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Hi, my name is Frank, and I collect secrets.
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It all started with a crazy idea in November of 2004.
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I printed up 3,000 self-addressed postcards, just like this.
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They were blank on one side, and on the other side I listed some simple instructions.
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I asked people to anonymously share an artful secret they'd never told anyone before.
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And I handed out these postcards randomly on the streets of Washington, D.C., not knowing what to expect.
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But soon the idea began spreading virally.
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People began to buy their own postcards and make their own postcards.
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I started receiving secrets in my home mailbox
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not just with postmarks from Washington, D.C.,
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but from Texas, California, Vancouver, New Zealand, Iraq
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Soon my crazy idea didn't seem so crazy
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PostSecret.com is the most visited advertisement-free blog in the world
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And this is my postcard collection today
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You can see my wife struggling to stack a brick of postcards on a pyramid of over a half-million secrets.
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What I'd like to do now is share with you a very special handful of secrets from that collection
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starting with this one.
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I found these stamps as a child, and I have been waiting all my life to have someone to send them to. I never did have someone.
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Secrets can take many forms
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They can be shocking or silly or soulful
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They can connect us to our deepest humanity or with people we'll never meet.
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(Laughter)
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Maybe one of you sent this one in. I don't know.
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This one does a great job of demonstrating the creativity that people have when they make and mail me a postcard
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This one obviously was made out of half a Starbucks cup with a stamp and my home address written on the other side.
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Dear Birthmother, I have great parents. I've found love. I'm happy
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Secrets can remind us of the countless human dramas
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of frailty and heroism, playing out silently in the lives of people all around us even now
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Everyone who knew me before 9/11 believes I'm dead
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I used to work with a bunch of uptight religious people,
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so sometimes I didn't wear panties, and just had a big smile and chuckled to myself
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(Laughter)
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This next one takes a little explanation before I share it with you
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I love to speak on college campuses and share secrets and the stories with students
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And sometimes afterwards I'll stick around and sign books and take photos with students
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And this next postcard was made out of one of those photos
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And I should also mention that, just like today
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at that PostSecret event, I was using a wireless microphone
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Your mic wasn't off during sound check. We all heard you pee (Laughter)
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This was really embarrassing when it happened,
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until I realized it couldn't been worse. Right. You know what I'm saying.
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Inside this envelope is the ripped up remains of a suicide note I didn't use
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I feel like the happiest person on Earth (now.)
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One of these men is the father of my son. He pays me a lot to keep it a secret (Laughter)
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That Saturday when you wondered where I was, well, I was getting your ring
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It's in my pocket right now
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I had this postcard posted on the PostSecret blog two years ago on Valentine's Day
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It was the very bottom, the last secret in the long column.
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And it hadn't been up for more than a couple hours before I received this exuberant email from the guy who mailed me this postcard
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And he said,
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Frank, I've got to share with you this story that just played out in my life,He said
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My knees are still shaking
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He said, For three years, my girlfriend and I, we've made it this Sunday morning ritual
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to visit the PostSecret blog together and read the secrets out loud
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I read some to her, she reads some to me
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He says, It's really brought us closer together through the years.
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And so when I discovered that you had posted my surprise proposal to my girlfriend at the very bottom,
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I was beside myself
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And I tried to act calm, not to give anything away
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And just like every Sunday, we started reading the secrets out loud to each other
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He said, But this time it seemed like it was taking her forever to get through each one.
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But she finally did. She got to that bottom secret, his proposal to her
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And he said, She read it once and then she read it again
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And she turned to him and said, Is that our cat? (Laughter)
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And when she saw him, he was down on one knee, he had the ring out.
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He popped the question, she said yes. It was a very happy ending.
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So I emailed him back and I said,
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Please share with me an image, something that I can share with the whole PostSecret community and let everyone know your fairy tale ending
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And he emailed me this picture.(Laughter)
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I found your camera at Lollapalooza this summer
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I finally got the pictures developed and I'd love to give them to you
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This picture never got returned back to the people who lost it
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but this secret has impacted many lives, starting with a student up in Canada named Matty
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Matty was inspired by that secret to start his own website,
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a website called IFoundYourCamera.
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Matty invites people to mail him digital cameras that they've found
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memory sticks that have been lost with orphan photos
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And Matty takes the pictures off these cameras and posts them on his website every week
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And people come to visit to see if they can identify a picture they've lost
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or help somebody else get the photos back to them that they might be desperately searching for.
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This one's my favorite. (Laughter)
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Matty has found this ingenious way to leverage the kindness of strangers
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And it might seem like a simple idea, and it is,
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but the impact it can have on people's lives can be huge
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Matty shared with me an emotional email he received from the mother in that picture.
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That's me, my husband and son. The other pictures are of my very ill grandmother
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Thank you for making your site.
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These pictures mean more to me than you know
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My son's birth is on this camera. He turns four tomorrow
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Every picture that you see there and thousands of others have been returned back to the person who lost it --
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sometimes crossing oceans, sometimes going through language barriers.
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This is the last postcard I have to share with you today
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When people I love leave voicemails on my phone I always save them in case they die tomorrow
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and I have no other way of hearing their voice ever again
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When I posted this secret, dozens of people sent voicemail messages from their phones,
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sometimes ones they'd been keeping for years, messages from family or friends who had died
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They said that by preserving those voices and sharing them,
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it helped them keep the spirit of their loved ones alive.
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One young girl posted the last message she ever heard from her grandmother.
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Secrets can take many forms
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They can be shocking or silly or soulful
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They can connect us with our deepest humanity or with people we'll never meet again.
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Voicemail recording: First saved voice message
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Grandma:♫ It's somebody's birthday today ♫ ♫
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Somebody's birthday today ♫ ♫
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The candles are lighted ♫ ♫ on somebody's cake ♫
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♫ And we're all invited ♫ ♫ for somebody's sake
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♫ You're 21 years old today
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Have a real happy birthday, and I love you. I'll say bye for now.
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FW: Thank you.(Applause)
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June Cohen: Frank, that was beautiful, so touching.
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Have you ever sent yourself a postcard? Have you ever sent in a secret to PostSecret?
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I have one of my own secrets in every book
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I think in some ways, the reason I started the project, even though I didn't know it at the time,
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was because I was struggling with my own secrets.
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And it was through crowd-sourcing, it was through the kindness that strangers were showing me,
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that I could uncover parts of my past that were haunting me.
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JC: And has anyone ever discovered which secret was yours in the book?
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Has anyone in your life been able to tell?
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FW: Sometimes I share that information, yeah.
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(Laughter)
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(Applause)