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  • If you're still struggling with consent, just imagine instead of initiating sex,

  • you're making them a cup of tea. You say "hey, would you like a cup of tea?"

  • And they go "oh my god, I would LOVE a cup of tea! Thank you!"

  • Then you know they want a cup of tea.

  • If you say "hey, would you like a cup of tea?" and they're like "um... you know, I'm not really sure…"

  • then you can make them a cup of tea, or not, but be aware they might not drink it,

  • and if they don't drink it thenand this is the important part –  don't make them drink it.

  • Just because you made it doesn't mean you are entitled to watch them drink it.

  • And If they say "No thank you" then don't make them tea. At all. Just don't make them tea,

  • don't make them drink tea, don't get annoyed at them for not wanting tea.

  • They just don't want tea, ok? They might say "Yes please, that's kind of you"

  • and then when the tea arrives they actually don't want the tea at all.

  • Sure, that's kind of annoying as you've gone to all the effort of making the tea,

  • but they remain under no obligation to drink the tea. They did want tea, now they don't.

  • Some people change their mind in the time that it takes to boil that kettle, brew the tea and add the milk.

  • And it's ok for people to change their mind, and you are still not entitled to watch them drink it.

  • And If they are unconscious, don't make them tea.

  • Unconscious people don't want tea and they can't answer the question "do you want tea"

  • because they're are unconscious. Ok, maybe they were conscious when you asked them if they wanted tea,

  • and they said yes, but in the time it took you to boil the kettle,

  • brew the tea and add the milk, they are now unconscious.

  • You should just put the tea down, make sure the unconscious person is safe, and this is the important part again

  • don't make them drink the tea. They said yes then, sure, but unconscious people don't want tea.

  • If someone said yes to tea, started drinking it,

  • and then passed out before they'd finished it, don't keep on pouring it down their throat.

  • Take the tea away. Make sure they're safeBecause unconscious people don't want tea.

  • Trust me on this. If someone said "yes" to tea around your house last Saturday,

  • that doesn't mean that they want you to make them tea all the time.

  • They don't want you to come around at their place unexpectedly and make them tea

  • and force them to drink it going "BUT YOU WANTED TEA LAST WEEK",

  • or to wake up to find you pouring tea down their throat going "BUT YOU WANTED TEA LAST NIGHT".

  • If you can understand how completely ludicrous it is to force people to have tea when they don't want tea

  • and you are able to understand when people don't want tea,

  • then how hard is it to understand it when it comes to sex? Whether it's tea or sex, Consent Is Everything.

  • And on that note, I am going to make myself a cup of tea.

If you're still struggling with consent, just imagine instead of initiating sex,

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Tea Consent (Clean)

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    Kristi Yang posted on 2016/09/27
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