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6 Minute English, from BBC Learning English [Should we have a bucket list?]
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Hello, this is 6 Minute English from BBC Learning English, I'm Neil.
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And I'm Sam.
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Have you always wanted to learn to dance the tango, do a magic trick, or skydive?
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If so, perhaps you need a bucket list—a list of all the things you want to do before you die.
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That's the topic of our program.
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Bucket lists have been called "the greatest hits of your life"and have helped some people overcome anxiety and fear of following their dreams.
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But they've also been accused of limiting the imagination by encouragingpeople to follow someone else's idea of the perfect life.
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So, what would be on your bucket list, Neil?
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Are you a skydiving kind of person?
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Not really!
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Bungee-jumping maybe—as long as someone checked the elastic rope!
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How about you?
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One thing I've always wanted to do is swim with dolphins.
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Well, you're not alone there, Sam, because swimming with dolphins is one of the most commonly included personal goals on bucket list.
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But which of the following things do you think tops the list?
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That's my quiz question for today.
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Is it a) swimming with dolphins, b) getting a tattoo, or c) seeing the northern lights?
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I'll go for a) swimming with dolphins, one, because it's something I really want to do and two, because I've heard so many stories about how it improves your mental health.
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Well, that was certainly true in the case of blogger Annette White.
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She listed hundreds of things she wanted to accomplish, from learning Spanish to hanging out with penguins in Antarctica, as a way of improving her psychological wellbeing.
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Here she is talking to Claudia Hammond for BBC Radio 4's program, All in the Mind.
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You said that you started all this to try to help you overcome your anxiety and—has it done that?
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It definitely has and I feel that the reason is because that promise to live my bucket list, really continuously pushes the comfort zone, you know, to its limits and beyond it.
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So... every time I can have a chance to step out of my comfort zone, a little piece of that fear of the unknown is removed and replaced with a little piece of empowerment.
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And by continuously doing that, the size of my fear bubble has gotten smaller.
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Annette feels that choosing adventurous goals for her bucket list helps her step outside of her comfort zone.
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The situations where she feels safe and comfortable but where her ability and determination are not really being tested.
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Moving out of her comfort zone has helped Annette replace her feelings of fear with feelings of empowerment.
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The process of becoming stronger and more confident, especially in controlling her life.
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Well, that all sounds pretty good to me but not everyone is convinced that bucket lists can really help people like Annette in the long run.
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Here's clinical psychologist Linda Blair to explain why.
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I'm not really in favour of bucket lists.
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There are a couple of reasons.
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Most of all, you're kind of fooling yourself with a bucket list.
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We fear death, more than I think we fear anything else in our existence, because we can't predict it, and because we don't know what it's like because nobody comes back and tells us.
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And when you create a bucket list—something to do before you kick the bucket—the idea that you're giving yourself is that you can somehow control when and what death is going to be all about.
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We only make sense of our lives at the end of it.
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A bucket list takes you away from the chance to be spontaneous and I think it's so delicious to be able to say: "That's an opportunity, oh, I'll do that!"
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Linda thinks some people use bucket lists as a coping strategy to try to control something uncontrollable—death.
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In this way they are fooling or deceiving themselves, trying to make themselves believe something they know is not really true.
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And by having a checklist of adventures to tick off before they die, people might lose the chance to be spontaneous.
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To act in a natural and impulsive way without planning.
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Linda also uses an unusual expression, which gave "bucket list" its name in the first place.
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A bucket list is all the things you want to do before you "kick the bucket"—an informal way of saying, 'die'.
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'Kick the bucket' is an old English expression that was even used by Shakespeare.
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It refers to kicking the bucket away from under the feet of a hanging man, leaving him to drop to his death.
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Well, anyway, I hope I don't kick the bucket before I've had a chance to tell you the correct answer to today's quiz.
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Remember, I asked you which personal goal was most often included in bucket lists?
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I said, a) swimming with dolphins
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But the actual answer was c) seeing the northern lights.
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Well, maybe we could combine the two in a single trip.
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And then get a tattoo!
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That would be spontaneous!
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Today, we've been discussing bucket lists—lists of all the things you want to do before you kick the bucket, an informal way of saying die.
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Bucket lists can be a great way to feel empowered—stronger and more in control of your life, because they take you out of your comfort zone—comfortable situations which are safe but not challenging.
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But others think you're fooling or deceiving yourself—if you think bucket lists can really help you control your life.
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In fact, they might even make you less spontaneous—less able to act in natural, sudden and impulsive ways.
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That's all from us for now.
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Why not go and make some plans for all the things you'd like to achieve in your life?
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And start having adventures before we see you next time here at 6 Minute English from BBC Learning English.
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Bye.
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Goodbye.
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