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  • - We can all lose our motivation.

  • The question is do we regain it?

  • The question is do we show up

  • when it really counts?

  • The question is are we are of when it's lost

  • and what do we do to get back?

  • So let's talk about losing motivation

  • in this context right now?

  • Because listen, if you haven't seen my hashtag on this

  • I want to let you know

  • it's not just a superficial thing,

  • it's genuinely how I feel.

  • I've been locked down for 28 days

  • but I keep saying

  • I'm locked down

  • but fired up.

  • Locked down, fired up.

  • I don't think I've ever been generally as motivated

  • in my entire lifetime right now

  • 'cause I can see the opportunity to serve,

  • I can see the need out there,

  • I can accept the challenge on myself to say

  • how am I going to deal with this?

  • But it doesn't mean I don't lose my motivation too.

  • And so what does losing motivation look like?

  • Usually, let's talk through a few things,

  • first recognize almost all lost motivation

  • is actually fatigue, burnout, overwhelm and stress.

  • It has nothing to do with motivation itself.

  • It has to do with the conditions around it

  • jacking up your motivation.

  • So fatigue, that's why we're going to talk

  • about self-care real fast.

  • And I know you all know this

  • being in our community,

  • but if this hasn't moved up on your priority list,

  • you're not even in the game yet.

  • I talked with another client the other day

  • who's like Brendon,

  • I haven't been affected by this at all.

  • I still feel good,

  • I still feel strong,

  • business is strong,

  • felt like he was in a good place

  • and I was like oh interesting,

  • I was like, well are you not feeling any fatigue

  • from the news and the media?

  • He's like, no, like you said, Brendon,

  • part of my self-care routine

  • is I don't do a lot of consumption,

  • I don't read a lot of the news,

  • maybe once or twice a day,

  • I don't do a lot of social media.

  • I said, okay that's cool

  • and I said, nothing else,

  • you don't feel like the grind on you,

  • you don't feel like overwhelm?

  • No.

  • Well the way his coping was coming out

  • was he was getting more agitated with other people.

  • Not the way he treated them

  • 'cause he's just a darling man with other people

  • but you know what was interesting?

  • I heard him say it two or three times.

  • It took a minute for me to pick up on it as a coach,

  • I picked up on it,

  • he was calling other people idiots.

  • I've never heard him call his team

  • or anyone on his team an idiot.

  • And he said the word idiot three times on the phone.

  • And I was like ah,

  • 'cause you know one way you cope with things,

  • judgment goes up.

  • Because if you can be sure of your opinion right now,

  • at least that's some kind of certainty.

  • So a lot of people's certainty

  • comes through their sense of self righteousness,

  • their sense of I'm going through this

  • and other people are not

  • which again is the devil of division, separatedness.

  • Oh, I'm dealing with better than them, suckers, idiots.

  • And you know what happens?

  • If you start thinking the world is full of idiots,

  • lost motivation.

  • 'Cause you know what,

  • you don't want to deal with those people anymore.

  • And when you don't want to deal with those people anymore,

  • you withdraw and unconsciously you lose motivation.

  • When judgment goes up, motivation goes down.

  • Why do you think the Dalai Lama

  • is such an extraordinarily motivated man,

  • especially for his age and health conditions?

  • Because he's so accepting and loving of people.

  • When you are accepting and loving of people

  • as where they're at,

  • as an opportunity to serve,

  • your motivation's different.

  • So how does this come back to self-care, Brendon?

  • What the heck are you talking about?

  • Well, this person didn't realize

  • his fatigue was coming out as judgment,

  • his stress was coming out as judgment.

  • He didn't make that connection.

  • But because he was not taking care of himself,

  • because he was bragging about working three times as much

  • and it's not affecting him and everything's fine,

  • what came to be true was he was fatigued.

  • He lost his self-care routines.

  • Your self-care should be A plus right now.

  • And for most people, it's not.

  • Most people just double,

  • listen to this,

  • by the way, it's historical,

  • in economic recessions and depressions,

  • household budgets for alcohol double.

  • Do you know that?

  • It's already happened here in North America.

  • Just like oh, let's just spend more on alcohol,

  • it immediately happens.

  • Now people are saying well no, no, no,

  • it's 'cause we're locked in

  • and we can't go to the restaurants as much.

  • No 'cause when you went to the restaurants

  • you still spent the same or more.

  • No, what's happening is people are,

  • their number one way

  • that they're stealing from their self-care

  • is they're turning to addictions.

  • Please be aware of that.

  • Be aware of what you are turning to

  • that's making you more tired.

  • 'Cause guess what?

  • A hangover is fatigue,

  • no matter how good your hangover is.

  • The more you consume, drink,

  • eat things that are unhealthy right now,

  • and listen I'm not here to be a preacher of your health,

  • I'm just here to say it has effects.

  • And since we're talking about lost motivation,

  • please realize a hangover in any capacity

  • is going to hurt

  • the molecules that we know activate motivation.

  • Dopamine, vasopressin, oxytocin, serotonin,

  • are all negatively impacted by any drug use

  • and any alcohol.

  • All of them are negatively impacted.

  • So please realize that motivation

  • is neurobiological as well.

  • You can take a group of soldiers

  • and over a 16 week period

  • measure their sleep patterns

  • and their perceived sense of motivation and drive,

  • and watch it crater.

  • You mess with people's sleep,

  • you feed 'em bad things,

  • you make 'em consume drugs and alcohol

  • and their motivation will drop.

  • And I'm not here to preach

  • 'cause you do what you want,

  • hey, if you love a glass of wine with you're meal,

  • I'm not here to preach about that.

  • I'll have a glass of wine, no problem,

  • I love a glass of wine,

  • but I'm not likely in times of crises

  • to have a bunch of 'em.

  • And that's what's really important,

  • 'cause I know I already have a compromised brain,

  • many of you guys know I had a brain injury in 2011

  • and that brain injury doesn't go away.

  • So I'm always mitigating.

  • And for me, I know if I overconsume bad food or alcohol,

  • the next day, I just don't feel good.

  • And that slows down my ability to serve

  • or be their for my family when it counts.

  • And right now, it counts.

  • So please, do your self-care.

  • That means, for those of you that,

  • a convenient acronym to check your self-care,

  • do this, take your MEDS, m-e-d-s, MEDS.

  • What does MEDS stand for?

  • MEDS stands for meditation,

  • exercise,

  • diet,

  • sleep.

  • That's your meds,

  • every day, meditate, exercise, diet, sleep.

  • Get those down.

  • Then I like to add the RX on it,

  • RX, what's RX stand for?

  • R stands for relationships.

  • Deepen your appreciation and your presence

  • in your relationship.

  • X is the X factor

  • which is to me supplementation,

  • finding what your body needs biologically

  • to optimize its performance.

  • Many of you guys know,

  • I take my Optimized supplement,

  • which I know some of you guys have,

  • I take that every day

  • so I can stay mentally clear and sharp,

  • especially in times of stress

  • 'cause there's adatpogens and mushrooms in there.

  • So everyone needs it, that's for me,

  • I know I need that.

  • You might know you need that morning cup of coffee,

  • that's a supplement if you didn't know that.

  • You might know that you're somebody

  • who needs a little extra magnesium, iron, and B vitamins

  • during times of stress.

  • Great, pump those up.

  • You might realize during times of stress,

  • it's time for you to take your adaptogens,

  • your rhodiola, your ginseng, that might be a time,

  • might be a time to boost your immunity.

  • Take your mushrooms, your chaga, your reishi, your maki,

  • whatever else I'm forgetting.

  • You got to know,

  • the X factor's always supplementation

  • but the R factor is relationships.

  • So MEDSRX,

  • meditation, exercise, diet, sleep,

  • nailed those, RX,

  • relationship presence and energy,

  • X, the supplementation to keep you going.

  • Okay, I won't belabor that point

  • 'cause I think you all know it.

  • Next up, and I'll move a little faster

  • through some of these.

  • Okay, remember we're on lost motivation.

  • So let's come back to this big key topic.

  • And this is make sure you are listening

  • to motivating voices right now, motivating voices.

  • If you got a friend or a spouse

  • who's constantly complaining,

  • immediately stop exposure to that

  • or let them know of its effect.

  • And don't blame them,

  • say, you know what,

  • I notice we, use the language we,

  • I notice we've been really talking

  • about the problems and the complaints about that.

  • Let's talk about what we're appreciative of.

  • Fire off five things you're grateful for.

  • Just help me change my mindset.

  • Acknowledge it's we,

  • 'cause all conversations are we,

  • and then say, help me,

  • give me five things you're thankful for,

  • tell me five reasons you love me,

  • say three things that are going good

  • and take control of that conversation.

  • Another big idea behind this is