I mean, I grew up not far from you, Southern California, San Diego.

And for some reason, when I was a kid, I think it got etched in my mind.

I always called the American Dream, but I thought that when I had money, I would be happy.

I don't know why I used to have dreams.

I was rich and wake up and realize we weren't.

But for me, that was kind of etched in my mind.

And, you know, I went down that road for a long time, but I could never It never satisfied me.

And so, you know, you know, I went to a good school and I was working on Wall Street.

And then, you know, in my thirties, I think I was looking for other things to make me happy.

Got involved in alcohol and drugs.

And then when I finally got to London, I was still 40 years old, working in the city here, which is the Wall Street equivalent doing really well.

And I noticed one day that my bank account kept going up every quarter because they would pay us every quarter the business.

I was working and I wasn't get any happier.

I was alone in this big house with no family.

Still trying to, like, drink myself to death.

And I was just like, this isn't working.

And that's why we're talking here today because I decided to make a change.

And it was because I started being of service.

And I always thought those were the corny people ed, that we're up service, you know, three other thing you became that all happy people have.

Brother is more self aware.

I lived completely unaware of who I waas un observing of who I waas for so many years thinking I'd get around to it.

The happiest people I know are very aware, their self deprecating you know, they have realized I'm a very average ordinary person.

I grew up like you.

I thought there wasn't a lot of happiness around me.

So it must be in those beach houses.

It must be on those jets.

And by the way, there are those things they do make you happy.

People say material things don't make you happy.

That's just a lie.

Any of you ever bought a beautiful suit like you're wearing makes you happy.

For how long?

I don't know.

Does it fulfill us though, which is a completely different emotion.

No services.

What fulfills us?

But I did Catalyst, who has building my first big mansion dream house.

And I met my wife as I told you when we were five years old.

So it was a family project, and we walk in one day.

I'm having a bad, damn mad at everybody.

Business isn't going good, you know, Appointments that flaked out, walk in the house and they're building it.

I'll never forget this.

They were in the kitchen building the kitchen, this huge, great room.

I walked in and I'm pissed yelling it.

Bane sticking out.

And all the guys working in my house were in Southern California.

You know, this is well, the vast majority of people that were working on my home were from Mexico, Whether they were there legally or not, I don't know, but they were working.

There's about 15 guys working in my house, all making minimum wage.

All had left their families at one point and they're playing mariachi music.

They're laughing, their dancing, their joyous as they're working and I stopped myself with my wife.

It'll make me too emotional to talk too long about it.

And I looked and I thought, If life is measured on happiness, these guys air killing me, they're building my mansion.

My veins were sticking out of my neck.

I'm miserable.

They're making minimum wage.

It's 100 degrees.

They're working in my house, building my kitchen and they're singing and dancing and loving each other and having a blast.

Happy to be here and I'm miserable.

And this is my damn house.

What the hell is wrong with me?

And that was a real turning point for me, where I like, What do they know?

I don't.

And what they were doing is I was always projecting forward.

It was always the future.

I never lived.

Now, you know, I didn't always live in the past.

I'm not one of those big.

That part of comparison is not my thing, But I never live now.

They were living right now because they don't even know what their future is.

What a great gift toe live right now And be grateful for that moment that work that song, that buddy of theirs working next to them.

And I started to just slow down my appreciation for the moment.

And that's really changed my life.

And I can't tell you that I still don't revert back because I do.

But I do it much less because I am self aware.

I catch myself when I do it.

My, my, my wife.

Why don't you want stop my wife?