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  • Oh, oh, oh!

  • I'm turned on by both.

  • We wanted to conduct an experiment

  • here in this beautiful bar, where we could

  • actually put perceived masculinity to the test.

  • So what you'll see is our wonderful subject, Broderick,

  • portraying two different versions of himself.

  • One that tends to be so much more traditionally masculine

  • in how he conducts himself.

  • The guy on the right didn't smile,

  • so I feel like you have this inclination

  • where you want to win him over.

  • People like the chase.

  • I would fuck the guy on the right.

  • I would probably be in a relationship with the guy on the left.

  • And the other one, where he tends to be less so,

  • and can show a very different side of himself.

  • I feel like he's more approachable.

  • Could be gay?

  • [Matt] To determine if people do tend to be a little bit more attracted to the traditionally masculine traits.

  • We can kind of show a lot about ourselves

  • based on how much or how little we're smiling.

  • People tend to say that they're really attracted to the bad boy,

  • which is a little bit more of a smolder.

  • This guy on the right would let me have it!

  • Like, "Yeah, I'm gonna give it to you hard."

  • And then this guy's sweet like

  • we could have a good giggle.

  • This experiment is actually really interesting

  • because it's not about the differences between masculine or feminine,

  • but how we're valuing that.

  • You could take the test as it's going along,

  • and see what comes up for you.

  • [Both Women] Whoa!

  • I think I hate both of them.

  • Nah, I'm into the one on the right.

  • His dick's all out!

  • Tell me about manspreading, what's that?

  • I am not doing that.

  • Just have your dick everywhere.

  • You're just like, "Yeah, whatever."

  • I like the guy on the left.

  • The way that he's sitting up, his clothing.

  • This guy might be too proper for me.

  • He seems a little more at ease,

  • so I'm more inclined to go with the right.

  • Someone might try to order a drink

  • and since this guy's spread out, they can't get to 'em.

  • The man on the right, I like more

  • because I love sweatpants.

  • I enjoy a good penis print.

  • More of a relaxed look and presentation

  • based on how we're dressed and how we're positioned

  • tends to be a little bit more traditionally masculine

  • because it shows that there's not been too much thoughtfulness or effort that's been placed in it.

  • The guy on the left is really theatrical.

  • I can tell that he's a little bit more feminine in his gestures,

  • but I find that kinda sexy.

  • You're a good buddy.

  • You're not the type of person that I wanna take home with me.

  • I know what firework looks like.

  • You don't have to do that.

  • His body language reads a lot friendlier than the other guy.

  • It was easier to just focus on Mr. Right

  • because he was just staring at you.

  • I need that gain, that like, "Are you interested in me?

  • "Aren't you?"

  • That's what entices me.

  • Hand gestures.

  • I tend to use a lot of hand gestures.

  • From one version of Broderick,

  • you'll see him using his hands a lot more,

  • and that tends to be less traditionally masculine

  • because it's opening up a little bit more of an emotional vulnerability.

  • Did you see that shot, though?

  • Dude, that thing was crazy!

  • The whole apartment started going wild, man.

  • But did you see that shot last night?

  • Dude, that thing was crazy, man.

  • The whole apartment went wild, yo.

  • Him on the right.

  • Yeah, that was quick.

  • How come?

  • His voice was deeper.

  • I get the juxtaposition, but that was too slow.

  • He was able to just say something, and it mattered.

  • I always wished that I had that smooth voice.

  • Just more chill and just more quiet.

  • I think I would be drawn to find the person with the lower voice

  • than the guy with the high, squeaky voice.

  • [Matt] How come?

  • I grew up with men that were very machismo.

  • I see myself being attracted to that.

  • Speech can communicate a lot, being slower, lower.

  • There's something that tends to be a little more traditionally masculine

  • because it doesn't really show an openness.

  • Definitely on the right.

  • Yeah.

  • He's way more engaged.

  • So you find yourself really drawn to the one that's gonna be locked in.

  • Hell yeah! [Woman] Yeah.

  • He's leaning in a little bit, that's endearing.

  • He looked like he was actually paying attention and cared.

  • What do you hate about the guy on the left?

  • He's just looking at other people.

  • Don't make eye contact.

  • Don't look at that ass.

  • So just that little snippet is like,

  • "Oh, that's sexy."

  • Eye contact really conveys a lot of intimacy

  • because when you're looking directly at somebody's eyes,

  • it's like looking

  • into the window of their souls.

  • So, there can be an emotional connection from that.

  • So what happened between you and your ex?

  • Well, I always felt like I was the one loving her and caring for her and everything,

  • but it seems like she wasn't happy.

  • She always felt like she was the one that was calling the shots

  • and always doing everything right,

  • and she basically broke my heart.

  • Well, I mean we tried to make it work...

  • We went out a lot, we tried to do different things,

  • we tried to find the missing pieces,

  • but unfortunately, we just couldn't figure it out.

  • That was like Nicholas Sparks up in here.

  • I think the left was a little bit of a turn-off

  • because he kept blaming her.

  • I was ready to be like, "Fuck her."

  • He just had the answers too quickly.

  • He had closure, and in the one on the right,

  • there was a lot of ambiguity.

  • I was like, "Just spit it out!"

  • He was very internalized about it

  • and just seemed like he was still thinking about it in his head.

  • He is not over her because he's still saying we, we, we,

  • whereas number one was like, I, I, I.

  • So emotional intelligence, or EQ, is when you have a deeper awareness and insight

  • about the emotional temperature of whatever might be going on.

  • We can typically think about how traditionally,

  • a man is supposed to be really aggressive and forthcoming,

  • otherwise it's showing an emotional awareness.

  • So, when do you wanna hang out?

  • I'm free Wednesday.

  • Are you free? I'm free after 6.

  • After 6 is good.

  • Dope, I know this really dope Italian restaurant

  • right down the street.

  • I think you're gonna like it. You like Italian food?

  • Yeah.

  • Awesome, I'm sure you're gonna love it.

  • Hey, I should get your number real quick.

  • Okay, so when do you want to--

  • Hey, we'll figure it out.

  • I'll text you.

  • Hey, can I get a drink for her real quick?

  • What.

  • Yeah, no way on the right. Yeah.

  • I'd rather have an exact plan and footprint.

  • It just makes you feel like the person

  • cares about you.

  • It's always like, "Yeah, whatever.

  • "We'll figure it out."

  • And that means that I'm never gonna see you again.

  • Shit, I feel like I'm such a slut

  • 'cause I'd probably pick the one on the right.

  • Maybe I'm a flake, I don't know.

  • The pressure freaks me out.

  • He knew how to play it.

  • It was suave.

  • So there's something cool about it?

  • It felt cool?

  • Yeah, the other guy was like,

  • "Can you get out your gCal

  • "while we try and write the date and time?"

  • Commitment tends to be something where we can tell a little bit about a person,

  • and traditionally speaking, a man isn't supposed to be as committed or available

  • as what you would think of as the aloof guy.

  • What's attractive about that?

  • I don't know what the fuck is attractive about that.

  • What is it?

  • That's something deeper rooted in me

  • where I'm vying for someone's attention.

  • I don't know. That's fucked up, man.

  • I don't know.

  • I definitely think that gender norms

  • still actually influence,

  • though I do think there's been an evolution overall in terms of what that might mean and how things have been redefined.

  • Some of us really exist more in an emotional side,

  • some of us exist in so much more of a rational side,

  • and it feels like those are two

  • competing forces, and when we're guided

  • by what society tells us is okay and normal,

  • then we're gonna be shifted to one end

  • of the spectrum instead of being able

  • to have a more realized sense of ourselves

  • as balanced overall.

  • Let the nipples fly.

  • Let it breathe.

  • So I enjoy when men let it breathe, too.

  • It makes me really happy.

Oh, oh, oh!

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