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  • Well hello. I’m Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the best place to be if

  • you want to create a business and a life that you love, and I think you do. Yes I do. And

  • this is Q&A Tuesday and today’s question comes from Nishala and she writes:

  • Dear Marie, what do you do when nobody appreciates you? I’ve been appointed as

  • the head of my department at a nonprofit and I’ve been super excited about it ever since.

  • Although it’s a lot of work, were educating 120 underprivileged children this year and

  • I’ll be training 60 teachers, I absolutely love what I do which is why I’ve put a ton

  • of effort in to do my best and make this year successful. I’ve spent hours and hours of

  • my day designing lesson plan templates and making sure classes run smoothly, but I’ve

  • barely gotten a word of praise from the team I’m working with. I know that’s superficial

  • to wanna be constantly praised, but I feel demotivated at this point. Am I on the wrong

  • track? Why is my hard work not being appreciated? A bucket of love, Nishala.”

  • Nishala, this was a great question but there is something I wanna point out to you. Unlike

  • many of our other readers, I noticed you didn't start off with any praise for mua.

  • Very interesting.

  • Now, I am totally playing with you, girl. Nishala, we know you write us a ton and youre

  • always expressing gratitude and my point here isn’t that you should praise me, it’s

  • just that sometimes it doesn't occur to us to always do it. I mean, all of us forget

  • from time to time because when we see someone who is good at what they do we think they

  • don't need to hear it or they know it already, so why bother? But the truth is that all

  • of us can relate to craving more praise and not getting it so I wanna share three things

  • that I think will really help.

  • Number one, the big cheese often gets little praise. What, no love?

  • So whether it’s right or wrong, most people just assume that the boss doesn't really need

  • any praise. They assume it’s the boss’s job to work really hard and to be amazing,

  • and as the head of your department you are seen as the boss. And I know youre working

  • your butt off and youre doing a great job, but your team may just assume youre doing

  • that because youre awesome. They don't give you praise because it just doesn't occur

  • to them. Now, I know this doesn't solve your problem, but just remember just because youre

  • not getting acknowledgment doesn't mean that people don't appreciate you.

  • Number two is be the praise fairy. So the best thing to do in any area of life when you feel

  • like youre lacking something is to give to others that which you feel that you lack.

  • So in your case this is all about praise and appreciation. So I want you to become the

  • appreciation fairy.

  • Marie, you have the best ideas. Where do you come up with these ideas?

  • And I mean, that outfit. What is that? Is that a jumpsuit?

  • Damn girl! I appreciate you. Have a little appreciation dust.

  • Now, look, you're not giving praise in order to get it back. You wanna be the gift that

  • you want to receive. Now, if you haven’t seen our episode about appreciation languages

  • in the workplace, you’d better watch it. It’s right here. And then you want to get

  • yourself the book The Five Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace by Mr. Gary Chapman. It’s

  • amazing and itll change your life and the life of your team.

  • Number three is start a praise posse. Now, this is something really simple and you can

  • do this outside of work and you only need one person to get started. It’s a concept

  • called bragging and I learned it from my friend Regina Thomashauer. It’s brilliant. So rather

  • than spending your time complaining about work or how crappy everything is or how people

  • take you for granted, you wanna flip that around and start bragging about all the incredible

  • things that youre creating. Youre really acknowledging yourself and acknowledging what

  • youre putting out into the world. So, for example, if you and I were doing this together,

  • Nishala, you would say to me, “Marie, I brag that this week I created the most amazing

  • templates for my classroom.” And then I would say, “You know what? That’s awesome,

  • girl. You know, those 60 teachers are gonna feel so much more confident and that confidence

  • is going to be passed onto their kids, which is gonna impact generations to come.” By

  • the way, I mean every single word I just said, so great job. And if you love this idea of

  • bragging you should really check out my friend Regina’s work because it’s awesome.

  • Now, before we wrap up I want you to remember this. Do not get too praise dependent because

  • attaching too much importance to external praise actually makes you more vulnerable

  • to harsh criticism from others too. I want you to keep doing an awesome job, keep doing

  • your best, and practice being your own source of internal validation.

  • Alrighty Nishala, that was my A to your Q, I really hope it helps. Now I would love to

  • hear from you. You know, genuine appreciation is a gift that makes all of us feel great,

  • so I would love to know who are three people that you genuinely appreciate and why. Tell

  • me about it in the comments below and, more importantly, go tell them. And if you think

  • they’d feel great seeing their name in print, why don't you write a great comment, send

  • those people a link to this page, and tell them to scroll down to your name.

  • As always, the best discussions happen after the episode over at MarieForleo.com, so go

  • there and leave a comment now.

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  • Stay on your game and keep going for your dreams because the world needs that special

  • gift that only you have. Thank you so much for watching and I’ll catch you next time on MarieTV.

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