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There are certain things that we better not share with others.
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But sometimes over an interesting conversation, we don't really think twice before saying something and we share a lot of personal stuff.
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A friend of yours share his plans after graduating.
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You find that interesting and you start talking about your goals as well.
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A delightful conversation is something we all enjoy having.
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But when we share certain things about ourselves, we might give a negative impression about who we are.
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So, here in this video we will talk about 3 things that you probably should never talk about, unless you really have to.
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The first one is your problems.
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When we go through something difficult, we feel the urge to speak out, to take it out of our hearts, to tell someone about what we are going through.
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Because many of us find it difficult to control our emotions.
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By expressing yourself, you feel like you are getting rid of all this negativity.
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But in reality, you are making things worse, because that often makes you appear weak, unable to take responsibility for your life.
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In fact, over time that turns into a habit of complaining.
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We create a negative atmosphere around us that no one really enjoys being around.
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Part of that is, over time we start complaining about everything, without realizing how creepy we sound.
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We start complaining about that guy who wasn't kind enough in the shop.
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The waiter who was little rude or that friend who borrowed money from you and then disappeared.
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A friend of mine got himself to the point where he literally now complains about the way people dress.
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Of course, sharing your problems once in a while isn't really a big deal, especially when we go through something serious.
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But make sure you do it with the right people who you know that can help you one way or another.
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Either by directly taking action or giving you a good piece of advice.
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Secondly, gossiping.
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We all agree that gossiping is bad.
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But for some strange reason we do it all the time and it seems like people have accepted gossiping as the bad thing that is okay to do.
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But gossiping isn't only bad because you are talking behind someone's back, but rather how it makes you appear in front of others.
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When you are spreading bad news about a friend, for example, it gives the impression that you are insecure about yourself.
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You need to put someone else down, in order to make yourself feel good.
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It might not seem to you like that when you are gossiping, but that's how others view it.
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A person with high self-esteem would never gossip.
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They have more important things to talk about.
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That's just part of the story.
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The other part is gossiping is a solid proof that you are not trustworthy.
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You are not someone with whom people would want to share their personal lives.
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Here is a fun fact, the person amongst your friends who never gossips or doesn't speak often is the one who knows everyone's dirty secrets.
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Because everyone turns to him to share their difficulties.
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They are like the psychologist in every gang.
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And lastly, try not to talk about your achievements.
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What do you want to say to a person who talks about his great achievements?
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What a jerk you are, shut your mouth.
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Achievements are great.
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They are what makes our life meaningful.
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But let your achievements speak for themselves.
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If they are big enough, people are going to notice them and talk about them.
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In fact, they would admire you because actions speak louder than words.
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But the moment you start bragging and telling everyone of what a cool guy you are, your achievements stop making any sense.
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You simply will appear like an egoistic douchebag.
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You will make people jealous.
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Some will resent you and you will create unnecessary conflicts.
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In fact, if you have really achieved something, you won't feel the need to share it.
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Because you have already to that deep internal satisfaction.
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In short, sharing your problems makes you appear weak.
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Gossiping is a sign of low self-esteem.
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And bragging will only devalue your achievements.