Placeholder Image

Subtitles section Play video

  • It can be so hard to forgive becauseso oftenwe simply are in the right and the

  • scale of the folly, thoughtlessness and meanness of others seems utterly beyond our own measure.

  • But there are two inviolable ideas which should nevertheless, in the face of the grossest

  • behavior, be kept in mind to increase our chances of being able to forgive.

  • Firstly: we must remember how the other person got there, to this place of idiocy and cruelty.

  • Every irritating fault in another person has a long history behind it. They have become

  • like this because of flaws in their development, which they did not choose for themselves.

  • They were shaped by troublestroubles which we cannot see but which we know must exist. The arrogant

  • person was trapped (at some key point in their personal evolution) in an environment where

  • being modest and reasonable seemed to guarantee they’d be trampled on. The hyper-critical

  • individual has lived too much, as their personality was growing, around people who couldn’t

  • take a gentle hintso they came to rely on blunt assertions. The frustratingly timid,

  • mousy person was (at some stage) terrified; the show-off learned their irritating manner

  • around people who were hard to please. Behind every failingbehind everything that’s

  • wrong and infuriating about those we meetis a decisive trauma encountered before

  • someone could cope with it properly. They are maddening but they got to be this way

  • without meaning to. To forgive is to understand the origins of evil and cruelty. Secondly,

  • and very strangely, there are difficult things about you too. Of course, not in this area.

  • Not in any area remotely connected to the sort of lapses that destroy your faith in

  • humanity. But in some areas, quiet areas that you forget about as soon as youve travelled

  • through them, you too are a deeply imperfect and questionable individual. Gently, you have

  • in your own waybetrayed. Nicely, you have been a coward. Modestly, you have

  • forgotten your privileges. Unthinkingly, you have added salt to the wounds of others. We

  • don’t need to know anything about you to know this as a certainty. We must forgive

  • becausenot right now, not over this, but one day, over somethingwe need to

  • be forgiven. We wouldin the pastregularly have looked up to the heavens for this forgiveness.

  • We do that less and less nowadays. But that doesn’t attenuate the need for some moments when we

  • limber up to utter that most implausible wordsorry’ – or indeed stretch our ethical

  • imagination in order to pronounce those even more arduous and unnatural sounding words, ‘I forgive you.

  • The School Of Life isn't just a YouTube Channel, it's an actual school where you can go and take classes.

  • We have branches in ten locations around the world. To find out more click the link on the screen now.

It can be so hard to forgive becauseso oftenwe simply are in the right and the

Subtitles and vocabulary

Operation of videos Adjust the video here to display the subtitles

B1 UK forgive irritating cruelty coward timid folly

How To Forgive

  • 15365 1598
    韓澐 posted on 2017/08/17
Video vocabulary