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- [Narrator] Hey, Psych2Go-ers,
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welcome back to another video.
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Thank you all so much for your love and support,
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enabling us to make yet another exploration
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into everyday psychology.
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So let's begin.
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Have you heard the saying,
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"Humans are creatures of habit?"
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As a human, you naturally have your own unique,
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or even common habits,
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that you just can't seem to stop doing.
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How many of yours can you recall?
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Some body language habits have a way of sneaking
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into our everyday lives,
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so much that you might not even realize
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that you're doing them.
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Some of these subconscious behaviors may be fine with us,
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but they might induce others
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into making wrong perceptions about us.
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These behaviors could possibly be the culprit
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as to why you aren't landing that job after your interview
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or perhaps why all your blind dates tend to ghost you
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for no apparent reason.
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So if you have a hunch that a body language habit
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of yours might be the culprit,
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here are six not so great body language habits
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you should look out for.
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Number one, slouching.
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Does your job include being hunched
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over your computer for long hours,
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or perhaps you stay browsing YouTube videos
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for additional long hours to relieve your boredom.
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Whatever keeps you slouching over your screen all day,
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the end result is that you develop bad posture.
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Slouching is not a good body language habit to get into.
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It not only leads to bad posture and back problems
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but it also doesn't reflect well on others,
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because instead of them thinking the slouch is
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because of the hours hunched over our screens during work,
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they think it's because of a lack of self-confidence
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or because you were slouched over watching YouTube videos,
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which it was, also, occasionally, sometimes.
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But, hey, they're educational, sometimes.
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Number two, holding a defensive position.
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People can be annoying,
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so you may be in the habit of holding a defensive pose,
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such as crossing your arms,
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in reaction to the meanies out there.
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But don't let this seemingly defensive pose become a habit.
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Oftentimes, people will associate crossed arms
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as someone being disinterested, or well, defensive.
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So they might not think you like them
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or what they have to say.
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Showing your hands more when you talk with someone
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is the way to go.
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According to body language expert, Patty Wolfe,
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you should always keep your hands in view
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when you're talking.
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When a listener can't see your hands,
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they wonder what you're hiding.
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Number three, not walking with confidence
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and good coordination.
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How we walk can tell a person a lot about us.
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Do you agree?
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A lot of people judge you simply
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by how you walk down the street.
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Say what?
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In the 1980s, two New York psychologists,
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Morris Stein and Betty Grayson,
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conducted research to find out
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what violent criminals look for in their victims.
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They had violent prisoners rate individuals
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on how easy it was to attack them
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from recorded tapes of the people walking.
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They then had professional dancers analyze
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the clips using a Laban Movement Analysis system
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to rate how coordinated the individuals in the clips were
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and concluded that criminals found those walking
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with less confidence and coordination were easier targets.
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This reminds me of that classic episode
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on Rhett and Link's YouTube show, "Good Mythical Morning,"
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"The Safest Way to Walk."
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In that episode,
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the two internet personalities learned
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how to walk the correct way,
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according to researchers,
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in order to not be a target for mugging.
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It's hilarious.
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Number four, appearing distracted.
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Do you tend to look away, onto other things,
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when someone's talking to you?
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And you're still actively listening
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to the person talking,
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but glancing away may be a habit.
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While it may seem innocent,
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if you keep glancing away during a serious story
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about your friend's beloved goldfish, Crackers,
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they may think you're bored and not interested,
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or that you simply don't care about Crackers,
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the pet goldfish, not the additively yummy snack.
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Number five, overly intense eye contact
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or no eye contact at all.
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Eyes are the windows to the soul, right?
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But you just don't like looking into the depths
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of another soul, we just met.
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But not using any eye contact
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may make your job interviewer think
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that you're not a serious worker,
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or you're hiding something.
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Or, perhaps,
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too much eye contact during a casual party
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may make someone think they have food on their face.
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Aggressive stares can make someone feel a bit uncomfortable
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and shifting your gaze too often
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and not looking the person in the eye at all,
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can make them wonder if you lack confidence
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or are simply uninterested in what they're saying.
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In other words,
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it's best to pay attention to the goldfish story,
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pay attention to Crackers.
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No, not the snacks,
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though they sure have got my attention now.
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And number six, fidgeting during an important conversation.
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Nearly everyone fidgets, what's your go-to fidget ritual?
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It's something you do, and it can be entertaining.
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Enter pencil-drum solo.
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This is a difficult habit to stop and it may take time,
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but it may be worth it in some situations.
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Let's not forget our beloved retractable click pens
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and their dainty, clicky sounds.
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Aah, sweet relief.
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But according to body language expert, Tonya Reiman,
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author of "The Power of Body Language",
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fidgeting can imply you lack power
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or that you may be nervous.
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So it might be best to leave the drum solos to the experts
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and someone with a drum set.
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And while your amazing clicky pen
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may be appropriate background music, or not,
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for a boring day in class,
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it maybe isn't such a good idea
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during a serious conversation.
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And while people all around the world
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have adopted these habits and seem to be doing just fine,
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it's important to realize that now might be the best time
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to start breaking away from them.
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They are harmless,
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and haven't really done you any wrong, agreed,
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but you do want that extra edge
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in the next interview of yours, right?
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We hope we were able to give you insight
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into some of the body language habits
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that give a wrong impression.
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Did you find these relatable?
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Which one do you employ the most?
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Were you aware it was giving off such wrong vibes?
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Let us know in the comments below.
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