What have you learned on?

How have you learned to be a better parent?

Andi, how can you keep having a good relationship with your son?

You have that conversation, you know.

How do you get it to where he still listens to you as well.

Great question.

By the way, Brassica So I love you.

I'm so glad we did this today.

I've watched the show forever.

But your wonderful man so gifted.

So thank you sincerely for having me.

Thanks, man.

I didn't know if anyone's watching.

I don't care.

I'm just glad talking, Thio.

I hope they are, uh, parent things.

The one area where I I constantly knocked myself.

I've never been secure.

His apparent Always feel like I'm not doing it right.

Um, what I have done with my kids to answer your question.

The reason I'm close to my Children is I've I've afforded time with them.

I don't I think they want time with you, and they want to feel like they're important.

And I violated that a lot when they were really young.

My wife's constantly.

Do you remember when Bella first walked?

No.

Remember Matt No, I was just not even when I was there, I wasn't there and I changed that when they were pretty young, like 56 years old.

I think that what we have in our family, that's pretty special is an amazing mom.

Thio cares, for all their needs, were a pretty good team.

My wife wanted to be a mom like she really did.

That was one of her dreams is when we were little kids.

You know, we met when we were real small.

So, um, that's worked.

But what I have with my kids is my kids are very different.

My son eyes much more like his mom is very easy going, Uh, he's just a good boy, A good man, I should say now, but what I have with them is I've done what I said earlier is a leader like they've seen my example.

My son was the editor and all my first podcast when they were all just audio.

So I had to consume all that content.

But I walk the walk like what I'm talking about.

I actually do most of the time, and they remind me when I don't and so I think they've seen examples of these things that I teach.

I'm really honest with my kids.

And what I just I wanted my kids to leave Brian my house with a few things.

One was their faith, Like just a foundational faith in their life.

Self confidence.

Okay, work ethic and the ability to communicate If they could leave those things, I think the ability to do what we're doing right now, you could always be successful in life if you can communicate your thoughts and your ideas, right?

And then an unbelievable work ethic.

Confidence in their faith.

And I feel like those are the things I was constantly trying to reinforce.

Their faith, their self confidence.

So I'm a big believer in praising them.

And and I'm over the top with it every night when Max go to bed too.

Is 18 your leader?

Your gladiator?

You're a champion.

You're the greatest of all times.

I know, Dad.

I'm telling you again, man, you're a leader.

Your gladiator.

You're a champion.

You're the greatest of all time, brother.

I tell them that all the time, right?

My daughter You're a superstar.

You're beautiful.

You're so smart.

Your daddy's pride and joy.

I tell her this every damn day.

I pray with them because we're people of faith.

So they've seen the exemplify my faith.

We pray before meals just so they see that there and then, you know, I'm working on their communication all the time.

I make them speak.

I make them do book reports to me verbally verbal communication.

So those are the tools and then, Hey, man, I could screw it up.

One of them could turn out okay.

One of them could not.

You know, I I don't have any magic crystal ball or anything like that.

But I do feel like they've seen me live a decent life.

I've worked on those four areas with them and also kind of I've become as they've gotten older.

I let them make their choices, you know, instead of making them for them.

I'm a big believer.

They've gotta learn to make decisions if I keep making them for them or giving them things I know typically.

Brian, when I meet the child of someone who's grown up with money ID, usually no, I could tell there's an edge they lack.

There's an edge that comes to not growing up with stuff, and I wanted both of my Children somehow to still have that edge about them that you lose when you grow up in relative comfort.

And so I was always guarding against them, losing that edge, and I'm not even sure how you do that.

But it's something I was intentional and aware of it.

I'm not losing that.

My son yesterday called me, said, Hey, Dad, just so these got He's got a little golf club business He does on eBay like he's gonna make his own money.

When he was really little, my son came home from school one day and he said, Hey, Dad, all the kids like third Grade's told me that we're rich.

Are we rich?

All this third graders told him.

I said, Hey, man, I said, How much money you got?

He goes, I got like, $7.

I said, Well, then you're not rich.

I said, I don't know if Daddy's rich or not, but I know you're definitely not rich with seven bucks.

He goes kind of looks at me with those eyes, and I sort of kept that line with him the whole way And so you know, my sons at multiple businesses and my daughter is now working.

She's a my daughter is a is a hostess at a Mexican restaurant.

She works, man.

I want her learning the work, right?

So those are the things I've taught him, Brother.

I hope I've done a good job.

I'm really insecure about parents Think it's all parents are insecure.

I hope I did right.

How do you teach work ethic?

The observance caught not top caught, and also I emphasize the heck out of it.

Like back school started eight o'clock.

Remember, One day I go, Hey, my brother, it's light it like 6 a.m. I said.

I said, I don't know.

He was like third on his golf team.

I said deep.

Do you think the other guy's written balls before school?

He goes, No, I go.

What do you think it goes?

I should probably get up, get balls before school.

Sit.

Well, I don't know.

The whole do things other people aren't willing to do.

That would be one of those things.

Don't you think he's like, Yeah.

So every day my son hits balls before school every day.

Just stuff like that.