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  • We often judge a person by how smart he is because intellect is what makes a person successful.

  • That's true to a certain extend.

  • However, multiple studies have shown that emotional intelligence is far more important.

  • People with higher emotional intelligence tend to have better relationships, stronger

  • friendships and in general, tend to be more successful in life.

  • And that's not by accident because, as humans, we are emotional creatures.

  • We befriend people we trust and enjoy being around.

  • We work with people who know how to deal with other people.

  • But emotional intelligence isn't something that you are born with.

  • Often it's a skill that you should learn.

  • Let's find out if you are a mentally strong person.

  • Here are the seven signs of mental strength.

  • mentally strong people are not reactive

  • I remember back in college, the students who use to get bad grades would always complain

  • about everything, the textbook was difficult to understand, the teacher wasn't good enough,

  • the paper was harder than they expected.

  • And that's what reactive people do.

  • They always focus on the things they can't control.

  • On the other hand, a proactive person would say that the textbook is quite difficult to

  • understand, and the lecturer isn't the best, but that's not something I can control.

  • So instead of focusing on the thing that I can't change, why don't I focus on the things

  • that I can control?

  • I can control the amount of time and effort that I can put to get ready for this test.

  • And that's the difference between a proactive person and a reactive.

  • Reactive people are more concerned about their environment, if the weather is good, the food

  • good, if it's not, then it's going to negatively impact their attitude and performance, but

  • a mentally strong person understands that he has absolutely no control over the weather,

  • so whether it shines or rains, they don't care, they only focus on what they can control.  

  • 2.

  • They Do not compare themselves to others

  • People often value their worth by comparing themselves to others.

  • If you haven't achieved as much as your peers, you probably worth a lot less.

  • And in the world of social media and Instagram, it has only got worse.

  • Every time you pull out your phone to check out what's going in your Instagram feed, you

  • come across your friends who are doing something great, who's lives seem a lot better than

  • yours.

  • That destroys your self-esteem because you were on the same level a while ago, and somehow,

  • they have surpassed you.

  • But mentally strong people understand that life, in general, is not a competition, and

  • comparing your worst times to your friend's best times isn't wise.

  • That will only lead to depression and anxiety.

  • Then, how should you measure your progress?

  • By comparing yourself to who you were yesterday?

  • If you are moving forward, if you are changing your life for the better, then you are on

  • the right track!

  • We are all different in many ways, and your journey on this planet is going to be unique

  • to you.

  • The moment you compare yourself to others, you put yourself down, and mentally strong

  • people understand that.


  • 3.

  • Self-Reliance

  • Mentally healthy people know that the only person they can rely entirely on is themselves.

  • Of course, friends and family are essential, and their help is crucial, but the truth is

  • everyone is concerned about him or herself first.

  • And there is nothing wrong with that.

  • That's human nature.

  • How many times you were counting on a friend or a family member, but they let you down.

  • Set your expectations low.

  • Don't expect too much from people because you will end up disappointed.

  • In fact, don't expect anything from anyone, and no one will ever disappoint you, and when

  • someone helps you out, you will be pleasantly surprised.

  • 
 4.

  • life is unfair

  • Everyone, at some point in their lives, experiences injustice.

  • That's when we think that life is unfair, but the truth is life has never been fair.

  • You don't choose where you are born, and yet being born in a first-world country gives

  • you significantly higher chances to be successful compare if you are born in a third world country

  • where you have to spend at least 12 hours a day just to put food on the table.

  • You don't choose your parents, genes, or talents.

  • You might be the most careful driver in the world, but someone else might be driving while

  • he is drunk and might cross the red light and hit you where you end up losing your legs,

  • for example

  • It wasn't your fault, but yet you ended up losing your legs.

  • If you expect life to be fair to you, you won't go far.  


  • 5.

  • You can't please everyone

  • A wise man once said: "if you want to be please everyone, go and sell ice-cream!" if you want

  • to be a leader, if you want to achieve something great, you will have to upset some people,

  • you will have competitors, you will have enemies, or at least there will be some people who

  • won't like you.

  • Take an example of any successful person, bill gates, for example.

  • He is not an angel, of course, but he has given billions of dollars to different charity

  • organizations, spent billions of dollars to cure malaria in Africa, tried his best to

  • prepare the world for such a pandemic, invested billions into companies to help them develop

  • a vaccine faster and yet there are millions of people who hate him, criticize him and

  • spread different conspiracies about him.

  • He is just one example.

  • That's the case with every other successful person.

  • Even if you achieve slightly more than your friends, they could get jealous and try to

  • take you down or criticise you.

  • And that's just one side of it.

  • In life, you will have to take tough decisions.

  • You will have to say No to people so that you will have the time to work on your projects.

  • 6.

  • Acknowledging your weaknesses

  • Being mentally strong doesn't just mean being able to stand your ground.

  • It also means being emotionally strong enough to confront your deepest beliefs.

  • As a human being, you are subject to mistakes and weaknesses.

  • You cannot avoid that

  • If you are not ready to change your opinion when you find out you are wrong, then you

  • are mentally weak because only the strongest people have the ability to discipline their

  • emotions and don't let anger or pride stand in their way

  • If you are bad at something, instead of denying it, pick up a book and learn.

  • Don't expect to be born perfect.

  • It's absolutely normal to have flaws.

  • The challenge is to recognize that and put the effort to change it.

  • 7.

  • They take the extra mile

  • A lot of times, the difference between success and failure is that extra step which a lot

  • of people don't take because they give up too early.

  • Have you watched Elon Musk's interview when both of his companies were at the brink of

  • bankruptcy?

  • Tesla was running out of cash, and SpaceX's third lunch failed, and they didn't have enough

  • money to try again.

  • Investors were suspicious about the future of the company, and musk was almost broke.

  • When he was asked why isn't he giving up, he replied: I would have to be dead to give

  • up.

  • That is an example of a mentally strong person.

  • He used his last dollars and miraculously saved his companies.

  • When you are at the gym doing pull-ups, and you feel like you can't do more, that's when

  • you have to push yourself to do another one.

  • That extra pull up is one that's going to make a difference.

  • If you tried ten times and used ten different ways, but you still failed, get up and try

  • one more time.

  • "When you get knocked down, don't stay down; get back up again.

  • Nothing good is going to happen as long as you're down on yourself."

  • -Joel Osteen

  • These are the signs of a mentally strong individual.

  • You might have some of them and luck others.

  • But it's not a big deal because as Long as you are willing to put in the effort, you

  • have the ability to learn them all.

  • Believing in yourself to take the extra mile or focusing on things you can control instead

  • of the things you have no control over is a choice.

  • And this choice comes as a result of your mentality, so start with your mind.

  • Be strong enough to recognize your weakness, acknowledge your mistakes, and write down

  • a plan on how you are going to raise your emotional intelligence and become mentally

  • unbreakable.

  • And now it's your turn to let me know which one of these signs is the most important one?

  • And which one is your favorite one.

  • I read all of your comments

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  • Thanks for watching and until next time

We often judge a person by how smart he is because intellect is what makes a person successful.

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7 Real Signs You Are Mentally Strong

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    Summer posted on 2020/11/29
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