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  • A broken heart, even though your heart is not physically broken, can feel really painful.

  • And how it can actually ache in places that you didn't know you had inside you.

  • You can actually become physically ill from a broken heart.

  • So, my first piece of advice I would give to anybody who's experiencing a heartache

  • or a broken heart is to take your time.

  • Get over her.

  • I think it's kind of like how they say.

  • There's plenty of other fish in the sea.

  • I think a lot of times we get advice from friends and loved ones that we should get

  • out there again

  • and not wallow in our feelings.

  • But I think that's the exact opposite of what we need to do.

  • We really do need

  • to take the time to really kind of get in there and understand why we might be feeling

  • the way that we're feeling.

  • I love you.

  • Liar!

  • Bottling up emotions leads to feelings of resentment, feelings of bitterness, depression,

  • loneliness,

  • and can often times lead to serial dating and repeating the same patterns over and over again.

  • All my romantic stories are a scrambled version of that first one.

  • If you find that it's interfering with your day to day interactions then at that point

  • I would suggest

  • that you get additional help, maybe the support of a therapist.

  • And breaking up with a loved one or a partner is a particular kind of loss.

  • It's different than other kinds of losses because the person is still there, the relationship

  • is gone though.

  • Are you breaking up with me?

  • I don't see how it's gonna work.

  • If there's one piece of advice that I would give to anybody, it would be to become anti-social media.

  • I don't know how many times I've had people come into my office telling me

  • that they are looking at people's Instagram feeds, they're on Facebook,

  • they're googling their ex.

  • Nothing good can come from doing these kinds of searches.

  • It helps you to have an imagined sense of closeness.

  • So I would advise you to stay away from social media.

  • I really encourage anybody to practice any kind of mindful activities, and it could be

  • body scans.

  • It can be yoga.

  • It can be mindfulness meditation.

  • It can be mindful eating.

  • But if you can take the time to be present, to be aware of what your thoughts are,

  • to be curious about what your thoughts are and where they're coming from

  • and to understand that your feelings are linked to those thoughts.

  • I think it's really important for you to have a clear vision of what moving forward

  • looks like to you.

  • And then once you can do that, you can take a few steps backwards and figure out

  • what it is that's happening in your life now that's preventing you from being able

  • to move forward.

  • What behaviors are not lending themselves to this new idea, to this new vision that

  • you have in your life.

  • It takes a lot of time to really be able to process that life can be different, that life

  • can still be good,

  • that there's still possibilities in your life after that person.

  • Take the time you need to grieve the loss.

  • It's an important part of the process and being able to experience whatever it is that

  • you're experiencing

  • without trying to change or manipulate or avoid the feelings or the thoughts,

  • is what's gonna help you be able to come out the other side.

A broken heart, even though your heart is not physically broken, can feel really painful.

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    Seina posted on 2020/09/07
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