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- Hey everyone.
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It's your girl, Jenn
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and I am back to discuss my
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most recent reads
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books are probably my favorite topic to talk about,
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so let's get cracking.
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I want to do a huge thank you to our sponsor,
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Book of the Month,
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for sponsoring today's video.
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Over the weekend,
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I received my Book of the Month package
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and I spent all of Sunday reading.
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So book of the month is America's fastest
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growing online book service.
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Each month, they provide five book options
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and you get to pick one or more.
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Their mission is to shine light on new and emerging authors
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and help readers discover books they're gonna love.
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They do all the work for you.
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They sift through hundreds of books, each one,
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and then they provide you with a curated selection of
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new and early release titles.
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So that way you can spend your time reading and less time
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faffing around trying to find something to read.
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So this month I chose People Like Her by Ellery Lloyd.
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It's about a married couple and it switches between the
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perspective of the wife and the husband.
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So Emmy, the wife, is an Instagram mom.
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So she's completely obsessed with social media and
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everything she does is so calculative to ensure that she
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stays relevant and relatable, but her husband, meanwhile,
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Dan, he's honestly sick of it.
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Emmy's moral compass becomes more skewed and it's intense.
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It's just so, so intense.
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It's the first time I've ever read a contemporary thriller
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about social media. So I thoroughly enjoyed this.
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I'm so happy. I found this book through book of the month.
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You guys should definitely try it.
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to get your first book for just $5. All right.
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So now let's move on to other books that I have loved this
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past month.
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So this year I focused a lot of my attention on the
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importance of being more critical and mindful about my
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social media intake.
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I loved Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport
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Irresistible by Adam Alter
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And of course the documentary, The Social Dilemma,
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if you have not seen that documentary yet it's on Netflix
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and it is a required watch,
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but I was listening to an interview with Tristan Harris and
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he posted an excerpt from this book,
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Amusing Ourselves to Death by Neil Postman.
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So this book was published in 1985 and he was talking about
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the negative effects of television and how it was morphing,
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the public's ability to critically think and to be able to
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have productive public discourse.
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Honestly, if Postman was concerned in the eighties,
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he would probably be even more disappointed in us to see how
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we have managed to unfold into this messy pool
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that is today.
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People just don't read anymore.
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And as much as I love to make videos and learn from videos,
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it's not the same as reading a book and Postman goes
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to explain history of the age of topography,
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which is the era when books were the only source to get
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ideas and like a full, comprehensive way.
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I feel like books are an excellent container for information
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that's been analyzed and accumulated.
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And the issue with TV and the internet is that it's created
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an abundance of information, but they're all scattered.
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And de-contextualized, they're just bits and pieces.
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And it's hard for us to connect everything all together.
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In 1984, so many people were proud
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and relieved that the reality had
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not prophesied into what George Orwell
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describes in his book.
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So people were stoked.
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They were like, yeah, we avoided it.
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But no, Postman describes another dystopia
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that we've managed to sink ourselves into,
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which is Aldous Huxley's Brave New World.
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So this is a dystopia where the people are living in excess.
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They're constantly amused,
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constantly laughing and just not thinking.
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It's a dystopia
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where no one cares that they're only focusing
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on irrelevant things.
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No one cares that they're being surveillanced and
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forced to comply.
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It's just a world where distraction is
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the only thing that matters.
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And he's implying that that is the world that we're living
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in today.
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But I can go on about this book and it is actually
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December's book pick for my book club, Curl Up Club.
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And if you would like to discuss it with me
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and other club members,
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please check out the Instagram page for more information.
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And I do understand that there is a level of hypocrisy
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of me promoting my book club and me uploading this video
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on YouTube. But you know what?
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Yes, there is a lot of cognitive dissonance.
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But the thing is,
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I think the more information I learn about just being more
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critical about technology and what the earth has become,
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it's just going to work in our favor
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In order to solve a problem,
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you must admit that there is a problem.
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All right, let's move on to the next book.
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Next step I have The Best We Could do by Thi Bui.
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This memoir had me in tears.
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It was so beautifully illustrated
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and I couldn't help,
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but resonate so much with her family story.
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So this is an illustrated memoir about a Vietnamese family
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and the struggles that occur when a family is displaced.
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Bui's parents fled Vietnam in the seventies because it was
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war-ridden. And after the fall of South Vietnam,
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there was just no opportunity there.
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So they immigrated to the United States.
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Bui's parents did everything to try and make ends meet,
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but just like the weight of their past and the adjustment to
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an environment that's just ultimately just not
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welcoming to Asians,
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had an effect on how they
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would raise their children
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Growing up,
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I have only seen America's standpoint about the Vietnam war,
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nowhere in our history books
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did we see it from the Vietnamese perspective
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So it was so eye-opening and just a complete tragedy.
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And it's crazy how the effects of war
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can affect generations for years.
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It also made me reflect about my parents and how the
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displacement and the immigration affected them.
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I think this book is definitely going to hit home with
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anyone with immigrant parents.
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So the next book I want to talk about is the Silent Patient
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by Alex Michaelides
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And damn.
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This was another psychological thriller that I completely
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devoured. So it's about a famous painter, Alicia Berenson,
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who shoots her husband,
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kills him and then never speaks a word.
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So all the trials happen and she doesn't say a peep.
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And this book is narrated by Theo who ends up
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being her therapist.
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And he's just dying to know what happened
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the night of the murder.
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And he just wants to help her.
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And I'll just leave it at that.
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If you enjoyed Girl in the Train or Gone Girl,
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this book will be right up your alley.
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So my next read is kind of spooky.
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It is called Chaos by Tom O'Neill with
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Dan Piepenbring
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this would have been really good to read in October because
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it was kind of freaky. So this book is very dark.
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It's about the infamous serial killer Charles Manson.
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And really quick, if you guys don't know who he is,
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he was a cult leader that brainwashed and manipulated his
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followers to become murderers.
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It made everyone so paranoid and afraid during the sixties,
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and everybody was watching the trials really closely.
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So 20 years ago, Tom O'Neill
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agreed to do a piece for a magazine about the
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murders, but during the investigation,
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he uncovered a lot of evidence of a potential
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coverup behind this story.
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And honestly, reading this,
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I realized the sixties were crazy. Like actually crazy.
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We think 2020 is bad, but Lord, after you read this,
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you'll realize that the sixties were chaotic.
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There were LSD mind control experiments,
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FBI smear campaigns, and just the CIA was so careless.
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It's a hot mess. After reading this book,
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I definitely want to check out Helter Skelter because
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O'Neill does a lot of exposes and the contradictions
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in that book.
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So I would really like to see both sides.
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After reading this book,
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do I know what really happened?
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No. They say that this book kind of borders on conspiracy
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theories, but hey, I was in it for the ride.
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And the reason why this book looks untouched is because I
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read it on my Kindle,
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but I just thought it looked really nice on my bookstand
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Moving on, I have Leaders Eat Last by Simon Sinek.
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I mentioned my thoughts about this in a blog previously.
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And I said, I wasn't wowed by it, but you know what?
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I thought I would mention it anyway,
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because I didn't hate it. And I did learn a few things.
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It essentially explains how behind every or many successful
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companies, there are great leaders who create environments,
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where people will feel comfortable and have a sense of
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belonging and just feel proud to work there.
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He also talks about how every leader creates a circle of
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safety, which means you set culture values.
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You give power to people to make decisions and you offer
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trust and empathy.
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Humans work best when they don't feel like
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they're in danger.
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It was a great reminder for me to remain calm and relaxed
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when I'm working with my team.
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I know it seems like common sense for leaders to treat their
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employees with respect and empathy.
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But when you have a larger corporation, I guess it's easier,
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easier for them to see workers as a disposable cog in a
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system. I'm not saying it's right,
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but I'm just saying the bigger the company is the more
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abstract the workers become. It's like that one quote,
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the death of one person is a tragedy,
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but the death of a million is a statistic. And yeah,
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it just explains how,
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when big numbers start representing humans,
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our ability to empathize begins to falter.
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It's a decent read about good leaders who care about their
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people and see their workers beyond an expendable resource.
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My last book is called Playing the Whore
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by Melissa Gira Grant.
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Now I have had this on my bookshelf over there
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for literally years. I got this book in Oakland,
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I guess I've always wanted to know more about the taboo
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subject of sex workers.
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This book is not like a detailed exposee essay about the
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conditions of sex workers or like,
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or even like a day in the life memoir.
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It's like a pretty like sterile outline of why sex work
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should be considered and treated as a job and why it should
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be decriminalized.
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I appreciate the fact that this was
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written by a former sex worker.
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So she goes through case after case on why sex workers
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rights are human rights.
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There was one part that really stuck out to me.
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She explains that sex workers are always bombarded with the
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question, are you empowered by this work?
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Like, do you feel empowered with what you're doing?
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And it's, it's hard because if they don't say yes,
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then suddenly they're not being listened to because suddenly
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they need to be saved.
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And now these are sex workers that choose to be sex workers.
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So that's something to keep in mind.
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This question about empowerment in a job is not asked when