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Hi. My name is Rebecca, and this lesson may change your life. It may also change the life
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of the people who are closest to you in your personal and in your professional life. Why
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am I saying that? Because in today's lesson, I'm going to teach you some simple, yet powerful
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phrases and expressions that you can use to help stay positive as well as to encourage
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other people around you, okay? Now, we all want to be loved and appreciated
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and admired and respected. And sometimes it just the takes a few simple words in order
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to achieve that. By doing that, we can improve our relationships with other people; we can
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increase our confidence and the confidence of people around us; and we can also change
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attitudes for the best -- for the better, okay? So let's look at some of these expressions.
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And by trying to include them in your daily life, I think you'll see that there will be
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quite a change in the relationships that you share with people at work and also at home,
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okay? So let's look at some of these expressions. Okay. So if you want to instill confidence
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in someone, these are some things you can say. Now, the words here are not difficult.
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But as I said, sometimes the simplest things are emotionally hard to say. So what you might
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want to do, especially if you're alone, is after I say the sentence, try to repeat it
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after me. If you've said something once, it becomes easier to say it again. And then,
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in the right situation, you may find that the words come to you more easily, okay? So
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here we go. "I know you can do it." Okay? Repeat after
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me if you like. "I know you can do it." Okay? We say that when someone isn't very
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sure; he's feeling a little bit afraid or nervous or scared, maybe before an exam. "I
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know you can do it." You're showing that you have confidence in them.
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Something similar to that, "I have confidence in your abilities." Okay? That's a little
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bit more formal. Perhaps you want to use that at work with one of your colleagues, with
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someone who you are a supervisor for, right? So -- one of your employees -- "I have confidence
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in your abilities." Parents can also use that, okay?
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Another one, "I have faith in you." Would you like to repeat it? "I have faith in you."
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"I have faith in you" means "I believe you can do it; I know you can do it; I trust you
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can do it; I believe you have the ability to succeed in whatever it is that we're talking
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about." Okay? "I have faith in you." Next one, "I believe in you." Okay? Now, this
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one is actually very powerful. "I believe in you", first of all, is different from saying,
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"I believe you." That little preposition changes the meaning. If we say to someone, "I believe
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you", it means that I think that what you're saying is true. Let's say somebody else has
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another story, you have this story, and I believe your story. "I believe you. I trust
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that what you're saying is true and honest and correct." That is, "I believe you." Okay?
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But when we add this little preposition "in", and we say to someone, "I believe in you",
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it means, "I believe in your potential as a person, your potential as a human being,
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to achieve something or to do great thing." So it's actually a very powerful thing to
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say to someone, okay? Now, if the person that you're trying to instill
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confidence in is yourself, you can also use these on yourself, okay? You can say, "I know
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I can do it, or I have confidence in my abilities, or I have faith in myself, or I believe in
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myself." Okay? Sometimes we have to do a little bit of self-talk to make ourselves -- to give
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ourselves the strength to do something or to face a challenge, okay? All right.
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Now, if you want to show your appreciation of someone, you could use some of these simple,
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yet powerful phrases, okay? "I trust you." Okay? Again, three simple words, but really
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powerful. "I trust you." When you say to someone, "I trust you", you're saying to them that,
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"I believe that you are honest, that you are loyal", okay? "I trust you."
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Next one, "I respect you." Very powerful. When you say, "I respect you" to someone,
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you're saying, "I have an appreciation for your value, your behavior, the choices you
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make in your life." Okay? Next one, "I admire you." Okay? When you say
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to someone, "I admire you", it means that you believe they have a lot of strength or
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strengths that you admire -- the things they have achieved in their life, and how they
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have achieved them, or that they face difficulties in a very confident way, all right? Without
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giving up. So you say, "I admire you." All right?
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And of course, the last one is perhaps the most powerful of all, which we can't use in
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every context, but we can use it in more contexts than you might think. Of course, you can say
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to someone, "I love you." Okay? You can say that to a spouse or a partner, all right?
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You could also use it in a family context, right? Parents can say to their children,
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"I love you. You're so beautiful. You're wonderful." Right? You can use it between brothers and
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sisters. You can also use it with friends, "I love you." Sometimes the tone of voice
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changes between when it's a romantic "I love you" or when it's a fraternal or friendly
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"I love you". But it's also very powerful. Somebody feels very encompassed and very accepted
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when we say that, okay? All right. Now, the last little clue, to make any of
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these sentences which I've explained here more powerful, try to use the person's name
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after that. So imagine if someone says to you -- and your name is John -- "I know you
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can do it, John." Okay? So if you just add the person's name after that or before that
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-- sometimes after it is good because then, they've heard what you have to say. "I have
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faith in you, Mary." "I believe in you, Maria." Okay? Why do we -- why does that make it more
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powerful? Because everybody loves the sound of their own name. So when you use these phrases
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and expressions with the person's name, it will make it even more personalized and even
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more effective. Okay? So this is a special kind of lesson to help
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you learn of simple words. But simple phrases can sometimes go a long way. Okay?
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If you'd like to do a quiz on this to practice this, go to our website at www.engvid.com.
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And good luck with your English. Bye, for now.