we don’t meet what scares us head on (these might include internet pornography, tracking

  • the news or exercising compulsively). A similar kind of disavowal can go on around hurt. Someone

  • may have abused our trust, made us doubt their kindness or violated our self-esteem but we

  • are driven to flee a frank recognition of an appalling degree of exposure and vulnerability.

  • The hurt is somewhere inside, but on the surface, we adopt a brittle good cheer (jolliness being

  • sadness that doesn’t know itself), we numb ourselves chemically or else adopt a carefully

  • non-specific tone of cynicism, which masks the specific wound that has been inflicted

  • on us. We pay dearly for our failure toprocessour feelings. Our minds grow unoriginal from

  • a background apprehension as to their contents. We grow depressed about everything because

  • we cannot be sad about something. We can no longer sleep, insomnia being the revenge of

  • all the many thoughts we have omitted to process in the day. We need compassion for ourselves.

  • We avoid processing emotions because what we feel is so contrary to our self-image,

  • so threatening to our society’s ideas of normality and so at odds with who we would

  • like to be. An atmosphere conducive to processing would be one in which the difficulties of

  • being human were warmly recognised and charitably accepted. We fail to know ourselves not out

  • of laziness or casual neglect; it simply hurts a lot. Processing emotions requires good friends,

  • deft therapists and ritual moments like Philosophical Meditation, in which our normal defences can

  • safely be put aside and unfamiliar material ring fenced for investigation. The outcome

  • of processing our emotions is always an alleviation in our overall mood. But first we must pay

  • for our self-awareness with a period of mourning in which we gradually acknowledge that, in

  • some area or other, life is simply a lot sadder than we would want it to be

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It is a quirk of our minds that not every emotion we carry is fully acknowledged, understood

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How to Process Your Emotions

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    osmend posted on 2017/09/18
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