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  • today I want to share with you and I opening story about a young man and his mentor.

  • It is a story about not letting anything anyone says or does get to you, including family or friends.

  • It's about not allowing negativity inside, not allowing opinions to dictate your well being.

  • It's about taking responsibility for your own feelings, no matter what anyone else thinks or says about you.

  • So the story tells us that there was this young man who was living with his family because he didn't have the means to move out.

  • The young man would visit with a mentor once a week, and every time he would complain about his family saying how negative they were, how they always pushed him to do things that he did not enjoy while never supporting him and doing the things he actually did enjoy doing, He said his family were dragging him down.

  • Mentor responded.

  • But are they really dragging you down, or are you allowing whatever is being said to you or about you to drag you down?

  • Are they really dragging you down or are you allowing whatever you think they are thinking of you to drag you down.

  • Not truly understanding and growing angry at the mentor, the young man responded, No, they are dragging me down there.

  • Negativity drags me down every day.

  • I can't make up how I feel.

  • They are doing this to me.

  • The mentor responded again.

  • No one can drag you down without your consent.

  • They might be saying a lot of things that might not be a great way to support you, but it is still you who decides how you feel about the situation.

  • You can be angered by the words or choose a different meaning.

  • You can be angered by their lack of parenting ability or choose to be compassionate, knowing they could Onley parent at the current level.

  • They were capable of knowing if they know better, they do better.

  • They might be thinking something's Or maybe they aren't.

  • Maybe you are overthinking what they might be thinking, and in your over thinking you are creating negative energy that otherwise would not be there.

  • Maybe they only want what is best for you.

  • It might be true that they're not doing a good job of showing it, but again, no one can drag you down without your consent, he continued.

  • So how can you improve yourself so that nothing anyone says can ever drag you down?

  • How can you improve yourself so that nothing anyone thinks or you believe they think can drag you down?

  • How can you improve so nothing disturbs your journey in life?

  • How can you improve?

  • So your reactions are calm, not judgmental.

  • So you don't overthink what others may or may not be thinking.

  • So you are optimistic about other people.

  • So you know, with absolute certainty that no other can obstruct the path of your ultimate purpose in life.

  • The boy responding e understand now that I need to improve.

  • But does that mean I must accept toxic people in my life?

  • The mentor replied:

  • Maybe you do have to distance yourself from some toxic people in your life now or plan for it to happen in the future.

  • Whatever the case, the most important thing that needs toe happen is you improving your internal state so people words and little things don't have the power to disrupt your journey here on Earth.

  • I'm sure there have been moments in your life where you were surprised at how well you responded to a situation that would normally upset you.

  • This'll is what we're talking about.

  • It always has been and always will be about you.

  • No matter what is going on around you, there could be a good feeling with there could be a knowing within me that this, like all other things will pass.

  • You are the creator of your destiny because you are the creator, the decider of your feelings.

  • At each moment you decide the meaning of each situation and therefore you can direct your destiny however you choose.

  • So step back and choose to see this situation differently.

  • Choose compassion if possible, choose kindness if possible to others and more importantly to yourself and choose to do that Work on you For when your internal state is at peace.

  • No turbulence around you will disturb your path.

  • Yeah, yeah.

today I want to share with you and I opening story about a young man and his mentor.

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    林宜悉 posted on 2020/10/14
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