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- Just over a year ago,
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I'd say my social media use was pretty typical.
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Up until that point, I didn't place any limitations
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or boundaries on how I used it.
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I'd wake up looking at Instagram,
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spend much of the day posting to Twitter,
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and I used Facebook to see my high school classmates
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fight over politics.
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You know, how it was intended to be used.
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(Matt laughing hard)
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Then, I saw my friend Jason Zook make a post on Instagram
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saying that he was taking the month off.
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He was deleting social media from his phone
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and logging out of all accounts on his computer for 30 days.
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- [Jason] My identity entire identity was tied to who I was online
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and I felt like if I didn't post or I wasn't there,
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it was like, I wasn't even doing anything interesting.
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I wasn't an interesting person.
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It's like, that is such a messed up thought.
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When you get to that place, you're no longer
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in control of how you're using that platform,
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that platform's controlling you.
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And I was like, I have to take the power back.
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- [Matt] Jason's post piqued my interest but I couldn't help
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but think that he was making a huge mistake.
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You see, Jason like myself, runs his business online
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and relies on social media to keep that engine running.
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I looked at what he was doing and thought,
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oh my god, all your followers, all these people
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that have been waiting to hear from you year after year
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are gonna forget that you existed.
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And I also thought, oh my god, you're also gonna miss out
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on all these inspiration and value and connections
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that you get through social media.
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My reaction was similar to the first time
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I heard about minimalism.
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That's great for him but I would never be able to do it
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because of, fill in the blank.
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The excuses and rationalizations worked for a bit.
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It would put my life's work in jeopardy, I told myself.
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I'd stop making money.
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I'd digitally fall off the face of the earth.
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But then Jason quit social media, came back and well,
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the world kept turning and his business was fine.
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As it turns out, he's been doing it for years.
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Twice a year, in fact.
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- It is the most clarity of thought during those times.
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It's like everything re-calibrates for me.
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I get this whole refreshed creativity.
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It's like, I was talking about re-charging those batteries.
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I'm itching to get back to stuff by the end of 30 days
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but I'm also really excited because it's like,
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I've taken control of these platforms.
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And then I can go back and go, yeah, I didn't, it's fine.
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I did, I missed some stuff, I didn't post things
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and guess what, everybody's still here.
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You know, nothing really changed.
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- It's one of those things that's so simple
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yet we often never think about it.
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It's like switching up a gym routine
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that we've grown bored of
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or ending a relationship that's toxic and negative
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or maybe even quitting a job
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that you've been dragging your feet to.
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A lot of times we do things because that's the way
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that they've always been done but the truth is
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that is a horrible reason to do anything.
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So, I begin to think about it some more.
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I mean, really, how bad could it be?
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What could really go wrong by committing to 30 days?
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And come to think of it,
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Instagram had really been stressing me out lately.
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And as much as I enjoy the drama every once in a while,
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Facebook seemed like a complete waste of time.
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And I keep accidentally offending people on Twitter.
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Okay, maybe intentionally.
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I wondered how my days would change without it.
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How much more productive I would become?
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How much more peaceful my mornings and nights would be?
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And then, I did it.
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I quit social media for 30 days and I made a video about it.
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(keyboard typing)
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(mouse clicking)
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There's a sense of clarity that you get
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when you take a step away from the compulsive checking.
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It's really hard to explain.
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It's really impossible to quantify.
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But I can tell you that I simply felt better
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by being away from it (mouse clicking).
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So, I saw a ton of benefits in that 30 day period
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that small window when I did the social media detox.
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But what was most surprising to me were the changes
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that occurred after, that would be the 400 days
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since I went on that detox until today.
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And some of those changes still stick with me to this day.
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To begin with, it was the first 30 day challenge
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I completed on this channel which led me to do
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another 11 in the year that followed.
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As I experimented with everything from cold showers
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to counting calories and quitting coffee,
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that alone was a great take away.
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To feed my curiosity for experimenting with new things
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and pushing myself further out of my comfort zone
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and leaning more into my own self-development
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that had in years but I didn't realize just
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how impactful it would be on how I used social media.
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A lot of times we try experiments and challenges
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and we attempt to build habits only to inevitably fall back
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into our old patterns and routines.
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This is probably the most frustrating thing
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about trying to build a habit
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yet something about quitting social media for 30 days
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just clicked something in my head.
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It woke me up to the problem that social media
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had become in my own life.
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And I realize just how much of a distraction it was,
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how little I needed it and how little I missed it
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once I left.
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And so, there were changes that stuck beyond that 30 days
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that I have continued to uphold since then.
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First, I haven't kept any social media apps
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on my phone consistently.
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Instead, I install them when I wanna use them.
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Sometimes for an hour, sometimes for a day
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and then I delete them.
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These days the only app that I do that with is Instagram.
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Your self-restraint might be a little bit better than mine
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but I personally find that I quickly
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and compulsively default to checking Instagram
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when it's installed on my phone.
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The challenge you'll likely find is that
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once you delete social media from your phone
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you'll immediately replace it with something else.
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Whether it's reddit, the news, a video game,
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another distracting app, it's like whack-a-mole for apps.
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And so, to prevent this from happening,
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the best thing that I found to do
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is to actually increase your distance from your phone.
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Leave your phone in your bedroom.
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Leave it in your car.
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Leave it at home.
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Whatever you do, just don't leave it on you.
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After my social media detox,
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I also decided to stop using Facebook.
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I deleted my public Facebook account
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and only use my private account for Facebook messenger
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which I rarely use at that.
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As much as I love sitting back
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and watching the high school drama unfold,
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it just wasn't worth holding onto.
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My favorite change since I slowed down my time on social,
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I compare myself to others much less often.
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I'm reminded every time I login to Instagram
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just how much that little voice in the back of my head
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starts to talk shit.
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That person's a better filmmaker than you.
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Wow, they're much further along in their career than you.
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And hey, that guy's got bigger biceps than you.
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No matter where you're at in life,
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it's difficult not to have these kind of thoughts.
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And I find that that constant scrolling
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only helped to support them.
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On and on the voice goes.
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Making comparisons and accusations against my worth.
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Yes, there are ways to this voice like through meditation
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but I find that not feeding it to begin with helps the most.
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So, I don't.
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And hey, side note, I think that sometimes
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distractions are actually a good thing.
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Sometimes we have bad days.
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We're frustrated.
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We just wanna go browse Netflix, click on something
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that's gonna allow us to turn our brains off.
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We wanna scroll through social media
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and see what our friends are up to.
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We just want a distraction from a shitty day
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and I think that's completely okay.
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I think what I'm talking about here is more so
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when these problems become so big
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that we start to overlook other areas of our life.
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We're not going to the gym as much.
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We're maybe feeling like we're in a negative spiral
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because we keep comparing ourselves to others.
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Now, that's where I think the changes really need to happen.
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- [Jason] When I come back to it,
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I then get super intentional about how I use it.
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So, then I go, okay, I check Instagram twice a day.
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Cause man, I would love to scroll through Instagram
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all day long, cause it's great!
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It's a curated feed of beautiful things.
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It's really awesome.
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It's really interesting.
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But I don't want it to control my life.
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I want the time that that's taking up
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to be creating things of my own,
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to be exploring, experimenting other things.
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And so, you really do just become intentional.
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You take that break and then you'd come back and you go,
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I don't want that stuff anymore to happen in my life.
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I don't wanna feel like I'm not in control
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of my usage of these things.
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And so, that's why these social media detoxes, man,
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they're just been so helpful for me.
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- Now, here's the part where I throw it back to you.
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What if you quit social media for 30 days.
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Don't worry the world's gonna keep turning
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and we'll be here when you get back.
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Thanks for watching and I'll see you next time.