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Speaking seems like the easiest and simplest skill ever, but when we speak to a group of
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people or a broader audience, it gets much more difficult, we start panicking, we start
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getting nervous, and a job that seemed simply suddenly becomes challenging, it even feels
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scary to try.
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If you have ever tried to speak on a stage in front of a large audience, you know what
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I am talking about.
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But that's not the only problem, because even when we speak to friends or a small group
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of people, we don't always feel confident and that makes it even more difficult to express
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your point of view.
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And it feels horrible because you have this fantastic idea in your mind but the lack of
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confidence makes it difficult for you to share it with others.
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Just to be clear, I am not claiming that I am some kind of an expert when it comes to
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social skills, but after making videos for some time here on youtube and talking on the
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stage, I have learned a lot about speaking.
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Because I always have to record my voice and edit it! over time I started noticing some
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of the things that people usually don't and I started learning how to speak better
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and more confidently.
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So let me share with you a couple of tips that I have learned along the way that will
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help you to talk more confidently.
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When you get nervous, you start rushing and speaking faster than you usually do because
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you want this thing to end as soon as possible.
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But like it or not, you are only making things worst.
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When you speak, your primary job is to feel as comfortable as possible, and the easiest
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way to do that is to talk slower, make it clear to yourself that you have all the time
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in the world and you don't have to speak faster for any reason.
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As long as you are talking 120 or 130 words per minute, you are fine.
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But the reason you get nervous in the first place is that you let your emotions get in
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control.
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You start focusing on the wrong side of the story, you start thinking what if things go
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wrong, what if you are speaking too slowly and people are getting bored, so you speed
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up and ruin everything, which is a common mistake.
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Every time you feel that way, stop for a moment, take a deep breath and focus on the message
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that you want to deliver and forget about how people are going to react to it because
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the more thought you are going to give it, the more nervous you are going to get.
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Some people are naturally confident and are masters at speaking, but that doesn't mean
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you cant reach that level.
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Most of these famous politicians weren't as good as they are today, many of them were
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even introverts at some point of their life before becoming who they are today, but with
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some practice, they could reach that level, which means you can do the exact same thing
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if you are willing to put the effort.
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Pick up your favorite book and start reading loudly as if you are talking to a group of
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people.
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Imagine there is an audience in front of you and you have to tell them this incredible
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story.
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Try to read it with energy and enthusiasm.
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Of course, having a real audience in front of you is different, but this exercise will
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train you to feel a little bit more comfortable when you have real people in front of you.
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Don't forget to record your voice.
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Because you might think that you sound great, however when you listen to your voice, you
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will know that you aren't as good as you think.
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And I have experienced multiple times.
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But that's the only way to find out your flows and fix them.
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You will feel uncomfortable when you know that your voice is being recorded and you
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will get at least a little bit nervous as if there is a real audience listening to you,
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but over time, you will get used to it.
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And that's it for today, as always if you found this video helpful then hit that like
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Thank you again for watching, and I will see you in the next video.