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  • You need to take risks in love for love to happen, often times that means getting outside your comfort zone.

  • Einstein, of course, said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results.

  • I think the same is true in dating.

  • If you keep dating the same type of person, or you keep repeating a pattern in dating that's not working for you,

  • you have to examine that, and then you have to do and date differently.

  • Dating differently often involves getting outside your comfort zone, getting outside your type.

  • So, if you say:I'm never attracted to introverts, I only like extroverts, try dating an introvert and see what happens.

  • Because, let's put it this way, if you always date the extroverted, life of the party, you're probably shrinking down a little to let that person shine.

  • When you date an introvert, different parts of you may be expressed.

  • So if you don't know what your dating pattern is, I have a simple exercise.

  • Consider if your dating life were a movie, what would it be called?

  • How would it begin and end? And what character do you always play?

  • You'll start to find some themes, and that's when you can determine what your type is, what your pattern is.

  • Let's say, your pattern is that you're a runaway bride, or that you never commit, you're a 40-year-old virgin, or something else has kept you back from opening up to love.

  • I think it's really important to get out of your head, chances are you're overthinking it.

  • Love is a feeling, not a thought.

You need to take risks in love for love to happen, often times that means getting outside your comfort zone.

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Why you shouldn't date your type

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    Harvey Pan posted on 2016/03/29
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