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  • Hey, it's Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business

  • and life that you love.

  • Now, if you're somebody who feels oddly alone with all your freedom working from home,

  • this episode is for you.

  • Today's question comes from Megan and she writes:

  • Hi, Marie.

  • You have a great show and tons of good advice.

  • I started working from home for an online business just as I moved to a new town where

  • I know nobody.

  • The first year my job gave me a great paycheck and more freedom than ever.

  • Yay!

  • Yet my soul was longing for connection and casual face time with others.

  • Social media and texts does not fill that void for me.

  • I've never felt so out of sync.

  • There were times when I only talked with the daycare people when I picked up my kids for

  • 2 weeks at a stretch.

  • Everything else was email.

  • There's a reason that isolation is effective punishment in prisons.

  • I'd love for you to talk about ways bosses can acknowledge this new world phenomenon.

  • Workers don't want to admit that they feel an utter lack of connection and feel completely

  • alone all day.

  • After all, who wants to pay a socially silly loser that feels lonely on the job?

  • So my question is this, do you have any suggestions to avoid getting sucked into isolation, do

  • my work productively, and keep myself emotionally healthy and connected?

  • Thanks so much, Megan.

  • Megan, this is an awesome question.

  • As millions more people start working from home, whether it's part time or full time,

  • the issue of loneliness and isolation, it's real.

  • I mean, it's actually something that we've dealt with in our company.

  • Now, I'm going to tell you some of the strategies that we've used and some other ideas for

  • you in just a few minutes, but first I need to address one thing.

  • I don't think that you can place responsibility on your boss or think that your bosses are

  • unsympathetic and don't care about you personally.

  • I mean, bosses, we're not mind readers.

  • Right?

  • And the only way that they can support you is if you speak up and not only communicate

  • about a challenge, but also bring them proposed solutions.

  • Look, being a boss myself, I can tell you firsthand that we are busy busting our humps

  • trying to keep the lights on in our business and doing everything we possibly can to keep

  • our people employed.

  • And of course every boss, including myself, wants their team to be absolutely happy and

  • productive, but we need you to be proactive, to talk about what's up for you, and to

  • propose solutions, not just bring us complaints or problems.

  • I also want to say as someone who runs a virtual company that this is a very real issue for

  • some team members, but not all of them.

  • So it's not wise to expect bosses to force more interaction for people who don't want

  • it or need it.

  • That's why it is so vital that each of us take responsibility for ourselves, that we

  • communicate openly, and we be really proactive and look for ways to not only take care of

  • what we need, but also be sensitive to others and to the well being of the company itself.

  • Now, with that said, I've gotta say Megan, I totally feel ya.

  • It's great to have the freedom of not punching a clock and not even taking a shower if you

  • don't want and not even wearing pants.

  • I mean, sometimes I don't wear pants.

  • But boy, it can get lonely.

  • And, as you said, it can even feel prison like.

  • Oh, the laptop lifestyle.

  • I'm so free.

  • Got no shoes on, no shower, no problem.

  • Hello?

  • Hello?

  • Is anyone there?

  • Are there snacks?

  • Seriously though, if this is how you're feeling, here are 8 really smart strategies

  • to help you fight that loneliness when you're working from home and you're all alone.

  • Number one, get your social fix outside of work.

  • So I know you said you're in a new town and that can be really, really tough, but

  • you can't expect people to just knock on your door and bring you cookies.

  • I mean, I know you know this, but you've gotta get out there.

  • And I want you to start building real relationships.

  • And you can just do it one at a time.

  • Once you do, make this your focus.

  • You've got to plan things.

  • I do this all the time because, again, I can relate to you.

  • I plan trips to Great Adventure to go on roller coasters, I make dates with my friends to

  • go to the movies, to do weekend getaways, just to come over and have dinner at my place

  • even if we order in.

  • Again, the whole focus is build those relationships and then plan, plan, plan.

  • Number two, you should consider a coworking space.

  • So since remote work is growing so quickly, there are coworking spaces popping up everywhere.

  • So have a look around your new neighborhood.

  • And one benefit here is that you get to meet people who are in the same position doing

  • kind of similar things, meaning they're either working alone or they're working

  • virtually without a big, huge corporate office to go to every day.

  • Number three, and this is one that I do a lot too, work outside the house.

  • So if you don't opt for a coworking space, at least get your butt out once or twice a

  • week.

  • So you can go work from the park or a coffee shop, just anything that will give you a change

  • of scenery and a chance to be around other humans.

  • Plus you'll start to get to know people in your community.

  • And I've gotta say, having simple conversations with someone other than your pet can do wonders.

  • Number four, schedule regular group chats.

  • So, for example, our customer happiness team meets daily on the phone and they don't just

  • talk about work or what's happening in the company.

  • They do it to stay connected to each other and to stay connected to what's happening

  • in each other's lives.

  • We also have non-negotiable weekly team meetings too and, again, we have a distributed team

  • all around the country.

  • Sometimes I do Skype meetings with people and sometimes we even do group video chats,

  • which is terrible if I haven't showered but it's entertaining for most people.

  • Now, you can do this with people you work with too and you can do it with industry friends,

  • whomever.

  • You just want to schedule it and make it recurring.

  • That's key.

  • Don't just do it once and then forget about it for months.

  • And I've gotta say, either phone or video really helps you to feel connected a lot more

  • than email or text.

  • Number five, you might want to try taking regular phone-free or computer-free breaks.

  • So do not just sit and stare at your computer all day long like a zombie like uhhhh.

  • It's not healthy.

  • You want to set an alarm maybe every 90 minutes or so and get up and stretch your body and

  • have some water.

  • Maybe go walk outside for a few minutes.

  • And this is another thing that can help, take a lunch break away from your screen.

  • Number six, another one of my favorites, go to group fitness classes.

  • So nothing is more powerful for your brain and your emotional health and your productivity

  • than working out.

  • Science backs this up all day long.

  • So rather than doing it by yourself, you should go take a group class.

  • I mean, you can do dancing or spin or CrossFit or whatever floats your boat.

  • And you'll start getting to know people in your community, again, which is really

  • important for you, and you're gonna feel a lot better too.

  • Number seven, hit up some local meetups about entrepreneurship or your industry.

  • And here's the deal, if there are no organizations that fit what you're looking for, do not cry

  • about it Megan.

  • You've gotta start one.

  • You are a leader and you can start gathering people around and have meetings once a month

  • or so.

  • Finally number eight, you can pitch in person time.

  • So I don't know how big your team or your company is, but why not pitch your boss on

  • the idea of having an in person meet-up for the whole company at least once a year.

  • You could volunteer to help organize it and keep costs down and then map out a whole agenda

  • that will help move the company's goals ahead.

  • I want you to be creative and make your boss an offer that they cannot refuse.

  • And look, you never know unless you ask.

  • Right?

  • Now these ideas, they're just the tip of the iceberg.

  • I'm sure our incredible audience will come up with a lot more ideas right underneath

  • this video too.

  • And for anyone who thinks getting to work in your pajamas is really like the be all

  • end all, I want you to remember this.

  • Working from home might not demand much human interaction, but your soul does.

  • That was my A to your Q, Megan.

  • I really hope it helps you and all those folks out there who are just starting to get their

  • groove on working from home.

  • And now I would love to hear from you.

  • So can you relate to this loneliness and isolation that comes from working from home and being

  • all by yourself?

  • How do you deal?

  • I would love to hear specifically what works for you and what doesn't.

  • So leave a comment below and let me know.

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