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  • Hi guys after having edited most of the video I realized that I have a tendency to speak very seriously

  • That's just kind of how I talk when I talk about things that are important to me

  • But the idea behind this piece was to make meditation seem more approachable and not so scary or impossible

  • So just take this as a fellow amateur sharing what he has discovered so far. I

  • I thought I would sit down and share some thoughts on my experiences with meditation over the last year and what I've learned

  • making this because I think

  • Meditation is the single habit that has most improved the quality of my life

  • It has done so in kind of an invisible way

  • And so I thought I would share some

  • Resources and some advice to help make this habit stick in the long term because I know it can be really hard

  • I'm also making this because there are so many misconceptions

  • Misconceptions that I've had and it's really unfortunate

  • I think a lot of people are looking for quick solutions and by people I really mean myself

  • Give me something that will fix what I'm feeling right now

  • I think you've all know a Harare said it brilliantly one of the biggest dangers and meditation is the pursuit of special experiences

  • I've come to see meditation as a way of getting to know my own mind of

  • Observing what's going on inside? I haven't meditated every single day over the last year

  • But I have been by far the most consistent with it that I've ever been I'd say probably close to

  • Or maybe a little bit over 300 times

  • Over the last year if I had to guess I know this might not seem like a huge accomplishment

  • But I'm really happy with myself for continually coming back to it

  • working at it putting the effort in and

  • Incorporating it into my life. I've always been a fidgety and anxious child

  • In some ways I still am

  • And so this was no small endeavour

  • Let's first get some context here

  • Why start meditating regurarly, right?

  • Last summer, I finished a huge project that had consumed my life for like six months

  • Once it came to a close I was once again finding myself asking the question

  • What do I want to do with my life, you know the angst the existential crisis?

  • Typical millennial I think I was looking for solutions. Maybe not so much to my immediate questions but to my

  • general approach I was really tired of making rash decisions

  • You know being so reactive to everything. I was looking for ways to find more clarity, you know, preferably internally

  • So I started experimenting with stuff and that's how I've been living for the last year

  • meditation was one of the first places that I started but it's something that I always put off and was extremely inconsistent with like

  • One or two times a year maximum practically nothing so I thought all right

  • I'll start simple, you know

  • No pressure or a little pressure just enough to push myself to just try and do it on a regular basis

  • That seems to be the best way to build new habits

  • I got the app headspace and I loved it not sponsored by them

  • It definitely has its limitations, but it was an amazing place to start and like I said

  • I started small, so

  • Five minutes or even three minutes at a time sometimes in the morning sometimes at night

  • Pretty simple a little bit disorganized but more than anything. I think I was familiarizing myself with this feeling of closing my eyes and

  • entering this internal foreign world

  • You build up streaks in the app, but I don't really give a shit about that I would miss days

  • There was no guilt or anything. Like I said low expectations

  • I did not become a pro overnight and I was fully aware of that. Actually. This is worth addressing right now

  • even a year on I totally consider myself an amateur still and

  • I might feel like this for the rest of my life who knows just being fully honest here meditation is still really hard

  • But just like anything else the relationship kind of changes and easier isn't the right word

  • It's more like it has become more approachable and I have seen time and again the value that it adds to my life

  • So again some days I would meditate twice some days

  • I would miss out completely and then at the beginning of this year as many of you have seen I

  • Charged myself to try meditating for a full hour a day for an entire week

  • I kind of threw myself off the deep end with that and it was super difficult, but it also

  • Kind of turbocharged the whole thing for me this challenge made

  • meditation a kind of experiment on myself really and

  • After this experience during and after this experience, I came to see meditation, you know in a different light

  • I was starting to consider it a lot more seriously

  • I don't think I actually recommend doing things this way

  • And to suddenly increase the amount of time meditating in such a like a such a short period of time

  • But it was eye-opening and I remember mentioning at one point in the video that it felt like there was a whole universe to explore

  • In my mind, it's it's exciting because it's like a reminder that there's so much more to life

  • It's not just the superficial games that we all play

  • 99% of the time it made me realize that 30 minutes

  • Once you build up the muscle is not that long

  • Getting to know yourself is a priority then you make the time for it

  • Like I said in the beginning of this piece the biggest benefits feel almost invisible

  • Spending time quietly by myself following my breath observing my thoughts

  • Feeling different parts of my body

  • Listening to the sounds around me

  • Brings a sense of clarity that I don't think you can get any other way

  • I honestly think that it has helped me build up a little more patience for when things go to hell and

  • A little bit more compassion. It is an amazing tool on catching yourself on your own bullshit and

  • Realizing that like 95% of what I'm freaking out about right now. It has been invented in my own mind

  • It's a way to walk closer

  • You know in the direction of many of my fears instead of running away from them and confront them

  • That's not to say that it doesn't suck sometimes. I mean, I would say that I still spend more than 90% of the time

  • Following random trails of thoughts and being scattered getting pulled this way in that way

  • You know, I'll be just being all over the place, but it's part of the process. It's not good or bad

  • There is no good or bad

  • So let's talk a little bit about how to build this habit so that you can keep in the long-term first

  • I'm just gonna speak for myself here

  • I think the best meditations happen early in the morning before engaging too much with the world and getting sucked into things

  • Meditating when you're sleep-deprived makes it so much more difficult to stay awake, especially when you're not used to it

  • So I always recommend sleeping enough if you needed yet another reason to get the proper amount of sleep. There you go

  • I really believe you should give meditation the time that it deserves

  • So if that means scheduling it in then do that

  • I mean even just five minutes or three minutes, like I said is a great starting place

  • It always helps me to remind myself of two things. Why am I doing this in the first place and how it has

  • positively impacted me in the past. And when I remember these two things, it's like there's absolutely no reason not to do it

  • I realize or I remember if you will then

  • It's like the more or less the best time I spent all day posture is super important

  • I've had very poor posture in the past and even just being mindful about it

  • And making a little bit of an effort can have a positive impact. There are plenty of great tutorials out there

  • I don't feel qualified enough to give that kind of advice

  • but I will say that I find having some sort of back support helps a ton

  • Do not get frustrated with yourself. Every time you catch yourself going down some long winded trail of thoughts. Just bring the focus back

  • Ten a hundred a thousand ten thousand times if nothing else

  • this is a practice in patience and focus and

  • compassion with yourself in

  • presence

  • I'm anticipating questions about this

  • So basically right now where I'm at is I'm meditating five or six times a week on average

  • For like 20 or 30 minutes sometimes more but I do still occasionally miss days

  • And the way I like to do it now is I sit down and try and journal

  • Often I'll like write down some things that I'm grateful for

  • And that kind of gets me in the right place to sit down and meditate

  • Reading about meditation or listening if it's an audio book has helped tremendously and having a lot more

  • Context about everything Sam Harris is incredible. He wrote a book called waking up that I very much enjoyed

  • He's very articulate and he brings kind of a Western perspective on things

  • I would also very much recommend reading the writings of Thich Nhat Hanh for me

  • He has more of an Eastern perspective, but I'm making very large crude

  • Generalizations I've mentioned him before he's a Vietnamese monk and he's been very prolific as a writer

  • I'm currently reading this one, which is in Italian

  • "Ogni istante è un dono" this book and the other stuff that I've read that he has written is so eloquently written

  • So simple to understand so even if you feel like you're such a beginner in this whole world

  • It's his words make sense. In English the title is "Inside the Now: Meditations on Time". So I'll link to this too

  • and for the record this book isn't necessarily like

  • how-to on how to meditate it's more like food for thought and

  • Context again for why you're meditating. You know, what's the point? What is this search for and I would add that

  • It's great to go in to things with as few expectations as possible. Let the experience surprised you or not

  • I mean, this is reality

  • I see life as a process of peeling back the layers

  • You know always digging deeper and going towards the core of things

  • I do think the world would be a better place if more of us meditated regularly, and that's why I made this

  • I hope it helped shine a light on things. If you do have questions, feel free to ask them in the comments

  • I'm no expert on this not even close

  • That's okay. I'm already really happy with the depth that this has added to my life

  • And I'm curious to see what its gonna take me. Thank you for watching

  • There are a variety of ways to stay involved with things you can subscribe

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  • I appreciate all the support and I'll see you soon

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    Nina Chen posted on 2020/03/29
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