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  • - Hi, I'm Anna Akana, and I'm so excited

  • to be collaborating with Elle today on a topic

  • that I'm very passionate about.

  • For those of you who don't know me,

  • I'm a very vocal advocate for mental health awareness

  • and suicide prevention, especially in teens.

  • And as someone who has struggled with clinical depression

  • and anxiety for the past 10 years,

  • it never fails to amaze me when people offer

  • you unsolicited advice on how to get over being depressed.

  • Some of my absolute favorites are,

  • Ooh, have you tried going vegan?

  • The assumption that your genetic depression comes

  • from your diet is such a great leap, you guys.

  • Look everyone gets sad sometimes.

  • It'll pass.

  • You're right, my brain chemistry's imbalance is mostly due

  • to the six planets currently in retrograde.

  • My sad mood will totally pass with the moon.

  • Thank you.

  • You know what you should really do is affirmations

  • the morning and evening, and think positively.

  • Ah, you're right, the negative voices

  • in my head are totally voluntary.

  • I'm just choosing the wrong things to think and feel.

  • Duh.

  • You know, it's all in your head.

  • Um, yeah, that's the exact definition of mental illness.

  • Oh, I mean, you don't seem like you're depressed.

  • I'm so sorry, I didn't realize that

  • you had x-ray emotional vision.

  • You know, you don't need medication to cure depression,

  • there's lots of natural ways you can go about it.

  • Oh, are you a doctor?

  • Would you like to tell me more about that?

  • And also show me your medical degree?

  • When someone discloses their mental illness to you,

  • offering up solutions or unsolicited advice

  • only serves to dismiss the mentally ill person's pain.

  • Most attempts at fixing someone,

  • it's actually a very selfish thing to do,

  • because you're uncomfortable with their pain.

  • And the strange thing with mental illness is

  • that it's the only sickness where people feel

  • that like they're qualified to give you advice.

  • Like if I say I have leukemia or an autoimmune disease,

  • no one is gonna tell me to go vegan.

  • But you know there are things that you can

  • and should say that will alleviate the suffering

  • of a mentally ill person, things like,

  • I don't understand, but I'm here for you.

  • How can I help?

  • Wow, that sounds rough.

  • Would you like to talk about it?

  • And just plain attempting,

  • trying to understand with empathy.

  • Thank you so much to Elle for having me,

  • and if you're struggling mental illness of any kind,

  • I urge you to seek professional help,

  • and surround yourself with kind-hearted people

  • who get it.

  • I'm Anna Akana.

  • Bye.

- Hi, I'm Anna Akana, and I'm so excited

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Anna Akana on the Unsolicited Advice You Should Never Give To Someone With Depression | ELLE

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    nico   posted on 2020/08/15
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