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Where did you hear that? No, no, no that's all wrong, it's rubbish. Oh, please, please,
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please, please stay. Don't worry this is not for you. I'm only trying to tell you, that
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this is not a good way to correct somebody. We should be really polite in our correction.
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But how do we do that? It's hard to be soft, when your'e still angry and when you still
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want someone to change, but don't worry. You should stay with me Michelle and I'm going
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to help you in this problem of yours and your'e very soon going to know, how to politely correct
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somebody.
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Come let's start. The first phrase here, I'm afraid that's not quite right. Where can we
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use this phrase? Okay, you have a friend, who does not speak in English very well and
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that friend says, this are a door and your'e like Ahhhh, okay, so you have that urge to
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correct her or he and your'e like okay maybe I should tell her and then you decide to say,
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Hey your'e wrong, you shouldn't say like that, how will she feel? Of course very bad, so
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a better way instead would be to say, I'm afraid that's not quite right. You would rather
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want to say, This is a door instead of saying, This are a door. Let's look at the second
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phrase, Actually I think you'll find that. So if this friend of yours has decided that,
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she's not going to believe you and she's gonna do what she wants to do, she's gonna speak
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what she wants to speak. Then what do you do? Then you tell her actually I think, If
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you see a grammar book, you'll find that are is used for plural and is, is used with singular
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and this door is a door, which is single. So you should say is a door, this is a door
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and you can start this whole conversation by saying, actually I think you'll find that
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and that will be a very polite way to say it. So I'm gonna write for you here, polite
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way. Let's look at the third phrase, both of these are very polite ways. The third phrase
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here, I'm afraid your'e mistaken. The moment we talk about mistake, the situation changes.
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If your'e pointing at someone's mistake, your'e being a little bit more strong in the way
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you are speaking. But your'e not harsh, don't worry sometimes it's important to point to
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someone's mistake. So here, I'm afraid, your'e mistaken is slightly more strong. Let's imagine
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a situation, You overheard two people talking, overhear means two people are talking and
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you heard what they are speaking, your'e listening to what they are speaking. Which is actually
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not considered very good manners, but sometimes we are in a situation like that, whether we
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just hear what the other people are speaking and it's we are not intentionally hearing
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it. It just happenes, so if you heard two people talking, A and B. They are talking about whose
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the founder of Microsoft? One of them says, It's Steve Jobs and the other one is like,
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You surely would know, who's the founder of, you may know, who's the founder of Microsoft?
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You might just tell him, I'm afraid sorry to interrupt, I'm afraid your'e mistaken.
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The founder of Microsoft is not Steve Jobs, It's who is that? Bill Gates
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The next one, I don't think you are right about. This is also a slightly strong statement,
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I don't think you are right about something. Here also what your'e actually talking about
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is facts, something basically based on general knowledge and here also, you can use this
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same phrase in the same situation. You can tell that person, I'm afraid your'e mistaken
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or you could tell them, I don't think you are right about the founder of Microsoft.
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These two are slightly strong statements slightly not very strong. They are not so harsh, It's
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fine. No you've got it wrong If you say it like, No you've got it wrong, then it's very
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rude, but if you say, No you've got it wrong. That's a pleasant way of saying this same
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thing. So if your'e at all planning to use this statement then, I suggest you say it
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in a slightly softer tone of voice. Where would you get to hear this statement? Maybe
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in a classroom a teacher talking to a student. Maybe the student comes to the teacher with
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an answer and the teacher says, No you've got it wrong or maybe a child going to her
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father with a math problem, she solved it and she's showing her father, Daddy this is
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the problem that I have solved. So the daddy might just reply, No you've got it wrong,
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the correct answer will be, whatever it is. The next one here, If you check your facts,
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you'll find that, Facts means something which is true for all. Everyone knows about it,
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It's common for all. The sun rises from the east is a fact and it cannot change. So you
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can also use this in a similar situation, where you know, we are talking about the population
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of China. If you check your facts, you'll find that China is the most populated country
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in the world. We are talking about a topic of general knowledge, so that's where you
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can use it, It's a fact which cannot change. May change in the future though. Some other
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countries are coming up. Where did you hear that? Do you think that is very polite.
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I don't think so, that's not a very polite statement unless your'e talking to your best
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friend or someone very close to you, maybe your sister or your brother. If you tell them,
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where did you hear that? It's quite normal, but if you tell that to a person, you don't
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know too well, then it might come out as a very rude reaction. So your friend tells you
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maybe, You know you love drinking coffee and you drink it many times a day and one fine,
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your friend sees you drinking coffee and she's like, Come on man, It's not such a good idea.
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Coffee is not so very good for health and you reply to her. Where did you hear that?
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That could be a bit insulting. She might feel bad about it, so you have to be careful about
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the people that your'e using it with. So these one's this one is slightly rude and insulting.
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Your'e talking rubbish absolutely rubbish. Did you see me in the beginning of the video
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saying that? And how did you feel when I started the video like that? I'm sure you didn't feel
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very good about it and it was like, what's wrong with her, more like that, so if you
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say that to somebody, your'e talking rubbish, it's very very rude and for anyone of you,
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who does not know the meaning of rubbish. Rubbish means garbage or dirt, useless things
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otherwise. Something that is not useful, something that you throw away, so what your'e saying
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is that what your'e talking is absolutely useless and that's a very rude statement. So I suggest
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that you never, never use this. Kindly refrain from the use of this statement.
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No that's all wrong, that's also quite rude also depends on the tone of your voice. So
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I would suggest that you refrain from using these three sentences including where did
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you hear that? Because that's insulting. Your'e in for a treat, because you stayed till the
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end in this video. I'm going to share some golden rules with you for correction. How
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should you correct somebody? Here private, so It's really good that you correct somebody
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privately, that means in a personal space, where it's only you and that person and nobody
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else. It's a much better way and in case you are in a classroom and you have a lot of people,
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children or maybe adults sitting in front of you and you are giving a class and
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you know that somebody has made an error. I suggest that you don't correct them at that
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time. You correct them after the class, If you need to correct them in the class. Then
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do it anonymously that means do not name them. Do not say that this person said this, just
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make a correction, do not name the person. That will save the embarrassment for that
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person. Gentle, please be soft and kind, while your correction. Make sure you say, I'm sorry,
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I'm afraid, I'm very sorry that your'e mistaken things like these, it's good to apologize
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before correcting. If at all you are going to correct. Explanatory, you should give a
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reason, why your'e correcting? And also what is the correct answer. That's what explanatory
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means and you should also remember that the person, who is corrected should come back
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and thank you and not instead tell you that, You should not have corrected me like that,
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so it's better if they come back and tell you, Thank you for correcting me. I'll never
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make that mistake again. So ask yourself that question before your'e correcting them.
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Thank you so much. I hope this really helps you. Now please if at all you want to be a
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little critical, do some polite criticism and not harsh criticism with anyone.
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I'll see you again very soon with new topic. Till then you miss me and I'm gonna miss you
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me to cover in the future. Take care see you. Bye bye.