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Neil: Hello. And welcome to 6 Minute
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English. I'm Neil.
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Dan: And I'm Dan.
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Neil: Now then, Dan. What do you think
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of dating apps - you know, apps
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on your phone that help
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you find a romantic partner?
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Dan: I can't say I've ever used them
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myself. How about you?
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Neil: Neither have I, but I've got friends
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who have, very successfully.
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Lots of weddings.
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Dan: Great!
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Neil: Now, research shows that fewer than
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5% of people who have used dating apps,
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actually go out on a date
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with someone they met through them.
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We'll find out the reasons for this
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shortly, but first, a question.
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Even though dating apps are not used
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as much as we might
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think, they are still big business, but do
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you know how big?
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Around the world last year
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how much was spent on them?
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Was it: a) less than half a billion dollars
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b) between half a billion and a billion
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dollars, or
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c) over a billion dollars?
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Any ideas, Dan?
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Dan: Well, this is purely a guess, but
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let's say over a billion dollars.
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Neil: Well, we'll have the answer
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at the end of the programme.
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Elizabeth Tinnemans is a
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researcher who studied the use of
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a particular dating app. She spoke
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on the BBC's You and
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Yours radio programme on Radio 4.
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Her study confirmed that comparatively
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few people who used the app
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used it to arrange to meet up
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with someone. She talked about
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people's motives for using the app.
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Motives is a word which means 'reasons' -
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so what were those motives?
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Elizabeth Tinnnemans: We found from all
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the people that we surveyed
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that only slightly more than
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half of them actually met up with
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someone. So it doesn't look like a lot of
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people are using it to meet up but
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it makes sense because we also
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looked at why they were
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using a dating app and the most popular
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and most common motives were
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using it out of curiosity
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and using it to pass time
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or entertainment. So they're not
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actively using these dating
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apps to meet people like swiping
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with friends is something that
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happens fairly often, especially
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among millennials.
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Neil: Tinnemans said that people use
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the app to pass the time and simply
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for entertainment.
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What other motives did she mention, Dan?
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Dan: Well, she said that people used it
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out of curiosity. If you do something
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out of curiosity you're just interested in
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seeing what it is and what it does.
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Maybe you've heard about
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something and although you don't want
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to actually try it, you do want to see
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what it's all about.
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For example, when I was travelling once,
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out of curiosity, I went to see
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people bungee jumping, but it was never
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something I was going to do myself.
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Neil: Was the lack of actual dating
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through the dating app a surprise?
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Dan: No, she said that because
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they looked at the motives, the result
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makes sense. When something
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makes sense, it's understandable,
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it's not surprising.
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Neil: There is another view as to why
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people are not using dating apps
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for actual dating.
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This is Zoe Strimpel who is
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a dating historian. She argues that
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because there is so much choice
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and so many opportunities to find
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a partner through an app, it can make
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the dating process
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unpleasant and people get tired of it.
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Zoe Strimpel: People are being
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horribly disillusioned. I think people have
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also started to feel jaded.
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People are feeling that they're aware that
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these relationships are often very callous
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and that's to do with the sort of
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incredible sense of choice.
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Neil: She says that people feel
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disillusioned and jaded.
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What does she mean?
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Dan: When you are disillusioned it means
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that you are unhappy with and
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disappointed by something
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because it isn't as good as it used to be
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or it's not as good as you thought it was
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going to be. If you have many experiences
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like that you become jaded which means
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you become bored and lose
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interest in something.
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Neil: She also commented that
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the dating experience can be callous.
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Dan: This means that emotionally
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it can be very tough and you have
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to be ready to accept
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rejection or to reject people yourself and
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this is not always done in the kindest way.
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Neil: Here's Zoe Strimpel again.
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Zoe Strimpel: People are being
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horribly disillusioned. I think people
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have also started to feel jaded.
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People are feeling that they're aware that
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these relationships are often very callous
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and that's to do with the sort of
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incredible sense of choice.
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Neil: OK. Time to review today's
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vocabulary, but first, let's have
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the answer to the quiz question.
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I asked how much was spent on
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dating apps last year. Was it:
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a) less than half a billion dollars
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b) between half a billion and a billion
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dollars, or c) over a billion dollars?
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Dan, you said?
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Dan: I said c) over a billion dollars.
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Neil: Well, the total was just under
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$600m so the correct answer was
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b) between half a billion and
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a billion dollars. Good guess if you got
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that one right! Right, now it's
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time to recap today's vocabulary.
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Our first word today was motives.
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A motive is your reason
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for doing something.
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Dan: If something makes sense it is not
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a surprise and you can understand it.
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Neil: The next phrase was out of curiosity.
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This is when you do something
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for no particular
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reason other than you are interested
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in seeing it or trying it.
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Dan: Then had disillusioned.
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This is a feeling you get when
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something isn't as good as it
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used to be or as good as you expected it
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to be and you become disappointed by it.
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Neil: And that can lead to your
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being jaded, which is a feeling
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of dissatisfaction and
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boredom with something that
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has been going on for a while.
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Dan: And finally there was callous -
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an adjective which means uncaring
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and cold-hearted.
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Neil: Well, I hope you aren't disillusioned
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with 6 Minute English and
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will join us again
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next time In the meantime find
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Dan: Bye bye!