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Hey, it's Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business and a life that you love.
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And today is Q & A Tuesday and today Q&A question comes from
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Claudia and she writes:
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“Hi Marie. I’m 26 years old, Brazilian and German, and moved to Germany 8 months ago.
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ago. I left my whole life and family in Brazil to dive into the unknown. I've always wanted
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to start my own online business and have yet to find inspiration.
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Finding a job in the field I studied wasn't happening, so I got a part time job at a store. My colleagues
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are amazing, good hearted people, but they don't have ambition. I mean, none whatsoever.
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I miss having smart conversations about life and I miss constant inspiration. I love art
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and culture, yet I'm not pursuing any of it. I'm in a state of numbness and have
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no idea why. Do the people you spend the most time with influence you in a positive or negative
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way? I've always been a doer, but this time I'm having trouble getting back on track.
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Thanks for all you do, Claudia.
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Claudia, this is a very interesting question. Now, most of us have heard that famous Jim
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Rohn quote that says, you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.
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And whether or not you agree with that, I think we can all agree that we human beings have influence on one another.
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So the people you hang out with on a daily basis, the people
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you work with, the people you talk with, of course they're gonna have an impact on you
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whether it�塜 positive or negative. Now, should you stop talking and hanging out with
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all those nice people you work with? Of course not! As you said, they're amazing, good
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hearted people. But I do wanna give you the secret to getting yourself back on track.
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It's something I heard from Oprah a few months back when I was at her Life You Want
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Weekend. So she told this story from when she was a little girl and it's something that she did that helped her thrive
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no matter what environment she found herself in. So
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she memorized the poem Invictus and she put a huge emphasis on these last 2 lines:
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"I am the master of my fate. I am the captain of my soul."
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Claudia, you're gotta take responsibility for your behavior and realize that you too
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are the master of your fate and the captain of your soul. And the captain doesn't get
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on the boat and go, oh no, where is this boat going?
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The captain steers the boat where the captain wants it to go.
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So, Claudia, you're got to take the wheel of your ship and start steering it somewhere inspiring.
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Now, I know you also said you feel kind of numb and like you're in a funk.
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Well, whenever I'm in a funk and I need to get motivated again, you know what I do?
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I have myself a dance party and I dance it out. Hard.
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Does having a dance party sound trite? Maybe. But there's undeniable power in combining
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physical movement with awesome music. And once you do your dance party you're gotta
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ask yourself, what's the next best action I should be taking? Maybe you're gonna wanna
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go to a museum, maybe you wanna go see a movie, maybe you're gonna head out to a bookstore.
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Doesn't matter, the point is you need to take immediate action.
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Next I wanna challenge you to something that you may not have considered. Being the captain
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also means that you lead your crew. So you're got all these amazing people at work, why
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not start some inspiring conversations with them? Ask them about their talents, their
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families, their hopes and dreams.
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You can actually lead them to start having these incredible conversations with you.
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Finally, you're got to make it your priority to expand your circle of influence. When I
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first started I didn't really have that many ambitious friends either and I remember going
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to Toastmasters and I got my butt out and I went to business conferences and online marketing conferences
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to meet other like minded people. Today I'm surrounded by the most creative and ambitious people you could possibly imagine.
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So bottom line, Claudia, I want you
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to remember that, yes, you are the master of your fate and the captain of your soul
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and each and every day you're gotta take that wheel and make sure that you're steering your ship in the right direction.
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That was my A to your Q Claudia, let us know how it goes. And now I would love to hear
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from you. Do you believe that you're the average of the people that you spend time
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with? And if you ambition level isn't where you think it should be, what are 3 specific
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action steps that you could take to steer your ship in the direction of your dreams?
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As always, the best discussions happen after the episode over at MarieForleo.com, so head
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on over there and leave a comment now.
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Thank you so much for watching
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