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  • Hey, it’s Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be, say it with me,

  • to create a business and life you love. And today is Q&A Tuesday. Today’s question comes

  • from Harold and he writes:

  • Hey Marie, love what you do. Thanks for all the advice and clarity. I’m a highly

  • intuitive person. I’m pondering a decision that on all sides points one way logically

  • and intuitively it points the other way. Now, I hear the saying to always go with your gut,

  • my question is, is it always best to go with what feels right? Thanks, Harold.”

  • Great question, Harold. You know, I think weve all been in situations where something

  • looked really great on paper but for whatever reason, we couldn’t shake that funny feeling

  • inside that said, “Nuh uh, don't do it.” You know, whenever I get into a tough spot

  • like that, for what it’s worth, I always wind up going with my gut. But it is wise

  • to have a process to work through to help you in situations like this, where logic is

  • saying one thing and your intuition is telling you another.

  • I’ll share a great, strategic decision making process with you in just a few minutes, but

  • first I wanna tell you a little story about a time when I went against logic and the expert

  • advice of others to follow my own instincts. So back when I was writing my book, Make Every

  • Man Want You, I was torn between trying to sell the book to a big publisher or self publishing.

  • Now, I did a lot of research and I asked several New York Times bestselling authors for their

  • input. And I even paid for a course on book publishing.

  • I gotta tell you, Harold, everyone told me not to self publish my book if I ever wanted

  • to get taken seriously as an author. In fact, I was told self publishing is the kiss of death. (I heard someone was looking the self publish, (chuckle).)

  • And I gotta say, logically I agreed. Self publishing would cost me a lot of money,

  • there was a lot of risk involved in the process in terms of quality of the end product, and,

  • like it or not, self publishing carried an amateur-like stigma. Plus I had this phrase

  • kiss of deathlooming in the back of my head. But I couldn’t shake the feeling

  • in my heart that for some crazy reason, I was supposed to self publish.

  • So I went ahead with my gut feeling and I decided to self publish my book. And I

  • gotta tell you, it was one of the best things I’ve ever done. Not only did I learn a ton

  • about project management and production, I gained a lot of confidence, I made great money,

  • I changed a lot of lives, and I wound up selling that same self published book to a big publisher

  • and today my book is in 16 languages worldwide.

  • To be clear for anyone considering it, I’m not saying self publishing is right for every

  • person, but in this instance it was right for me. And over time after making enough

  • tough decisions, I’ve learned to always trust my gut. But I do get it, Harold. Sometimes,

  • like now, youre just not so sure. And when youre really torn between logic and intuition,

  • there’s one thing I recommend to help yourself make the best decision for you.

  • You have got to write it all down. You might be asking, why? Because when you get all the

  • possibilities, the pros and cons, the worst case scenarios, and who else your decision

  • will impact. When you get all that out of your head and down onto the page, youre

  • gonna be able to evaluate the situation a lot more clearly and, ultimately, youre gonna be more confident in your decision.

  • Let me repeat this: whenever youve got an important or difficult decision to make,

  • make it on paper. Just thinking about it in your head or even talking about it with other

  • people will likely just get you more confused and more unsure. Now, to help you out, here

  • are 5 strategic questions you need to ask and answer about your situation.

  • Number one, what’s the result or outcome you most want in this area of your life? So

  • what’s most important to you? What are you really after here and why? Number two, list

  • all your options to move ahead. If it’s just two, that’s fine. But I want you to

  • challenge yourself to think outside the box and consider outrageous, even farfetched alternate

  • options if that’s relevant for your situation. Now, this is where innovation and creative

  • solutions can really spring up. Number three, upsides and downsides for each option. List

  • as many as you can think of here. This is your classic pro and con list. Number four,

  • worst case scenarios for each option. This one’s vital because we often overestimate

  • worst case scenarios in our heads, but when we really take time to write them down we

  • see it’s rare that there’s any decision we can’t change or recover from. This helps

  • remove fear. Number five, who else will this impact? For each option it’s useful to think

  • beyond yourself and consider how your choice may impact your relationship with others.

  • Your team, your family, your friends, your customers, etcetera.

  • This might seem like a lot of work, Harold, but important decisions can radically impact

  • the quality and direction of your entire life. And these 5 questions will strengthen your

  • decision making muscles and help you strategically and intelligently work through any tough situation

  • you find yourself in. So let’s land this plane on a Tweetable.

  • Sometimes, going with your gut is more than a snap decision.”

  • Now, by the way, if you haven’t seen our other episodes, one’s called Four Ways to

  • Sharpen Your Intuition, the other, How to Tell the Difference Between Fear and Intuition,

  • make sure you check them out. I’m also gonna put links to them below.

  • Now I would love to hear from you. Have you ever felt torn between your sense of logic

  • and your sense of intuition? Any tools or practices that have repeatedly helped you

  • intelligently and strategically work through some kind of dilemma?

  • As always, the best discussions happen after the episode over at, so get your buns

  • over there and leave a comment now.

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  • gift that only you have. Thank you so much for watching and I’ll catch you next time on MarieTV.

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