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Two words.
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These two words can change your mood,
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they can change your mind,
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they can change your heart.
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I'm gonna make the case today,
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that these two words can change lives and change the world,
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if we understand them and we leverage them in the right way.
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This is not an ego thing. This is a DNA thing.
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We were created for significance.
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And one of the most dangerous things that can happen to us
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as individuals, as organizations, as a community,
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is the feeling that we don't matter.
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On Tuesday of this week, I was 14 hours with these significant people.
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I was stranded at the airport in Milwaukee,
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and we weren't feeling very significant that day.
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The looks on our face, were just craziness, because we had spent
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14 hours, not knowing if we were going to get home,
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there was a huge storm, there were no cars, there were no hotel rooms,
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there was something that this world series - kind of thing -
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going on in the world, something unimportant and insignificant
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and we were desperate.
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Not simply desperate to get home, which we were,
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but desperate for a human being to look us in the eye,
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and say to us, "You matter."
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I see you as a human being.
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Think about the last time you heard those words, as a human being,
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"You matter."
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"You were indispensable."
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"You were a genius."
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"I couldn't have done it without you."
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"I couldn't have made it without you. "
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"I'll do whatever it takes, because you are that important."
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Those are life changing words, and for us,
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those were the words we were hanging on.
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We were desperate. It was nearly midnight.
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We were going to have to sleep on the floor of the airport,
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until we met Annie.
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And Annie finally looked us in the eye
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and saw a single mom with two kids,
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and she saw a family of five with a baby that hadn't eaten for hours,
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and she saw two college students,
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and a honeymoon couple and she saw me,
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desperate to get to home, to get here.
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And she said, "I see you. I'll do whatever it takes."
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Now, she couldn't work the world,
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she couldn't stop the rain from coming,
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and she couldn't make a hotel room appear,
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but she noticed us and she said we are going to help you.
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And after she got everyone settled, I found Annie
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right before she was gonna leave,
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and I grabbed her and I said, "Annie,
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thank you so much for making us feel significant.
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You noticed we were in the incumbent area of the airport,
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I don't know what that is, but it's not a good place to be.
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It's not where significant cargo goes."
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And she started crying,
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and I'm like we are all crying because we hadn't slept or eaten --
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I said, "I wanna call your supervisor.
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I want to write in and I want to do something,
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I want to tell them what you did today really mattered to us."
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And she said, "It's not gonna matter.
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I am the supervisor. Nobody cares what I do."
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In fact, she said, "I don't know the last time that
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I've heard someone say they cared about what I did."
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She said, "I actually want to thank you."
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And I walked away and I got home
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and I got settled in and I could't get Annie out of my mind.
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I can't put her picture in because
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apparently that's against TSA regulations,
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I tried to. (Laughter)
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She's like, "No, no , I'll get fired."
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So just imagine Annie because
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Annie is every single person in this room.
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Annie is the person at your work.
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Annie is the person in your neighborhood.
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Annie could be you,
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sitting there wondering, working and living and learning
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in a place where they do not feel significant,
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where they do not feel like "No matter what I do,
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no matter how hard I work,
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no matter what I accomplish,
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is there anybody in the world that is going to notice me
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and is going to care that I got up and I showed up today?"
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That is a tragedy.
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Because we, as human beings,
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have the power to change that.
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It is an incredible, significant power that we choose
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not to act upon in the busyness of our lives.
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We forget these two simple words
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and omit them from our conversation and from our priority.
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I want us to change that.
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Because people that matter
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know that when they are noticed,
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when they are valued, and they are depended on.
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Those are three lessons that have been the foundation
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of my work as an educator for 22 years.
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No student ever would leave my classroom
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I would not be doing my job,
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if they didn't know they were noticed.
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If they didn't understand why they were such a value
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to my classroom and to other students and
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that I could trust and depend on them.
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These are not lessons that are just simply reserved for the classroom.
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These are lessons that every single one of us must take
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and have the opportunity and obligation
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to take into your classroom,
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your boardroom or your community, your neighborhood.
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I'm going to show you what those look like
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and sound like as you navigate through the world.
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As a writer, noticing is a big part of my job,
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so I never go anywhere without my writer's notebook
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I'm constantly writing.
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I spend a lot of time in weird places, like airports,
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and I'm writing all the stories the people I meet,
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the incredible lessons I get just by waking up in the morning.
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I keep track of them and I fill notebook after notebook after notebook.
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I got the chance to be in a school,
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it was an outside school from kindergarten
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through eighth grade and of course I had my notebook
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and it didn't take the students very long to notice
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after every classroom that I was walking through,
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they were like coming up to me.
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"What did you write in notebook today?"
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"What did you write in notebook today?"
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I said, "Oh, I witnessed a genius.
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I absolutely witnessed something indispensable to your learning.
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So I would write it down."
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And they are like "Really?", and then I put names in it.
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"Oh my gosh, I know that person."
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And then the next day, I got to be there for two weeks,
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so the next day they come up and
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they start handing me post-it notes.
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"Here, while I was out, I noticed you might want to put this in your notebook."
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And I thought "wow" and after a couple of days I thought,
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"Well, this is silly, I got this gold in my notebook."
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I asked the superintendent if I could spend the first two minutes
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going into every grade level,
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in every classroom just for two minutes today.
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Just give me two minutes a day.
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And all I'm going to do is go and read my notebook
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with the morning messages.
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"Today boys and girls, this is what your assignment is,
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oh by the way, I have to tell you what I noticed yesterday.
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Alicia did something amazing.
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When I saw her working on her writing dada dada da --
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"Oh my gosh, you guys, you would not believe this.
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I noticed a third grader doing this yesterday --"
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And I might be saying that to a seventh grade classroom.
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Three days, kids were carrying notebooks.
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They were writing down things,
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they were meeting me,
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they were helping each other.
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I could not believe the power of noticing
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and sharing what you noticed.
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So I was just about to get on the plane,
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again in the airport, to leave,
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and a fourth grade class,
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had an emergency message over the intercom
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they are like, "Mrs Maiers, Mrs Maiers,
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I need you to come down to the fourth grade classroom."
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I'm like, "What did I forget in there."
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They sat me down in a chair, very serious looking.
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and they are like, "You have a problem."
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I'm like "I know this." (Laughter)
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"You have a problem."
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They are like, "Your notebook is almost full
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and you are losing stuff all over, you are a mess."
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So they went together and they bought me this.
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A new journal.
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And what is powerful about this is
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that they gave me every number imaginable
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because in case I needed a break,
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because noticing is a lot of work,
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they are gonna take over for me and they each have a notebook
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and they send me and there's a little "Ask Angela" button on my blog
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and they blogged me "This is what I noticed."
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And they are my noticing ambassadors.
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So, "Here's my mom's number," "Here's my cellphone number, "
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"Here's my emergency phone number,"
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"Just in case you see something
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or we see something while we are out and about.
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It has to go into your notebook."
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Because they know I'm going to write about it, talk about it.
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Phenomenal.
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What if you carried a notebook?
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What if you made it a point to go back to
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your place of work or to your neighborhood
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or at the grocery store today
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and you make note of what you noticed.
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How indispensable it was.
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How genius it was.
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How significant it was.
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It changes people.
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And what I found at the school,
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it changes a culture, by just simply noticing,
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30 seconds a day.
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Kids aren't the only ones
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who struggle and who strive to be noticed.
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Big people, spend a lot of time trying to get noticed as well.
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This is a real time counter on the web.
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Just look at it for five seconds.
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Five seconds, in real time of the world, right now,
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here as we speak, what are they trying to do?
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They are trying to be noticed.
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The web is not a data stream.
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The web is a life stream,
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and the significance of our life is dependant on
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how other people see us.
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We have a chance to tell people:
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"I'm so glad you got up this morning. I noticed you."
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It changes everything.
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My second lesson.
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Noticing something that is significant is important
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but being able to articulate --
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and that's the power of the notebook --
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Being able to articulate to someone exactly what you noticed
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and why that quality was indispensable
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or why that attribute was significant.
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That's what really comes down deep.
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The need to know you are a value,
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is about as deep as they come.
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So, I thought, "Well, I'm going to take this a step further.
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I'm going to see what would happen if I added a sentence."
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Not just "Oh, I noticed you Mike" but
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"Mike, I noticed and here's what I noticed.
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Everytime I see you, you make me smarter."
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Because I know Mike, so I can say this.
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"Because you ask the best questions.
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You are one of the most curious human beings
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and I prepare myself with a good question, everytime I see your face.
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That is significant, in your life but it makes me smarter."
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If I help them understand that their contribution is
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what the world needs and what I need at that moment.
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So I started beginning my lessons with this statement
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that I borrowed from Seth Godin.
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This is from his book, "Linchpin"
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and I wanted to see what effect it would have
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and I could see just how much the words I noticed meant.
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But what if I started the day, every lesson,
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every audience, every speech that I give this is the first slide.
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"You are a genius
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and the world needs your contribution."
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Blank.
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And I tell them what their contribution is.
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This is not just a compliment. This is a call to action.
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Because guess what Mike?
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I just raised the bar,
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so if Mike comes to me and he doesn't have some
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brilliant question on his mind, he's gonna step it up.