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So, you brush your hair, got from seven outfits and rehearse the entire evening on the phone with your friends.
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It’s finally time for that first date
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The door bell rings and suddenly, You are so nervous!
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It feels like those butterflies in your stomach are about to fly up and out and all over your date
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Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay! Look!
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We can’t make those first date’s jitters go away entirely and honestly first dates would be pretty boring without them.
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Today at wellcast, we’re gonna give you three simple ways to totally rock your first date.
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Welcome to dating 101, brought to you by Wellcast.
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Let’s get to it!
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Pause! And Print this wellcast worksheet.
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Are you ready?
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Step 1: the pre-game! “Self esteem pump-up”
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One way to ease those turbulent butterflies before your first date is to give yourself a nice booster shot of self-esteem.
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Now, that’s definitely easier said than done.
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However, we have three ideas for you: Exercise a few hours before you date;
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Even if it’s just to walk, this will make you feel strong and energized;
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Plus exercise gives you endorphins flowing which promotes a sense of well-being.
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And this will definitely help out with those first date’s jitters.
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Crank your favorite music while getting ready, sing-along, dance if you want to
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Listening to something you love will make you feel good
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Make a list of all the things that you like about yourself, they could be physical things like…
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Hey, I have really awesome hair or more abstract things like I am good at listening to others
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At your worksheet, write down at least three awesome things that you love about yourself and play them up on the date.
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If you’re good listener, make sure to listen, if you’re funny, tell a joke.
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But this is important, don’t list all your attributes; show them off by pumping up your self- esteem before your big date.
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You are gonna feel ggggggggggggggreat.
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You‘re probably still be nervous though but you won’t be down on yourself.
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Step two: Become a better listener.
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Why? By actively being an engaged listener, you’ll learn more about your date.
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This way, you’ll be able to interact with them better and it won’t be all about you.
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So this is what you need to do: first, be present! Focus on the here and now instead of drifting in your own head.
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You want your date to pay attention when you talk so pay them some courtesy.
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Don’t forget to ask questions. If you’re stuck for conversation topics or you just want to know more about the person you’re on the date with,
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Ask questions. It’s a proven fact that people love talking about themselves.
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So, by asking questions, you’ll get to know your date better.
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Step 3: “This above all else: to thine own self be true!” In other words, be yourself.
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It might feel like you’re gonna have a more successful date if you behave the way you think your date wants you to.
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But that’s not the case.
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I mean, for one trying to put on a front all night is gonna make you feel more awkward than if you tripped and fell down a flight of stairs right in front of your date.
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And second, it`s better unravel.
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I mean, do you really want a relationship based on a lie? And can you imagine how stressful it would be trying to keep up that front?
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Look, do yourself and your date a favor
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Just go with yourself, easy as that!
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Chances are, they’ll like you for you anyway.
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To recap, dating especially those first dates can be stressful and it’s impossible to banish this first date’s jitters entirely.
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But, with our three easy steps to a fun first date, We’ll have everything coming up roses for you at no time flat.
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So, listen up! Pump up your self-esteem; Be a good listener; and more importantly, be yourself!
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We’ll see you next time!