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Hey there, it’s Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create the business and life you love.
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And you know what? Here in the US we are just about to celebrate one of my favorite holidays, Thanksgiving.
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I love it for two reasons. One because I get to cook for my friends,
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and two because I get to eat a lot of mashed potatoes, and those are two things I can do all day long.
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Now, this is also a time of the year when we all start to hear a lot about gratitude,
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and I love gratitude because I think it is the number one super tool to transform your life.
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But here’s the thing, gratitude can feel a little, you know, cliche.
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You might think like, “Ugh, gratitude. I’m so over it. Been there, done that. It’s so Oprah in the 90s.”
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Here is the deal though, if you’ve got gratitude fatigue I can pretty much bet you’re doing it wrong.
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I know, right? Who knew you could do gratitude wrong. I didn't know that until I read this here book by Robert Emmons called Gratitude Works.
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Now, Robert is the leading researcher on gratitude.
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Now, here’s the thing, I wanna teach you one trick that I learned from Robert
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that’ll help take your gratitude practice from something that’s, you know, kinda nice into a total miracle smoothie for your emotional well being.
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Now, before I tell you this one strategy, I’ve gotta be up front. This is about gratitude journaling.
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And before you go, “Ugh, journaling. That’s just too much work. I don't wanna do it.” Stop.
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Journaling is awesome. Two reasons. Number one, when you journal you start to uncover personal insights about yourself
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which can really help you unwire any negative patterns that you have, and we all have them.
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Number two, when you journal on the regular
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you really develop discipline and discipline is awesome for following through and getting results.
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Now, these two benefits never come when you just think about gratitude,
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so don't be so quick to dismiss the journal practice.
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Ok, so here is the big magic gratitude trick. If you want the most ROI for your gratitude practice,
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the dividends are in the details. It turns out that most of us are pretty lazy when it comes to our gratitude practice,
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What’s wrong with that? It is way too general. So research shows that if we want the most bang for our gratitude buck,
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we have got to get specific. That means way more depth and less breath. Check this out.
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The University of Southern California did a 10 week study on gratitude journaling with 3 groups.
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The first group were generalists: writing down 5 general things a day they were grateful for.
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The second group got specific: they picked one thing a day and wrote 5 sentences about it.
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The third group wrote about ways which they were better off than other people.
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Excuse us. Here’s the results.
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It turns out that the group that wrote 5 sentences about one thing
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were more elated, excited, and alert than the other groups and less tired, sad, and lethargic.
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Bottom line, details equal dividends. And I gotta tell you, this really, really works.
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So I tried it. I am so grateful for Josh, but instead of just of just saying, “I’m grateful for Josh,”
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I wrote down five really specific things that I’m grateful for and I want to read them to you right now.
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So I’m grateful that over the 11 years that we’ve been together
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he’s brought me a hot beverage in the morning at least 1,500 times.
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He makes me laugh more than anyone else in the world because he’s just so funny.
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He always says he’s sorry first even if I’m being overly sensitive, and not just to placate me, but because he genuinely is sorry.
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And he consistently hopes… helps me to slow down to enjoy life.
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And, most importantly, he makes the most delicious blueberry banana walnut peanut butter pancakes for me and all my friends.
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Ok, so if you wanna help spread the word about the right way to do gratitude, then you gotta share this here tweetable.
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“When it comes to gratitude, the dividends are in the details.”
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So now I would love to hear from you, and I want you to get grateful in the comments.
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So choose one person or thing that you’re grateful for and write five specific, detailed reasons why.
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As always, the best discussions happen after the episode over at MarieForleo.com,
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so get your butt over there and leave a comment now.
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Stay on your game and keep going for your dreams because the world really does need that special gift that only you have.
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Thank you so much for watching and I’ll catch you next time on MarieTV.