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  • Hey, what’s up? It’s Marie Forleo. Youre watching MarieTV, the place to be to create

  • a business and a life that you love. Wanna give it a big hug every single day. And this

  • is Q&A Tuesday, which means there’s questions and answers, Q’s and A’s, and today’s

  • comes from Tamara and she writes:

  • Hi Marie. Whenever I see a little progress in my business I wanna hide under a rock.

  • The moment I’m pushed outside of my comfort zone, I wanna run back in. What can I do to

  • continue moving forward without running and hiding? Thanks so much, Tamara.”

  • Oh my goodness Tamara, you are describing something that so many of us struggle with

  • but we just don't know it. It’s this idea called an upper limit problem and it was coined

  • by my friend Gay Hendricks who wrote the fantastic book The Big Leap. So I first discovered this

  • concept because I got really sick after having a huge spike in my business. Here’s what

  • happened.

  • Second year that we launched B-School things took off. It reached a whole new level. So

  • more financial wealth, more impact than I couldve ever imagined. It was the middle

  • of summer, I find myself in this yoga class so excited and I’m in my downward dog and

  • all of a sudden I start to feel really, really sick like I’m gonna puke. Now, youve

  • gotta get, I’m not the kind of person that gets sick very often, so this seemed weird.

  • So I’m thinking, “Well, maybe it’s just a 24 hour bug.” I get home, I try to take

  • care of myself, and it just kept getting worse. For 6 days I had skull crushing headaches,

  • I couldn’t keep any food down. I was a complete and utter mess. Finally I got myself to the

  • doctor because I thought maybe I have salmonella, maybe I have a parasite, who knows? Got these

  • tests done, went home, chilled out. My friends came over that night to try and take care

  • of me, I told them about what was happening, and they all said, “You know what, Marie?

  • I don't think youre sick. I think those tests are gonna come back negative. This is

  • an upper limit problem. You have so much great stuff happening right now you probably just

  • don't even know how to handle it.” I thought that was a little wild, but whatever. I listened.

  • Turns out the next day the doctor calls me. I’m waiting for my test results figuring

  • I’ve got something bad. He said, “You know what? Nothing is wrong with you. No salmonella,

  • no parasites, no nothing.”

  • So for me when I hit an upper limit I typically get sick. It sounds like for you you wanna

  • run and hide. Some people get themselves in accidents or they pick a fight or they start

  • dropping the ball at work. Why? Well, the theory goes like this: when you hit your upper

  • limit your upper limit is basically the limit that you allow yourself to feel happy and

  • successful. It’s almost like an internal thermostat, like your success comfort zone.

  • And as Gay Hendricks says, each of us has a limited tolerance for feeling good.

  • Now, when things start to get amazing and we go beyond that upper limit, many of us

  • start to unconsciously start sabotaging ourselves so we can get back to our comfort zone. Now,

  • this is a really universal problem, and thankfully we can actually do something about it. It

  • has everything to do with turning up the volume on our awareness. So if anything good starts

  • to happen in your life or you have a big breakthrough, youve gotta keep the lookout on for all

  • the ways that you might self sabotage, and don't do it.

  • So if youre like me and you get physically sick, then youve gotta just chill out and

  • rest and take it easy. If youre someone who always drops the ball at work, pay extra

  • attention to the details. And if youre someone like you, Tamara, who really wants

  • to run and hide when things get good, don't retreat. Just stay and let yourself feel it.

  • Here’s the thing about upper limits, youre gonna keep facing this throughout your entire

  • life and the more awareness you bring, the more you reset that thermostat and re-calibrate

  • yourself to handle all kinds of good stuff.

  • Now, if youre someone who’s into mantras you can use this one from Gay Hendricks. “I

  • expand in success, love, and creativity every day as I inspire others to do the same.”

  • Or you can use this tweetable.

  • When it comes to joy and success, your built in upper limit is completely adjustable.

  • That was my A to your Q Tamara, I really hope it helps. And now I would love to hear from

  • you. How do you bust through your upper limits and do you have any fun stories to share on the topic?

  • As always, the best discussions happen after the episode over at, so go

  • there and leave a comment now.

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