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  • Hey, it’s Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business

  • and a life that you love like this. And today it’s Q&A Tuesday and today’s question

  • comes from Leah and Leah writes:

  • Hi Marie. I love listening to you. It always makes me feel better and gives me inspiration

  • to keep moving forward. However, lately I’m having trouble staying positive. I’m almost

  • 25 years old and I got my bachelor’s 2 years ago. I wanted to become a teacher but I didn't

  • feel ready, so I spent the past 2 years in different jobs relating to children and now

  • I feel I have the experience and confidence I was lacking back when I graduated. However,

  • now I’m trying to go back to school and I’m having trouble passing some tests. And

  • I see classmates who are travelling, getting married, and, most importantly, getting jobs

  • doing what I wanna do. It makes me wonder if I made the right choice and if I’m really

  • behind on where I should be at life right now. I can’t help feeling empty, desperate,

  • and hopeless. I really need to know how to help myself and make improvements in my life

  • without feeling jealous of other people’s paths. Hope you can help. Thank you. Leah.”

  • Great question, Leah. You know, nearly every person I know has struggled with this. I mean,

  • for me that feeling of I should be further ahead by now totally dominated my early 20s.

  • I was in constant angst and it was really painful. And in my work I’ve heard this

  • same struggle from people in their 30s and their 40s and their 50s and 60s and 70s, etcetera.

  • I believe this is a sickness that we human beings have and if you don't get a handle

  • on this thing right now, you will continue to feel empty and desperate and hopeless no

  • matter what you do or no matter what you achieve.

  • Now, the good news is that there are only 2 things that you need to do in order to heal

  • yourself from this sickness. And it’s important to know that these are not one time actions,

  • my dear. These are conscious choices that you have to make each and every single day.

  • Otherwise youre gonna slip right back into that same old funk that youre in now, and

  • we can’t have that. So let’s dive in.

  • Number one, I want you to adore your detours. So what does that mean? Youve got to ask

  • yourself, have you ever taken a road trip? Probably so. Sometimes you don't get to your

  • destination at the time that you thought you would because you took a little detour. Maybe

  • you decided at the last minute, “You know what? We wanna take the scenic route.” Or

  • you decide to stop for lunch and you discover this adorable little town that you wouldve

  • never seen if you stayed on the highway. My point is detours aren’t always bad and getting

  • there sooner isn’t always better. You have got to trust the timing of your life. You

  • have to trust that you made the best choices you could have possibly made at the time because,

  • guess what, you made them. And trust that every experience taught you something that

  • you need to know right now.

  • Number two, and this is the most important step, youve got to go cold turkey on compare-schläger.

  • I’ve talked about this before. Back in college I had some nasty nights doing shots of this

  • awful cinnamon flavored liqueur called goldschläger. It’s pretty much disgusting. Now, when you

  • compare your path with someone else’s youre basically drinking compare-schläger, which

  • is like 100 times worse for you than goldschläger and, I’ve got to say, that is not easy to

  • do. Now, you know that youve been doing shots of compare-schläger when youre left

  • with a major comparison hangover, which is what youre experiencing right now. Now,

  • comparison is where all of this, “I should be further ahead by nowBS stuff comes

  • from. And I guarantee you if you stop doing shots of compare-schläger, to a very large

  • extent youre gonna stop feeling all this angst and anxiety and hopelessness.

  • They say comparison is the thief of joy. I say it’s the Hamburglar of happiness. It

  • will not rest until it takes all of your self esteem, makes off with it into the night,

  • and leaves you doing the ugly cry in the corner. So you might be asking yourself, well, how

  • do you stop comparing? It’s pretty simple. You have got to put blinders on because constantly

  • looking to the right or to the left is actually what’s slowing you down and you need to

  • focus on your own game.

  • So if you really wanna do a comparison cleanse, try this. Do a total social media detox and

  • stop following or looking at people who you tend to compare yourself to. Don't pick up

  • magazines or watch TV shows that portray some unrealistic ideal of perfection. Do not go

  • actively searching for things that you know are gonna leave you feeling upset. Now, I

  • know that this takes discipline and it takes constant vigilance, but I’ve gotta tell

  • you, commit to this and I promise you will feel better than youve ever felt before.

  • And you're gonna have more time and energy to make your dreams come to life.

  • Let’s land this plane on a repeatable tweetable.

  • Where you are is exactly where you need to be. Trust the timing of your life.

  • Now, if youre a mantra lover, try this.

  • Where I am is exactly where I need to be. I trust the timing of my life.

  • You got a two for today. Youre welcome.

  • Now I would love to hear from you. Have you ever struggled with thinking, “I should

  • be further ahead by now.” What helped you make peace with your path?

  • As always, the best discussions happen after the episode over at MarieForleo.com, so please go there and leave a comment now.

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  • Stay on your game and keep going for your dreams because the world needs that special

  • gift that only you have. Thank you so much for watching and I’ll catch you next time on MarieTV.

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