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  • I was sitting with my girls.

  • Enjoy.

  • Set.

  • I wish you get off my back.

  • My daddy, he calls me all the time.

  • Lucky for you, he calls at all.

  • Said Jasmine.

  • I haven't heard from my dad in years.

  • At this moment, I knew the girls needed away to connect with their fathers and Camp Diva, my non profit organization.

  • We had these types of conversations all the time as a way to help girls of African descent prepare for their passage into womanhood.

  • These girls just need it a way to invite their fathers into their lives on their own terms.

  • So I asked the girls, How can we help other girls develop healthy relationships with their fathers?

  • Let's have a dance longer.

  • A shouted and all the girls quickly backed her up.

  • They started dreaming about the decorations, invitations, the dresses they were going to wear and what their fathers could and could not wear.

  • It was off and running before I could even blink my eyes.

  • But even if I could have slowed down those girls, I wouldn't have because one thing that I have learned from over a decade of working with girls is that they already know what they need.

  • The wisdom lives inside of them as long as they have infrastructure.

  • Mentor, ship and resource is they could build what they need, not only to survive but to thrive.

  • So we had a dance, and girls and their fathers came in multitudes.

  • They were dressed to the nine.

  • They acted sweet.

  • They acted silly.

  • They really enjoy each other's company.

  • It was a huge success, and the girls decided to make it an annual event.

  • So as the seasons changed and it was time to plan the dance again, one girl named Briana spoke up and she said, My dad can come to the dance and this whole thing is making me say it.

  • Why not?

  • The girls acts because he's in jail.

  • She bravely amid.

  • Well, can he just get out for a day?

  • One of the girls acts and come in shackles.

  • That's worse than not having him here at all.

  • In this moment, I saw opportunity for the girls to rise to the occasion and to become their own heroes.

  • So I acts.

  • What do you think we should do about this?

  • We won't every girl to experience the dance right.

  • So the girls thought for a moment, and one girl suggested, Why don't we just take the dance in the jail?

  • Most of the girls doubted the possibility of that and said, Are you crazy?

  • The hole is going to allow a bunch of little girls dressed up come inside a jail and dance with their daddies in SpongeBob suits because that's what they called them.

  • I said, Girls, Well, well, you never know unless you X.

  • So a letter was written to the Richmond City Sheriff san collectively back each girl, and I would have to say he is a very special sheriff.

  • He contacted me immediately and said, Whenever there is an opportunity to bring families inside, his doors are always open because one thing he did know that when fathers are connected to their Children, it is less likely that they will return.

  • So 16 inmates and 18 girls were invited.

  • The girls were dressed in their Sunday best, and the fathers traded in their yellow and blue jumpsuits for shirt and tasks they hold.

  • They shared a full catered meal of chicken and fish.

  • They laughed together.

  • It was beautiful.

  • The fathers and daughters, even experience the opportunity tohave a physical connection, something that a lot of them didn't even have.

  • For a while.

  • Fathers were in a space where they were able to make their daughter's plate and pull out her chair and extend his hand for a dance.

  • Even the guards crack.

  • But after the dance we all realized that debt still will be in jail, so we needed to create something that they could take with them.

  • So we brought and flip camps, and we had them look at the flip cams and just interview each other's their messages, their thoughts.

  • This was going to be used as a touch style.

  • So when they started to miss each other and feel disconnected, they could reconnect through this image.

  • I never forget that one girl looked in her father's eyes with that camera and said, Daddy, when you look at me, what do you see?

  • Because I Daddy's are our mirrors that we reflect back when we the set about what type of man we deserve and how they see us for the rest of our lives.

  • I know that very well because I was one of the lucky girls I have hit my father in my life.

  • Always.

  • He's even here today on.

  • That is why it is extremely special for me to make sure that these girls are connected to their fathers, especially those who are separated because of barbed wires and metal doors.

  • We have just created a form for girls who have heavy questions on their heart to be in a position toe, acts their fathers those questions and given the fathers the freedom toe answer because we know that the fathers are even leaving with this one thought.

  • What type of woman and I'm preparing to put in the world because a father is locked in does not mean he should be locked out of his daughter's life.

I was sitting with my girls.

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A2 TED-Ed jail girl dressed daddy father

A father-daughter dance ... in prison - Angela Patton

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    林宜悉 posted on 2020/07/03
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