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- I am currently in a long distance relationship.
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- For two and a half years it was long distance.
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- The first was two years and I am in one now.
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- We've dated for two years.
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Then we dated a year long distance.
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Then we lived together for a year
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and then we did
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six months or so long distance
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before it ended.
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- We were long distance for a year.
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What It's Like To Be In A Long Distance Relationship
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- The hardest part is feeling
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that nobody else thinks
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that what you're doing is sustainable.
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- You don't have to plan your day around it,
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but you definitely have to make extra effort.
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- So there'd be a lot of issues
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as far as communication
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where I'm not willing to Skype for three hours.
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- We still call each other - Sometimes.
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- like every three days, I'd say.
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- You run out of things to say on the phone.
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"How was your day?" "It was fine."
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Like, "Did anything happen?"
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It's like, "No, not really," like,
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"It was just like a normal day."
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And so then there's silence.
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- What was special about my day
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and how did it change me
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and how can I share that with the other person?
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- Even if you're just sitting in the car
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driving someplace in silence,
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you're together and you feel that.
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And you don't have that
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when you're in a long distance relationship
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and you're trying to artificially recreate it
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but silence over the phone is,
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I mean, it's nothing, right?
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Silence in person means something.
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- You fall in love and it's hard and it's like,
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will I connect with someone like this again?
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And is it worth it?
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- When you really like someone
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or even love someone,
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it makes it worth it.
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- You're constantly asking yourself,
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"Is it worth it?"
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And I feel like I learn something new
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every time I ask myself that question.
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- I mean, it wasn't worth it, right?
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Cause we broke up. So.
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- But, we were never like, - But.
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- this is ending our relationship.
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- Yeah.
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- It was just, this sucks,
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that this is our relationship right now.
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- Really when it comes down to it
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any your relationship ends,
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when either one person stops caring about the other
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or both people give up.
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- I think the key to doing a long distance relationship
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is having an end in sight.
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- Like a date, she would move in,
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- Mmhmm. - we would move in together
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in July, so, we knew that.
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- And then we did.
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- We did. - Woooo.
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- You really learn about communication
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and how to stay open with someone.
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- It made us also, like,
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not dwell as much on, like, little arguments anymore,
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unless you forget to bring your girlfriend potatoes
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(laughing) from the German restaurant.
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She will drill it home for an hour at you.
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This happened last night.
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- Waiting, you know, several days
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before you can even talk
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or Skype with the other person.
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Or waiting months before you can hug them again.
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It's hard (giggling).
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- It makes you appreciate loving someone
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when you can see them everyday.
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- Aaaww. - Mmhmm.
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- So sweet. (lips smacking)
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- [Man] I had some--
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- [Woman] I texted him twice
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to ask for these potatoes - No you texted me once.
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- after work. - about the potatoes.
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- They're good potatoes.
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- They're so good.
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But I wouldn't know
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because I didn't have them yesterday.
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- Yep.