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  • It’s clear that a great many of us eat too much. And in response, a huge industry has

  • grown up which advises us to consume more quinoa, pomegranate and fennel salad and,

  • as often as we can, kale and apple soup. But this is entirely to misunderstand why we start

  • eating excessive amounts. It has nothing to do food, and therefore trying to change our

  • diet isn’t the most logical place to focus our efforts. We eat too much because what

  • were really hungry for isn’t available. Of course, it looks as if everything we could

  • want should be to hand. Our supermarkets and delis are iconic temples of consumer society.

  • Our restaurants spare no effort trying to satisfy us.

  • Could sir or madam be tempted by lobster thermidor? Or a selection of regional vegetables drizzled

  • with olive oil sourced from a tiny farm in the Pyrenees? But if we could really choose

  • anything, wouldn’t we want a slightly different menu? For example: Unstressed conversation

  • of father, marinaded in mutual forgiveness. Tenderised maternal love* (* suitable for

  • those on a criticism-free diet).

  • Ripe friendship served on wry banter accompanied by a side serving of affectionate teasing.

  • Fresh conversation, liberally sprinkled with poignant anecdotes (for two). Sexual appreciation

  • with all the trimmings (our sommelier recommends, as the ideal accompaniment, a glass of full-bodied

  • Chateau Fantaisie). And for dessert, perhaps A generous scoop of honeyed insight.

  • In other words, it isn’t food we crave. The menus of our actual restaurants (however

  • chic) prompt us only in very limited and restricted directions. They understandand respond

  • to only a desperately narrow segment of our true appetites. Collectively, we speak

  • so much of food, and so little of what we properly need. It isn’t pizza, Spanish cheese

  • or Argentinian steak. We need friendship where we can confess our darkest anxieties and be

  • heard and forgiven; we need help in calming down at key moments, reassured that we can

  • withstand the very worst that may be coming our way. We are lonely and angry within our

  • own families and are crying out for redemption and cathartic honesty. We need someone who

  • can help us discover our real talents in the workplace and offer us a guide to realise

  • our true potential. We know that, when reaching for a tube of

  • potato chips or biting into yet another burrito that the problem doesn’t lie there. We just

  • don’t know where else to turn and there is, at least, a short-term satisfaction to

  • be found. We eat too much because we hate ourselves too intensely to have the necessary

  • respect for our own bodies. Our tragedy isn’t our unconstrained appetite. But rather, the

  • difficulty we have in getting access to the emotional and psychological things that would

  • nourish our broken souls. The diet industry has latched onto the symptoms of our unhappiness,

  • not their causesand therefore the solutions it offers can only ever be temporary and fragile.

  • It can’t make us lastingly thin because it is not engaging with what made us manically

  • fat. A couple of hundred years ago it was almost impossible for most people to find

  • anything very pleasant to eat. Since then, a vast quantity of human ingenuity has been

  • devoted to enticing the palate. We have succeeded beyond our wildest expectations. But in so

  • many other areas, we have hardly begun to supply ourselves reliably with what we long

  • to consume, which are, to put it plainly: understanding, tenderness, forgiveness, reconciliation

  • and closeness. We eat too much not because we are (as we brutally accuse ourselves) greedy,

  • but because we live in a world where the shelves are still bare of the real ingredients we crave.

  • At The School Of Life we believe in developing emotional intelligence. To that end we have

  • also created a whole range of products to support that growth.

  • Find out more at the link on your screen now.

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    osmend posted on 2017/09/18
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