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  • my friends know that I'm pretty extra so A typical conversation could go like this.

  • Oh, my God.

  • And I spent so much money on clothes this weekend.

  • Well, you look dope, girl.

  • So yes, money well spent.

  • But I get you.

  • I also shelled out a ton of money this month.

  • Yeah?

  • On what?

  • Close to no, no.

  • I paid someone to call me out on all of my intimacy and commitment fears and basically exposed deep seated emotional issues surrounding relationships and abandonment that I had no idea existed.

  • Well, do you look good?

  • Thanks.

  • Holy shit balls, you guys.

  • I signed up for a life coach and a dating coach because he has some extras.

  • Helen, I wanted something to complement the three therapist.

  • I already they But I've been learning a lot too much for one video.

  • So today I wanted to hone in on one piece of advice I got from my dating coach that I have found supremely helpful in my adventures.

  • So I went on this date with this guy and I was talking to her afterwards and she asked how to go.

  • Was good.

  • Hey, was cute and funny.

  • And he's a creative person, which I like a lot.

  • And we have a lot of the same goals.

  • E Yeah.

  • You know, I want to point something out to you.

  • You told me all of these things about him that you would see on paper.

  • But you know what?

  • You didn't tell me.

  • Uhh his his man size because I didn't I didn't know you didn't mention anything about how you felt.

  • Oh, he's this quality, and he's that quality, but who cares?

  • First and foremost, how do you feel on that date?

  • Comfortable?

  • Safe?

  • Or did you feel self conscious?

  • Did you feel like you could be yourself?

  • Did you feel like you have to put on an act in order to get him to like you?

  • Uh huh.

  • Mm.

  • You're good.

  • You really good.

  • You're good at this.

  • Okay?

  • Yeah.

  • It's such a mind blowingly simple thing.

  • And when I really started to think about it all of my worst relationships, I felt bad.

  • In the beginning, I felt anxious, not good enough, judged, criticized.

  • But I was so enticed and blinded by all the shining qualities of this person and the idea of them.

  • And then I projected all of my hopes on to them that I just totally ignored my feelings.

  • Simple, right?

  • But how often do we consciously ask ourselves that when it comes to dating were so concerned with the other person?

  • Do they like me?

  • Who are they?

  • Are they compatible with my life or our values aligned that we don't even consider our feelings first?

  • Or at least I haven't.

  • But now I know I'm Anna Khanna.

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