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The habit of drinking is deeply ingrained in Western culture.
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Being drunk is often seen as a blissful state in which our sorrows are washed away, and
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exchanged for courage and an extraordinary ability to be merry and happy.
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Yes, alcohol loosens the inhibitions, dissolves our fears and makes us forget about our problems
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- at least for a while.
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But it also dampens the senses, reduces our mental capabilities, impairs our motor skills,
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and basically helps us to make fools of ourselves.
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Moreover, drunkenness often leads to violence, and the trap of alcoholism has been destroying
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millions of lives.
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Thus, we might choose the risky joy of drinking, but the overall debilitating effects of doing
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so prevent us from truly immersing ourselves in the precious gift that the universe has
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given to us:
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Life.
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So, instead of escaping the experience of life, in all its rawness, with all its emotional
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highs and lows, its joys and hardships, can't we just enjoy life as it comes, soberly, as
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much as we enjoy the state of drunkenness?
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Or simply put: how can we get drunk on life?
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Now, years ago I heard a Taoist tale about Lao Tzu, meeting up with Confucius and Buddha,
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in a teahouse.
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When they were sitting together at a table, the waiter offered them a special drink called
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'the juice of life'.
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Immediately, Buddha rejected this, saying that birth, death, and life are all suffering
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and that a drink called 'the juice of life' is definitely not worth taking.
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As a matter of fact: his enlightenment meant freedom from the wheel of suffering.
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So why should he masochistically administer the pain that he wanted to escape?
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Confucius, then, said that he couldn't judge the drink before he tasted it.
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He took a sip but didn't like the taste at all.
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“Buddha, you're right!” he said.
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“It's foul, it's bitter, it's miserable, it's not worth drinking.”
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Then, Lao Tzu took the bottle and drank it in one go.
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After that, he got up and started to dance, and dance, dance, while screaming like a madman.
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After a while, he stopped and returned to his seat.
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Buddha and Confucius had become curious and asked: “so, how was it?”
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Lao Tzu answered: “I'm not going to say a word, because there's nothing be said.”
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He explained that Buddha was too quick to judge, and Confucius based his judgment on
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a small sip.
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In theory, they might be right: that life isn't worth the suffering.
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And based on their doctrines, it might be better to avoid certain elements of life in
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order to avoid suffering.
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But in the story, they refuse to experience life.
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And a million words are not enough to describe what it really is to be alive.
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Hence: “there's nothing to be said.”
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And to really judge about life, one has to fully experience it.
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Now, not to discredit Buddha or Confucius and their traditions, which (needless to say)
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contain profound wisdom, the story offers two important messages.
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The first one is 'not to take religions or ideologies too seriously so that they block
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us from experiencing life'.
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When the rules we impose on ourselves are too rigid and inflexible, it's difficult
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to move along with existence which is always in flux.
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As Lao Tzu wrote in the Tao Te Ching, and I quote:
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“Those who are stiff and rigid are the disciples of death.
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Those who are soft and yielding are the disciples of life.”
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End quote.
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The second one is that to experience life 'we should drink it at once and just...
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dance'.
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We're likely inclined to dance after drinking a lot of alcoholic beverages.
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Without a doubt, drunkenness by substances is an experience that many people regard as
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a joie de vivre.
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But, paradoxically, the basis for this joy lies in closing ourselves off from life.
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Perhaps as much, or even more, as those rigid individuals that are clenched to their spiritual pursuit.
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What's to experience when our senses are numb?
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Enjoying life more, by experiencing it less, is nothing more than an escape.
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It means that we cannot handle our fears or our emotions in general.
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When we're sad, we drink.
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When we're happy, we drink.
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When we're anxious, we drink.
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So, this kind of drunkenness is a rejection of life by an embrace of a mind-altering substance.
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Now, getting drunk on life is a pursuit in the opposite direction.
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Rather than blocking what overwhelms us, we embrace the full spectrum.
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See, when people drink they often seek to embark on a proverbial rollercoaster ride,
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without fear.
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They want adventure, they want joyful interactions, they want to encounter someone attractive.
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And by reducing fear, they often experience that it's indeed easier to make these things happen.
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Even though fear is uncomfortable, it doesn't mean that it's bad.
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It means that the body's fight-or-flight response is triggered.
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So, it's a side-effect of entering unknown territory, which passes when we experience
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a sense of safety.
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It's a price we pay for getting out of our comfort zone.
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But the reward is priceless: it's this lucid involvement with elements of life that are
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new us; it's the elation of overcoming boundaries and fears.
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Didn't Danish philosopher Kierkegaard once say that anxiety is the dizziness of freedom?
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Being drunk on life means that we are able to fully and consciously enjoy what life,
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in all its ordinariness, has to offer.
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And the fact that we seek substances or activities to numb ourselves is already proof that the
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experience of life is very intense.
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Sometimes, it seems too intense to handle.
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And that's where we find the key to getting drunk on life: by riding the waves, no matter
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how big, while rejoicing when the sea is calm.
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By not clinging to its highs or lows, but not to its flatness either.
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It's the deep sadness, and grief when we're dumped, the tears of joy when we meet with
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a loved one we haven't seen for a long time.
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But it's also the shivers when we do something we fear, the delight of spending time in nature,
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the contentment of not needing anything more, and the flourishing by the pursuit of virtue
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like a Stoic.
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It's not rigidly standing on the sidelines of our experience, but establishing ourselves
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in the present, without the denial of what's already there.
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Thus, we replace our resistance to these inevitable parts of life, by a welcoming curiosity to them.
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So, how do we get drunk on life?
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Well, by drinking it.
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And the paradox is that we can only enjoy life fully when we don't numb the senses
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as we do when we get drunk.
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Life itself is already drunk enough.
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The only thing we have to do is 'open up to it', without resistance and without attaching
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ourselves too much to our judgments of right and wrong, and transcend the ideas of what
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we should and shouldn't.
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Life is simply what is.
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It's an endless show, that we all have a part in.
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At the end of the day, it doesn't always have to be enjoyed, nor does it always have
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to be suffered.
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It simply has to be lived.
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Thank you for watching.