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  • There just ain't no love.

  • We just get right into it, don't we?

  • What is love?

  • Baby, don't hurt me.

  • Hey, it’s Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV.

  • The place to be to create a business and life that you love.

  • Now, if you've got some bad habits that just keep derailing your success and you are

  • ready to break them for good, this episode, my friend, is a must watch.

  • Now, here's why we're talking about this.

  • A few weeks ago during a company meeting someone asked for some ideas to break a late night

  • cookies and ice cream habit.

  • This person said, and I quote, “It's like I turn into a child at 9 PM and I have to

  • have my cookies and my ice cream before bed.

  • This needs to stop.”

  • And, I mean, I could relate.

  • I don't think that there's any human on the planet who, at any given time, doesn't

  • have at least one habit that really needs to get kicked to the curb.

  • Well, it turns out that there’s a simple two word fix that can dramatically increase

  • our ability to resist temptation and it gives us a better chance to make a better choice.

  • Now, this is based on research done by Dr. Vanessa Patrick.

  • She’s a professor of marketing at the University of Houston who published her findings on the

  • power of self talk in the journal of Consumer Research.

  • She found that when participants framed a refusal as “I don't,” for instance, “I

  • don't eat chocolate cakeor “I don't eat sugar,” instead of “I can’t,”

  • they were more successful at resisting the desire to eat unhealthy foods or skip the

  • gym.

  • In fact, they found that when it came to deciding whether to eat certain foods, saying "I

  • don't" was nearly three times as effective as saying "no" and about eight times

  • more effective than saying "I can't."

  • Very interesting, right?

  • I don't versus I can't.

  • Two teeny tiny words that can make a ginormous difference.

  • And here's why.

  • When we say "I don’t," we are empowered.

  • We're determined.

  • We are at choice.

  • It's a tough, strong phrase like, end of story.

  • But when we say “I can't,” we disempower ourselves.

  • It sounds like we're not allowed to do something by some outside force.

  • You know what?

  • We make ourselves feel deprived when we say “I can't.”

  • And in essence, we make ourselves weak, whiny little b**ches like, “Wah, I can't have

  • the cookie.”

  • Now, what's even cooler though is we can tuck this little trick into every corner of

  • our lives.

  • We can start making some clear, strong declarations, like this.

  • I don't eat Skinny Pop every night.

  • I don't look at my phone during dinner.

  • I don't unnecessarily tjuz the MarieTV set.

  • I don't put the toilet seat down.

  • I don't refer to everyone whose name I don't immediately remember as Chimichanga.

  • I don't show up to the set of MarieTV nude starting tomorrow.

  • I don't stay up until 3AM watching bear attack videos rubbing fried chicken all over my thighs.

  • I don't say no to new experiences.

  • I don't shave.

  • Pretty awesome, right?

  • And if you ever forget about this little two word miracle I want you to power up this tweetable.

  • When you need the strength to resist a bad habit, I don't is stronger than I can’t.

  • Now I would love to hear from you.

  • Okay, what’s the one habit that, if youre super duper honest with yourself, is derailing

  • your success or your happiness?

  • Is it eating a certain food, is it checking social media when you should be writing or

  • creating?

  • Is it binge watching some just dumb stuff on Netflix all night long?

  • No matter what it is, in the comments below tell me what, as of this moment, you will

  • no longer do using the phrase “I don't.”

  • As always, the very best conversations happen at the magical land of MarieForleo.com, so

  • head on over there and leave a comment now.

  • And once you are there, be sure to subscribe to our email list and become an MF Insider.

  • Youll get instant access to a powerful audio training I created calledHow to

  • Get Anything You Want.”

  • It’s really good.

  • Youre also gonna get some exclusive content, special giveaways, and personal updates from

  • me that I just don't share anywhere else.

  • Stay on your game and keep going for your dreams because the world does need that very

  • special gift that only you have.

  • Thank you so much for watching and I’ll catch you next time on MarieTV.

  • I don't frequently tell Zach to sit directly on top of this.

  • Yay!

  • You got breakfast!

  • I don't make my team dress up.

  • Oh, boy.

  • I don't say no to Marie.

  • Like the bass jelly just gets to settle.

  • Alright.

  • The jiggle gets to settle.

  • I don't even know the meaning of the word no.

There just ain't no love.

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Struggling to Break a Bad Habit? Science Says You Should Do This

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